The traditional belief is that blood ties trump everything, and even if the relationship with outsiders is close, it is difficult to compare with the bond of relatives.
However, there are some special cases where a few people break this pattern. For a variety of reasons, they may treat outsiders more than their loved ones, but this choice will come at a cost. These people will pay the price for their choices in the future, because blood relatives seem irreplaceable in some way.
My surname is Li, and I have entered 49 years this year. I have been taking care of my father-in-law for 16 years, during which time I have been married.
It all started sixteen years ago, when my brother-in-law caused trouble for no reason and actually attacked my father-in-law. I offered to let my father-in-law stay at my house for a few days, but, to my surprise, my wife didn't say a word, just cleaned up a room for my father-in-law, let him live in our house, and from that moment on, began this long sixteen years of companionship.
My parents have always had a lot of opinions about my father-in-law's decision to come to my home for the elderly. They laughed and teased me, saying, "Not only did you not be filial to your biological parents, but you spent your mind on your father-in-law, what an interesting son and grandson." ”
However, since my father-in-law was brought back to my house, I realized that I couldn't be indifferent to him. The wife also gave full support to this, after all, he was her biological father, and she was of course willing to take him home. However, my brother-in-law is a troublemaker, often calling his father and asking for money and things. For this reason, the father-in-law simply blocked his **.
Over the years, my father-in-law has become older, but I have become more and more attentive to him. On the other hand, when I look at my attitude towards my father, I can't help but ask myself if something is wrong. My father-in-law coughed once, and I prepared medicine for him for a week, but my father complained of low back pain every day, but I was indifferent. In retrospect, this special consideration I gave to my father-in-law may have been just to maintain the image that was considered filial in the first place. After all, when I took my father-in-law home, my relatives, friends, and neighbors praised me as a good and filial son. In order to maintain this image, I was reluctant to treat my father-in-law at all, even more than I cared about my biological father.
I knew I had a problem, but I couldn't change it. Sometimes, when my father and father-in-law were sick at the same time, I preferred to be cared for by my father-in-law rather than go home to visit my father. This kind of filial piety is actually a hypocritical performance.
Eight years later, my father passed away.
At the moment of my father's death, I fell to my knees and burst into tears. It was then that I deeply felt how much I loved him.
Deeply regretful, I understood that I should not have treated my father like this, and at the same time I felt disgusted with my father-in-law, even though he did not make a mistake.
After I woke up, I cared for my mother even more than I cared for my father-in-law. However, fate does not seem willing to give me a chance to make amends. Less than half a year later, my mother passed away. At the moment of parting, she said to me: "You should take good care of yourself in the future, pay attention to your body, and don't put all the burden on your shoulders." ”
Both parents have passed away, but the father-in-law is still alive. He kept comforting me and telling me not to be too sad. He said that everyone loses both parents, and that this is a normal experience in life and needs to be faced with peace.
The disgust for him grew heavier in my heart, and although I did not show it on my face, my attitude towards him was much colder than before.
I never imagined that my father-in-law would live so long. In the years since my parents died, he is still alive and well.
As for my brother-in-law, life has not been smooth these years. He sold the house left to him by his father and lived alone in a bachelor apartment, with neither a wife nor children. In this way, most of my life passed.
The brother-in-law has entered middle age, and although he is getting older and in poor health, his temper has always been the same, and he is even more presumptuous than before. I paid little attention to him, only my father-in-law would occasionally think of him, call him over, and talk to him for a few words. My wife has a lot of criticism about my brother-in-law, and sometimes even gives him a few hundred yuan to urge him to leave.
Soon after, my father-in-law's health gradually deteriorated, and he was bedridden for a long time. By May of this year, he had suddenly collapsed, shorting of breath and churning in his stomach. We hurriedly took him to the hospital, and the doctor told us that due to old age and frailty, my father-in-law could not hold on, and asked us to be mentally prepared.
The wife was grief-stricken, and the father-in-law was lying on the hospital bed, calling to see his brother-in-law. In desperation, my wife had to call my brother-in-law, and as soon as we arrived at the hospital, my father-in-law kicked all of us out of the ward, leaving only him and my brother-in-law. The two talked for a long time in the hospital room, and we don't know anything about the content.
After the brother-in-law left, he never looked back. During this time, we took care of my father-in-law at the bedside, until one day, my father-in-law suddenly took my wife's hand and said, "Girl, you have to take good care of your brother after I leave, he is the only child in our family." ”
The wife cried and replied: "Dad, don't say it again, I understand this matter, and I will take good care of my brother's life." ”
Eventually, my father-in-law passed away with a satisfied smile.
After my father-in-law died, we informed my brother-in-law and hoped that he would come back soon. So, we took my father-in-law back to my hometown, and three days later everything was arranged, and everything was over.
At the funeral, the brother-in-law did not show up for a long time. I thought he might have disappeared from our lives, and thought maybe it would be better, at least no longer have the burden of caregiving.
However, while sorting out my father-in-law's inheritance, I found a text message on my brother-in-law's mobile phone: "Your bank card was transferred out of 183,423 yuan on xx month. "This was five days ago, two days before my father-in-law died.
I was dizzy for a while, and I didn't have to think about it, this was definitely my brother-in-law's doing. It dawned on me that my son-in-law, who had been taken care of by me for the past 16 years, was finally no match for the biological son who didn't care whether he lived or died. Looking back on this time, I wish I could go back in time, give myself two slaps in the face, and be sorry for my biological parents. If I could do it all over again, I vowed to treat my parents better.
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