I have a happy family, a lovely daughter and a husband to rely on. A few years ago, after some financial success, I decided to repay my mother's love and support over the years by buying her a house of her own.
I chose a spacious and comfortable apartment for my mother and gave her 5,000 yuan a month for living expenses. I hope that my mother can live a comfortable and happy life and no longer worry about her livelihood.
What I didn't expect, however, was the mother's obvious prejudice against my daughter and my little nephew. Whenever my daughter and little nephew visited at the same time, my mother always favored my little nephew. She gave him more love, gifts, and special treatment, while she seemed indifferent to my daughter.
This distinction pained and confusing my husband and I. We tried many times to communicate with my mother in the hope that she would treat her grandchildren fairly, but she always justified her prejudices on various grounds. She thinks her little nephew needs more attention and support, while my daughter doesn't need much help.
In order to better understand my mother's behavior, I began to investigate her family background and upbringing. Through communicating with other relatives, I learned that my mother had experienced similar prejudices and discrimination in her family. She is the second son in the family, while her brother is the eldest son, so she is given more expectations and attention in the family.
This experience had a profound impact on the mother, who felt that the eldest son was more worthy of attention and support, while the other children were less important. She passed on this prejudice to her children, me and my siblings.
I was angry and saddened by my mother's prejudice. I can't tolerate my daughter being neglected and treated differently. My husband and I decided to stand up for our daughter's rights. We told our mother that if she couldn't give us justice, we might reduce our financial support for her.
This decision sparked tensions and conflicts in the family. The mother was angry and dissatisfied, she thought that I should not put pressure on her, after all, I am her child and she has the right to treat our children as she wishes.
In this tense atmosphere, my husband and I decided to seek outside help and support.
We had several meetings with a family counselor and hoped that she would help us resolve the conflicts in the family. The counsellor listened to our story and offered some advice and guidance.
The counselor advised us to try to solve the problem through open communication first. We decided to invite my mother and little nephew to a family gathering to provide an opportunity for everyone to discuss and express their feelings openly.
During the family gathering, I was honest about my feelings and concerns with my mother. I told her that I understood that she might have her own opinions and experiences, but I wanted her to understand and respect my feelings and give my daughter justice.
My mother listened to me, and she began to reflect on her own actions and realized that her biases were hurting our family. She felt guilty and guilty, and expressed a willingness to change her attitude.
Under the guidance of the counselor, my mother and I had a private and in-depth conversation. She apologized to me, admitted her mistakes, and expressed her love and support for my daughter.
Since then, the mother's attitude has gradually changed. She began to give my daughter more attention and care, trying to make up for past prejudices and discrimination. The relationship between her and her little nephew has gradually become balanced and no longer overly favoritistic.
Our whole family also works harder to maintain communication and understanding, and work together to create a fair and harmonious family environment. We held a special family event where all loved ones were invited to show the unity and love of our family.
This experience has taught me that discrimination and prejudice in family relationships are a source of destruction and harm. However, through open communication, understanding, and tolerance, we can rebuild family unity and harmony.
This experience also taught me more about the importance of family values. What we as parents want to pass on to our children is not only material support, but more importantly, equality, respect and love. We should focus on fostering love and equality among children, regardless of their gender, blood relationship or other factors.
I hope that my story will inspire more people to become aware of the dangers of bias and discrimination, and to actively seek solutions. It is only through the power of unity and love that we can truly create a harmonious, equal and happy family.