There is a sentence in Yishu's ** "Xi Bao": What I want most is love, a lot of love, if there is no love, money is also good.
The most important thing in life is love, whether it is to love or to be loved, it is the first thing we pursue, I used to think that talking about money in a relationship is cheesy, but then I found that not talking about money will always be too angry.
What everyone hopes most is to have love and be loved for a lifetime, but life has come a long way, and we will find that sometimes it is not because of how good the other person is, but because he is him.
I remember seeing a sentence that said: You are good, you are good at everything, the only bad thing is that you are not him.Yes, this is feelings, as long as it is determined, no matter how other people are, they have nothing to do with themselves.
But in the world, many people's feelings end up hurting each other, you don't understand me, I don't understand you, and even in the end you hate me, I hate you.
Realistic feelings, from hatred to beauty, can have about four levels.
Singer Xue Zhiqian once fell in love with Li Yutong, but later, the two separated.
There are not many reasons for people to be together, it's nothing more than that you like me, I like you, but there are countless reasons for two people to separate, and it may be a reason to separate even if he doesn't eat elegantly.
It's like there is a saying: When I love you, I feel good about whatever you eat. When I don't love you, I feel sick no matter how you eat it.
Just like Xue Zhiqian and Li Yutong, when they were together, they may have been willing to give no matter how they wanted, but in the end, they separated, and the once paid became later hatred, hurting each other, threatening each other, that kind of hatred seems to be more frightening than other hatreds in the world.In 2016, not long after Xue Zhiqian and Gao Leixin got back together, the love-hate relationship between him and Li Yutong began.
It reminds me that many feelings end up being hatred.
I like martial arts**, among martial arts**, many people end up hating because of love, and they want to destroy what they can't get, such as Li Mochou among the Condor Heroes, who obviously loves Lu Zhanyuan, but because he can't be with each other, he destroys the other party.
Another example is Gongsun Zhi and his rich man Qiu Qianqi in "The Legend of the Condor Heroes", and the final injury is even more frightening.
It is said in the Six Records of Floating Life: Husbands and wives in the world must not hate each other, nor should they be too affectionate.
The reason why Shen Fu said this is because he understands that affectionate people are the most difficult to let go, and once they leave, the pain in their hearts is extremely great.
But I always feel that this time is so long and the space is so vast, and only deep affection can make this little bit of empty time meaningful. Only affectionate can withstand time.
But every time I see those feelings that hate and hurt each other, I feel even more that it is better to have no such feelings, and a person can at least live a peaceful and stable life, so that he will not hurt others, nor will he be hurt by others.
Hurting each other is the first realm of feelings, and it is also the lowest level of feelings.
I envy those couples who protect each other affectionately, but I deeply sympathize with those lovers who hurt each other.
I don't chase stars, and I don't know much about celebrities, but I always remember that for a while, Ying Caier was harassed by messages because a group of Ying Caier and Edison Chen's ** were used by many gossipy people.
At that time, Ying Caier's husband Chen Xiaochun, before Ying Caier could react, Chen Xiaochun first said: (What kind of man are you)!
Although he didn't name him, everyone could hear that he was talking about those who hurt Ying Cai'er.
has always had the impression of Chen Xiaochun stuck in the pheasant brother who played the gangster brother and fought if he didn't agree with him, but after he got married, he was willing to go through the storm for his wife and feel sorry for his wife.
So there is a saying: "The man who taught us to be brothers more than ten years ago is now teaching us how to spoil our wives." ”
Whenever I hear others say that Ying Caier has a violent temper, Chen Xiaochun says: "She is cute when she has no temper, and even more cute when she has a temper."
Chen Xiaochun and Ying Caier are both short-tempered, and after being with Ying Caier, the short-tempered pheasant brother has become a gentle wife protector, but his gentleness is only given to Ying Caier.The second realm of love is to know how to feel sorry for each other, not to mention the others for the time being, but at least you can give a pillow when the other party is tired, and a piece of bread when she is hungry, because each other is distressed, so life is good.How do you spoil your wife?Probably even if the other party is angry, they think it's beautiful.
Some people say that to love someone is to make her unreasonable, to be too good for him for no reason.
Indeed, when you love, there is no reason to feel sorry for the other person, and that kind of distress is worse than feeling sorry for yourself.
Two people who feel sorry for each other will not be too tired of each other because someone will share it for you.
Happy love is not without wind and rain, but distress for each other. Just like when the other party is pushed to the cusp of the wind and waves, I am still willing to ride the wind and waves for you.
But feelings are not a stand-alone game, a person can play how he wants, but an online game, which requires two people to work together, one more is not good, and one less is not good, so as to successfully go to the end.
Feeling sorry for each other is the most basic thing for a good relationship. It is the foundation of the beginning, but also the foundation of life.
