Title Middle-aged Alert, Parents' Pension is Directly Related to Family Happiness!
I noticed that my colleague Xiao Wang, he and his wife only had a total income of 13,000 yuan, which was more than 4,000 less than ours.
However, I found that the quality of life of their family was much higher than ours.
As soon as Xiao Wang has a holiday, he will organize a family outing, go to the surrounding attractions or go out of the province to have a round.
Usually, as long as he is free, he will also take his wife and children to eat at high-end restaurants or go to the movies.
He gives people the feeling that life is more nourishing and does not have too many financial worries.
It's a different story on my side, where I have to think about cutting back on my expenses during holidays because I don't feel like I have that much income.
I often try to save more money for fear that one day there will be some unexpected expenses at home.
Last month was ** week, and I originally planned to take my wife and children to the beach for a few days.
Who knew that a check of the air ticket and hotel would add up to more than 10,000 yuan, and this price was a bit unbearable for me.
After discussing with my wife, I finally decided to downsize and just find a random spot in the local area, and the cost will not exceed 1,000 yuan.
On the other hand, Xiao Wang's family, they took a luxury cruise ship across the sea directly this time, and the family of five played for a whole week.
When I first heard the news, I thought Xiao Wang was crazy, how much does it cost!Later, I learned that Xiao Wang's parents were behind this trip, so he could have so much fun.
I looked at Xiao Wang's cruise scenery and vacation photos, and although I was envious, I was helpless.
My parents have been retired for many years and have limited income, so they can't afford to support my family's trip.
So every holiday, I have to keep a certain distance from Xiao Wang, otherwise I will definitely be psychologically unbalanced.
I found that Xiao Wang's parents' pension is very high, Xiao Wang's father used to be a middle-level manager, and he can get a pension of 12,000 yuan a month after retirement, while his mother also has an income of more than 8,000 yuan after retirement.
In other words, Xiao Wang's parents add up to a pension of 20,000 yuan per month, which is really considerable.
My parents have been retired for many years, and they only live on a basic pension, each of them is only more than 1,200 yuan per month, and the sum of the two is only 2,600 yuan.
Compared with the 20,000 yuan of Xiao Wang's parents, this is a world of difference.
The moment I heard the pension figures of Xiao Wang's parents, my heart was envious and sour.
Xiao Wang has two children, one in primary school and the other in junior high school.
I found that almost all of his children's usual living expenses and Xi expenses were borne by Xiao Wang's parents.
Xiao Wang's parents will give their two grandchildren living expenses every month, buy clothes, and sign up for various interest classes.
Even the cost of the child's usual meals is covered by Xiao Wang's parents, so Xiao Wang himself does not need to spend money on the child at all.
And I'm different, I'm just a child, and now I'm in college, and I can afford the usual living expenses.
However, the child's tuition and accommodation fees cost more than 20,000 yuan per year, which is a big expense for me.
I had to find a way to save money for when he needed to pay his tuition fees later.
I remember that when Xiao Wang got married, his wedding room was arranged by Xiao Wang's parents.
First of all, the down payment of the marriage house was made by the old couple, and later the decoration was the responsibility of the father-in-law and mother-in-law, and Xiao Wang basically did not pay for it.
The car was also a gift from my father-in-law and mother-in-law, and I gave a car worth 300,000 yuan at once.
Therefore, when Xiao Wang and his wife first got married, there was basically no financial pressure, and the monthly mortgage was very low.
When I got married, the situation was completely different, my wife and I had saved up our own money to pay for the down payment and renovation of the wedding house, and my parents were powerless to help.
The car was also bought with a loan from my husband and wife.
Now we have to pay up to 7,000 yuan a month for housing and car loans, which is very stressful for us, and it is difficult to save expenses.
I often envy Xiao Wang's sponsored parents, and my financial pressure will be much less.
Seeing the security and superiority of Xiao Wang's family life, I felt a strong sense of jealousy in my heart.
I began to resent why my parents didn't think about the future and didn't leave me with a pension.
If they had a pension, my life would be much less stressful now.
I often ask my parents, why didn't you save more and buy some insurance for the future when you were workingYou are too irresponsible, now your own life is a problem, and you still want me to support you, my life is so poor, it's all your fault!My indignation swelled so much that my whole person was in a state of resentment.
I know it's not reasonable, and maybe I shouldn't resent my parents, many of whom didn't have a pension in their day.
But seeing Xiao Wang's carefree life, I can't help but feel unbalanced in my heart.
Faced with this situation, I was very conflicted.
On the one hand, I knew that I shouldn't resent my parents, many of them didn't have pensions in those days, and I shouldn't find fault with them, and I should work hard to improve my life on my own.
But on the other hand, seeing Xiao Wang's carefree life, I couldn't help but feel jealous and dissatisfied in my heart.
Should I continue to endure and find ways to increase my income and improve my quality of life through my own efforts?Or should I just talk to my parents and express my dissatisfaction so that they should share some of the financial burden for me?I was really struggling and didn't know what to do.
Faced with this family conflict, I felt lost and anxious.
I didn't know how to let go of my jealousy or how to communicate it to my parents.
I also ask netizens to give me advice, how should I face and deal with this matter?Thank you very much for your advice!