My name is Li Fang, I am 38 years old, and I am a full-time housewife in the suburbs. My husband's name is Zhang Li, he works as a sales manager in a foreign company, and we have a son and a daughter, the son is named Zhang Xiaoming, who is 10 years old this year, and the daughter is Zhang Xiaoqing, who is 7 years old this year. Our family of four lives happily ever after.
One day, I had the idea to join the newly formed "Mom Walking Group" in our community and go out on a trip with other housewives to experience a different life. My husband also supported me to participate, but I didn't expect this decision to change the lives of our whole family.
My husband said to me, "It's good if you go to join the riot group, you can be lively and happy." It's just that you have to pay attention to proportion, and you still have to take care of your family and children. ”
A few days ago, my son complained: "Mom, why do you always go out to play, you don't take care of us anymore, and no one cooks food for us." ”
The daughter also said: "Yes, Mom, you are not at home, and I don't know who will wash Dad's clothes, and my brother and I can't find the clothes." ”
I suddenly realized that I had really neglected the housework, and said to the children: "Mom is wrong, I have been at home with you for the past few days, and I will do housework seriously." ”
As the head of the family, my husband was very unhappy with my participation in the mob group. I was not at home, so he had to work and take care of the children and handle household chores, which was very hard. Gradually, he became tired and his temper became irritable, and he often lost his temper at me.
The other day, my husband had an outburst at me: "Am I not tired of you messing around with your friends all day and leaving me all the things at home?"The kids don't care about their homework or cook, so you're happy with me anyway, aren't you?”
I was ashamed and explained, "I'm sorry, I was wrong, I should balance my time, and I can't just leave my home because I play." I'll correct it, don't work too hard lately, spend more time with your children. ”
When I don't take care of them at home, the children play games on their phones and don't take Xi seriously. Zhang Xiaoming's grades declined significantly, and Zhang Xiaoqing was disobedient anymore and often quarreled with her classmates. I began to realize that my choice had hurt my family.
A few days ago, the children's teachers called and said that their attitude towards learning Xi had deteriorated and their grades had dropped, and I blamed myself very much. Since then, I have tried to stay at home and help them with their Xi homework, and their attitude has gradually improved, and the children have become much happier.
One day, my husband was going on a business trip, and I was still immersed in the party plan with the gangsters. My husband said to me, "You just want to be happy, and you don't care about your family and children!""We had a big fight, and he was so angry that he ran away with his suitcase.
I went to his office to apologize to him and was told that he had taken a week off. The blow was too big for me, and I realized that I was doing something wrong, thinking only about myself and completely ignoring my family.
When my husband left the house, I felt guilty and blamed myself. How could I be so selfish, putting my little pleasures above my family, and end up self-defeating and breaking the hearts of my husband and children. I wept bitterly and regretted it.
I'm sorry, I was wrong, I shouldn't just think about being happy and completely ignore your feelings and those of your children. I really know wrong, can you give me a chance to start over?I kept calling my husband's cell phone, trying to apologize to him, but he didn't answer any of them.
I stopped all the activities of the gang, took the initiative to take care of the housework, and also helped the children with make-up classes. But they have become much colder to me, and they have lost their intimacy. I realized that it was their hearts that were missed, and now I have to slowly regain them.
Mom will always be at home with you in the future, I will make you food, and I will also help you learn Chinese and English, and we will slowly rebuild our relationship, okay?I said to the children, and they nodded but didn't speak.
I called ** to look for my husband, and I also went to his friend's house to look for him, but I didn't know where he was. My heart was like a knife, and I was worried that something would happen to him. These days I have been restless, thinking about him and the child, regretting my selfishness.
Just when I was in complete despair, my husband suddenly came back one morning. I felt like I had seen a savior, hugged him excitedly and cried bitterly, saying I'm sorry. He also hugged me and said, "Actually, I am also at fault, and I shouldn't have run away from home without saying hello." ”
It turned out that he took a week off and drove out to relax. In the past few days, he has also been reflecting on his recent neglect of his family and his dedication to work, which has led to a lack of communication. So he decided to come back and give me a chance to explain.
I excitedly said, "It's great that you're back!".I regret it so much, you gave me a chance to start over, and I will definitely cherish my family. ”
The husband nodded and said, "I believe you will correct it, as long as we understand each other and work together, we will definitely be able to save this family." ”
When my husband returned, we sat down and made a long story short. I explained my thoughts to him sincerely, and he listened calmly. We decided to resolve our differences and work together to solve the problem.
I said, "I'm going to pay attention to your feelings, care more about your thoughts, and don't just think about myself anymore." ”
The husband said, "I am too you, you have your own ideas, we should understand each other." ”
For the sake of family unity, we discussed with our children to formulate family rules, and everyone expressed their support. The child also forgave us, which gave me hope.
The daughter said: "As long as Mom and Dad don't quarrel, we will be obedient and learn Xi well." ”
The son said, "I support your ideas!".Our family is going to be together forever!”
After this incident, our relationship has become even better. My husband doesn't always work anymore and I learn to take care of the family. Life is getting back on track, and we're all relieved.