In our long lives, we will meet many people of all kinds. There are people who are like-minded with you, and you understand each other, encourage each other, and pursue your dreams togetherAnd others are against you, and it is as if there is an invisible wall between you, and you can't communicate no matter what.
Yang Jiang once said: "When you meet people of different frequencies, don't talk to him about ideals, just give him what he wants." At first glance, this sentence makes sense, but when you think about it, it feels a little sad.
People with different frequencies can't understand each other, which is really a headache. Just like a person who likes classical, he can't understand why a person who likes pop is obsessed with those noisy melodies anyway. In the same way, it is difficult for a person who likes to stay at home and read a book to understand why a person who likes to travel is always on the road.
In this case, is it really like Yang Jiang said, don't talk about ideals with people of different frequencies, just give him what he wants?If we live only to be recognized and appreciated by others, then what is the meaning of our lives?Catering to others every day, and your thoughts and feelings are not listened to, is this kind of life really what you want?
Of course not. Everyone has their own pursuits and ideals, and it would be sad to give up your own pursuits just to cater to others. We should have our own thoughts and judgments, and we can't always be led by the nose by others. If there are people who are not the same frequency as us, we can guide them appropriately, instead of blindly accommodating. If someone is against us, we can choose to leave instead of being dragged into the water by him.
This reminds me of a sentence from Lu Xun: "Cattle and sheep will form herds, and beasts will always walk alone." If we give up our ideas and pursuits just to fit in, then we are no different from those cattle and sheep. And if we can stick to our beliefs, we may be able to become beast-like beings.
In this pluralistic society, we need to learn to get along with people who don't have the right frequency. If He can bring us happiness and gain, we will resonate with Him;If he brings us pain and loss, we have to stop the loss in time. We should not change our frequency for the sake of anyone, nor should we give up our ideals for the sake of anyone.
We need to remember that no matter who we spend time with, we are all individuals. We can be tolerant and understandable, but we must not compromise. We must have our own bottom line and principles, and we must not allow anyone to break through our defenses. We must live for ourselves and strive for our ideals. Only in this way can we live a worthwhile and dignified life.