1. Accept that you are an ordinary person.
Accept that you will make mistakes, accept yourself mediocrity, accept yourself that you can't do some things, people who pursue perfection too much, are afraid of others denying you, don't care about other people's evaluations, have your own firm values in your heart, and be able to know whether you are right or wrong like this, rather than relying on other people's feedback to judge whether you are right or wrong.
2. Accept all your ideas.
Whether it's worry, anxiety, fear, suspicion, anger, greed, jealousy, resentment, it's normal, but these distractions will consume a lot of energy and make us physically and mentally exhausted, just like it's normal to have a car on a highway, it's not normal to have no car, but you can't get stuck in traffic!
3. Don't expect everyone to understand you.
There are not so many empathies in this world, everyone grew up in a different environment and background, the same thing, a thousand people have ten thousand interpretations and understandings, in most cases, there is no need to explain, refute and self-prove, the best way is to write a diary, calm yourself down, and accept the existence of different and even opposing thoughts in this world!
4. People only change themselves.
Don't have expectations for human nature, don't test human nature, and don't think about convincing others, family, friends, colleagues, superiors, learn to give up, stay away from people or things that make you uncomfortable, people can only cross themselves, let others be others, and let yourself be yourself!
5. What you pay attention to is only what you want to pay attention to.
Abandon the glass heart, throw away the desire to talk, quit the sense of dependence, don't care about self-pity, draw the ground as a prison, and fall into self-righteous pathos, those are not real, just a projection of your heart, and what you see is only what you want to see, which in itself is a kind of prejudice, it is something that you have processed according to your own will, not the true original appearance of things, everything is false!