Each other, the distressed feelings are not necessarily the most beautiful feelings in the world, but they will definitely be affectionate because of the distress. Because it hurts, it is comfortable.
Writer Liao Yimei said: Everyone is lonely. In our lives, it is not uncommon to encounter love and sex, but it is rare to encounter understanding.
Yes, the best tacit understanding in this world is not that someone understands what you say, but that someone understands what you can't say.
When Zhang Ailing met Hu Lancheng, she lowered herself to the dust for him, even if she knew that Hu Lancheng was very attentive, she still threw herself into it like a moth to a fire.But Zhang Ailing said that because she understands, she is compassionate. Yes, she needs someone who understands her, but this person hasn't loved her all her life.In the eyes of the world, Hu Lancheng is a big carrot with a heart, and he feels that he is not worthy of Zhang Ailing.
I envy those who are together and understand each other, and I think that's what a relationship should look like.
Talking to a friend last week, she said she wanted a divorce.
She said: "I'm the same as him, I also graduated from college, I have the ability to support myself, we were together because of youthful love, but in the past few years of getting along, that feeling has been lost in the suppression and suppression again and again." ”
I let go of my dreams, lowered my posture, went into the kitchen, became a babysitter, and now I don't want to live like this. However, what I don't want to see is that he is the savior of my family. ”
At that moment, I seemed to suddenly understand her.
I feel sorry for your efforts for your dreams, you may not understand my dreams, but please don't insult my dreams.
The best relationship will not make people become a completely different look, but will maintain their own appearance in the long-term life.
But because of love, I want to understand you, and because I understand, I want to give you better love. He can understand your heart, understand your desires, understand your dreams and hopes, and this kind of love will become deeper and deeper.
If you don't understand, you don't understand the feelings, you will eventually get tired, and sometimes you are tired not because of life itself, but because you don't get understanding in an environment, and you don't get the understanding of the heart.
The highest state of affection is to fulfill each other and make each other a better version of themselves.
A model couple in the cultural circle, Qian Zhongshu and Yang Jiang, Mr. Qian and Yang, can be said to be love at first sight, when they met for the first time, Yang Jiang was rumored to have a boyfriend, and Qian Zhongshu was rumored to be engaged, so when they met, Yang Jiang said: I don't have a boyfriend, and Qian Zhongshu also explained that he was not engaged.Later, Mr. Qian planned to go abroad for further study, and Yang Jiang was worried about Qian Zhongshu's life, so he proposed to accompany him. Qian Zhongshu studied abroad at public expense, and Yang Jiang did not get a place to study abroad, so he could only pay for it himself, and the difficulties were much greater than Qian Zhongshu's, but considering the life problems of the eldest young master of the Qian family, he resolutely decided to go.
Later, Yang Jiang gave birth to their daughter A Yuan, and when she was in the hospital, Qian Zhongshu went to see Yang Jiang and said several times that he had done something wrong, but Yang Jiang said that he would fix it.
Later, Qian Zhongshu said that he wanted to write a **, Yang Jiang asked him to concentrate on writing, make money to support his family, and every time he finished writing, he first showed Yang Jiang, and then Yang Jiang said his own opinion, and then revised it again, so there was the later book "Siege".
Qian Zhongshu also understands Yang Jiang's talent, and also said to the outside world that Yang Jiang's prose is better than his own. praised Yang Jiang as the most virtuous wife and the most talented woman.
The relationship between the two gentlemen has not slowed down until they are old, and during the Cultural Revolution, the two are still quietly dating at night, and the relationship is so good that it can be imagined.
Yang Jiang understands Qian Zhongshu's talent, and Qian Zhongshu also knows Yang Jiang's talent, so they encourage each other and fulfill each other.
Yang Jiang fulfilled Qian Zhongshu, and Qian Zhongshu also fulfilled Yang Jiang, making the other party a better version of himself.
The best relationship is to feel sorry for each other and fulfill each other, and I hope I can make you a better version of yourself.
I know that you are ambitious, so I will raise the wind for you and send you high. You know that I have mountains and rivers in my heart, so I travel with my white horse.
Love should be distressed at first, then understood, and finally fulfilled.
Because of being cared for and warm, because of being distressed and together, I think that many people will walk together, probably because they feel each other's care and distress.
Without this distress, it would be impossible for two people to walk together.
After walking together, understand each other, feelings can be comfortable, get along harmoniously, understand is not to ask two people to be the same, but to two people to understand each other, will not deny each other because of their own prejudices, what you say may not be what I want, but I respect your ideas.
Your pursuits may not be the same as mine, but I know it.
After understanding, if you can fulfill each other, then love will go to the highest level. The so-called mutual fulfillment is that I am here, you can do what you want to do, to become what you want to be, I will use my best efforts to help you and pave the way for you.
Fulfillment is not the effort of one person, the other person is indifferent, and the fulfillment must be mutual.