Some time ago, I saw such a **:
When a teacher was in class, he found that a boy in the class was wearing a headband on his wrist, which looked very cute, and there was a small flower on it, which looked like a girl would only use.
So the teacher asked the boy:The little rubber band is very beautiful, who gave it to you?
Hearing this, the boy's ears and face instantly turned red, first smiled awkwardly, and then replied with a shy and overwhelmed face, saying that his head rope was picked up at random.
The classmates behind him should have known the truth and laughed out loud. Obviously, this head rope has exposed the truth about the boy's "puppy love" ......
Once children enter adolescence, as parents, we are most worried that they will make bad friends and go astray, and we are especially worried that children will make friends of the opposite sex, and early love will delay learning.
Especially nowadays, children are influenced by film and television dramas, games, advertisements, classmates teaching each other, etc., and the love information they receive is far beyond our imagination, and the phenomenon of early love is becoming more and more common!
Some parents are worried about their children and don't know what their children are thinking, so they look through their children's mobile phones and diaries.
Remind everyone,This kind of behavior is absolutely undesirable!
Once the child is aware of this practice, it may lead to serious rebellion, loss of trust in the parents, and finally the breakdown of the parent-child relationship.
If you want to know whether your child has early love, it is not difficult, an experienced class teacher once said: parents only need to pay more attention to observe the child's living conditions in daily lifeIf the following signs appear, it means that the child may have signs of early love.
Signal One:
Pay attention to the image and appearance. When the child reaches puberty, he will pay too much attention to his image and appearance, and when he comes home, he will always look at himself in the mirror and feel sorry for himself, and his clothing requirements are also improving.
Signal 2:
The child's personality changes. Lively and cheerful,Talkative child,But recently,The whole person has become unusually silent.,When I go home, I always lock myself in my room.,I'm in a daze with the things around me.,And start watching some movies and books that are so literary that you can sour your teeth.。
Signal Three:
Decline in academic performance. During this period, the child has no time to read books and do homework at home, and cannot concentrate on listening to lectures when he is in school, he will always be distracted, unable to concentrate, occasionally hesitate, and sometimes very excited, just like a child.
Signal Four:
Cover up your actions. Frequently answer calls from the opposite sex, chat frequently on WeChat, and giggle while looking at the phone, every time I answer **, I mind that my parents are by my side, always cover up my behavior, and I will go out secretly, and go to parks, KTVs and other places that I rarely go to before!
Signal Five:
Couple's accessories and some delicate little gifts appeared. Couple rings, couple bracelets, couple shoes, or something that makes a statement, such as a boy wearing a girl's headband, etc.
What should I do if my child is in love?
There was such a news before:
The Changchun police once received a report from a citizen.
In a community in Changchun, a girl was punished by her parents for kneeling in the ice and snow for three hours.
The neighbors in the community couldn't stand it anymore, "If it goes on like this, the child will freeze sooner or later, so I will call the police."
It turned out that the girl was now in junior high school, and because her early love was discovered by her parents, she was not allowed to enter the building, and the child was punished to kneel in the ice and snow to reflect.
Can such a rough punishment really make the child stop falling in love?Is it really for the good of the children?
The answer is no, such a method is endless, because adolescent children are mostly more rebellious, delicate and sensitive, and this way is easy to stimulate children.
In August 2019, Xiao Feng, a third-year junior high school girl in Guangzhou, was informed by her mother of her early love, and the two parties had a fierce quarrel, and Xiao Feng ran away from home. That night, Xiao Feng fell from a tall building and unfortunately died.
This tragedy reminds us all:
When parents forcibly prevent children from falling in love, children are not only unwilling to accept it, but may also work against their parents, such as quarrels, running away from home, and even going to extremes, causing immeasurable consequences.
So what exactly should we do?
1. Communicate with your child in the form of letters
The content of the letter mainly includes these three aspects:
You have to congratulate her on growing up and having someone appreciate her;
You have to tell him that he will definitely go through this important stage in his life, which is very happy, but also dangerous;
You have to let him know that liking and love are different, falling in love is not the same as getting married, marriage is about a person who loves him very much, and he has to take responsibility for a lifetime of ......
2. Talk to your child about the dangers and precautions of early love
Parents should try to communicate with their children as friends, so that children can feel the love and trust of their parents, so that children can confidently solve the problem of early love.
If it's a daughter, mom must play a good daughter's gossip best friend, you can talk to your daughter about how she fell in love with your dad in the first placeWhat are his strengths?What are the important qualities in men?
If it is a son, the father must play a good role in the spiritual guidance of the son, and you can talk to the son about how he fell in love with your mother in the first placeWhat are her strengths?What are the good qualities in women?
3. Adopt the method of "saving the country by curve".
Talk to your child seriously:
Tell your child that academic performance can only go up, not down!
The time we spend together every week can only be weekends and holidays!
You can't stay overnight without permission, and physical contact is limited to holding hands!
It is best to contact the parents of the other child secretly, tell them about it, and the parents of both parents will supervise together and work together to turn this love into motivation for the child to learn.
This motivation will also motivate children to learn better and work hard.
4. Give your child vaccinations early to improve your child's vision
Establish a harmonious family atmosphere where children who are wrapped in love will not seek to make up for the lack of love in their hearts.
Parents and children together ** love concept, guide children to establish a correct view of love, strive to improve themselves, enhance the child's vision, if the parents are great, the child's vision will naturally be high.
As a parent, learning to take advantage of the situation and turn it into a positive motivation is the best policy.