Foreword: Recently, I read a famous quote on the Internet: "Instead of teaching it to be soft, it is better to teach it to be soft, it is better to teach it to be soft." When girls grow up, in addition to being cared for by their parents, they must also develop a "unprovoked" personality in order to cope with various trials and difficulties in the future. Based on real-life cases and personal experiences, this article discusses how parents can be independent and protect their children. On this basis, I will also provide some practical ways for girls to read, and introduce girls' reading experience to everyone, in order to better guide girls to have the ability to be self-reliant and self-reliant.
First of all, I would like to share a case with you. Yuhan is a mother's child, and her grades in Xi are very good, but her personality is too modest and obedient, and she has no opinions about her life. The mother was worried, believing that her daughter should learn how to deal with this complicated society on her own Xi. This case reflects the "doting" of many parents for their children: they only focus on the "well-behaved" of girls, while ignoring their autonomy and self-protection. Such parenting practices can limit the development of a girl's personality and enhance her future happiness and security.
The root cause of this dilemma lies in the traditional expectations of women. In many countries, girls are expected to be gentle, docile and low-key. Such expectations often ignore the character and abilities of the girl. Girls should show themselves to be elegant and gentle, while also having good academic qualifications and professional qualities. Such double standards have a profound impact on the development of the girl child.
First of all, too much emphasis on the obedience and submissiveness of girls is detrimental to the growth of their personality. Girls are encouraged to hide or suppress their true feelings and make sacrifices to meet the expectations around them. This not only hinders the self-knowledge of college students, but also makes them emotionally suppressed, thus affecting their self-esteem.
Second, such parenting practices can undermine the girl's sense of self-defense. Obedient girls often lack the courage and strength to fight when they encounter unfair, insecure, insecure and other problems, and are therefore more vulnerable to bullying or abuse, mainly because they have not learned how to effectively protect their rights Xi how to protect themselves.
So, how should parents develop their children's independence and self-preservation?
First of all, let your child have their own ideas and have their own ideas. Children should be given full consideration to their own ideas and choices, and should be given the opportunity to express their opinions, participate in decisions and solve problems at home and at school. Let your child have the confidence to face all the problems and challenges.
Second, create the right opportunities and challenges for your child. As girls grow older, they will face a variety of difficulties in Xi, socializing and living. Parents should give their children some help appropriately, and at the same time, let their children face various problems on their own. Through these experiences, these girls will develop self-confidence, independence, and self-defence skills.
In addition, it is necessary to strengthen the awareness of their own safety and the training of skills. Teach girls to distinguish between good and evil, understand their rights, and defend their rights. For example, teach girls how to avoid strange threats, how to deal with bullies, how to protect their privacy, and so on. This technique helps girls to effectively assert their rights and rights in the face of insecurity and injustice.
In addition, parents can also choose suitable books or reading materials for their children, so as to improve their self-reliance and self-preservation ability. Here are a few books that girls love::
1."Lucy Larcombe's Lovely Little Princess": It is about a strong and self-reliant young girl who integrates into a new life and meets new challenges.
2."Violet Mallory's Sisters Smith College": tells the adventures of a group of intelligent and self-reliant young girls on campus.
3."Little Princess": This work shows a talented and strong-willed girl who can maintain a positive and friendly spirit in the face of difficult situations.
Through this book, girls can get in touch with many strong and independent female protagonists, and gain strength and courage from them, and also let them learn to be self-reliant and self-preservation.
Parents should inculcate in their children the values of gender equality. Girls are taught to value their rights and independence, so that they realize that they can achieve their dreams just like men. Instead of limiting girls to traditional women, let them chase their passions and hobbies.
In short, proper education for girls to enable them to become independent and self-protective is a major issue for parents. By giving girls the opportunity to express themselves, providing them with challenges and support, improving their self-preservation, and spreading their gender concepts, they can grow into confident and capable women. Let's teach girls to be as soft as lions!