Qian Yong said:
"Life and death, death and life, like the flowers of plants and trees, bloom thank you, only then can it be reasonable. ”
Our life is like flowers and plants, it has a beginning and an end, and opening and withering are natural laws.
Only by experiencing the process of life and death can we appreciate the true meaning and interest of life.
In life, we often get troubled by various interpersonal relationships, or the time and energy we have paid, or the trivial things at home.
All kinds of complaints, anxieties, and helplessness flood our hearts and make us overwhelmed.
A lot of times, it's not that there's no way out, it's that we haven't figured it out yet.
When you figure it out, the answer will come to you, and when you figure it out, everything will be smoother.
It's about feelings
When we are young, we always take our feelings too seriously, whether it is friendship or love, and we feel that making promises can last a long time, or even accompany each other for a lifetime.
We firmly believe that feelings are not defeated by reality and are not separated by material things.
It wasn't until in real life, when the drama of friendship and love breakdown played out on oneself, that I knew that nothing was indestructible.
I've seen a blogger share such a story:
The two said that they would be admitted to the same school together, but in order to fulfill their promise, they gave up the opportunity to protect the research.
But later, the other party suddenly had no news, and he still learned from others: the other party went to a better school, not the one he agreed with him.
Although she was admitted to the school she had promised to the other party, after hearing the news, she was sad and chose to drop out and prepare for the exam again.
She said that she was sad not that the other party was admitted to a better school, but that with the relationship between them for many years, the other party actually said that he would leave and no longer have contact with her.
In fact, in a good relationship, you will not be jealous because the other party is better off than you, on the contrary, you will be very happy to send blessings.
It's just that I don't want to believe that I used to have a relationship where I didn't say anything, so I could break it off without the slightest reluctance.
Aristotle once said:
"Friendship is not a unilateral effort, but the result of mutual uphold. ”
Feelings are a matter of two people, and if you don't give it willingly, you will definitely be able to get it back.
Looking back, those who have left a mark on your life journey and then missed it are still living well without him.
In this life, people have traveled too many roads and met too many people, meeting is fate, acquaintance is luck, and being with each other for a lifetime is rare.
Even if you can't meet someone who can be with you for a lifetime, you can live your own wonderful life.
Instead of living in the pain of the past, it is better to let the pain turn into fertilizer and bloom brilliant flowers on the atrium.
About work
Feng Zikai said"When the heart is big, the matter is small. When the heart is small, the matter is big. ”
In life, we will always encounter some phenomena like this:
I have worked hard silently for several years, and I am about to get out, but my promotion opportunity is given to my colleagues who have just come a few months ago;
Even if you have done your best and done your best, you still can't get the approval of your boss, etc.
Your first reaction to these phenomena is definitely unfairness, and then you are unwilling and unconvinced.
Why do you have worked so hard, but you never get the results you want?
In fact, behind every light and breeze, there is countless sweat in exchange;Every confronting injustice awakens the desire of the heart and awakens oneself in contrast.
Gorky said"Iron is getting harder and harder. ”
If you think about it, God has actually secretly given you opportunities, in other words, He has given everyone, that is, the difficulties in the work, big and small.
It's just that some people are afraid of difficulties and choose to retreat;Some people face difficulties head-on and finally usher in success.
Many times, it's not that fate is unfair, but that when it's time to grow, you choose to retreat and escape.
If you choose to fall behind, you naturally can't stand in the queue of the strong.
As long as you figure it out, treat your work as a practice, open the way in the mountains, build bridges in the water, and constantly improve yourself, the difficulties will be scared away by you.
It's about life
Su Shi once said:"Life is like a journey, and I am also a pedestrian. ”
In this world, people come and go, you and I are pedestrians, and each other is a passerby.
It's just that we are occasionally affected and disturbed by external sounds.
It's like seeing a colleague talking in a heap and inadvertently looking into your gaze, and guessing if you are saying bad things about yourself;
Your lover is in a hurry to go to work, and the sound of closing the door is a little louder, and you wonder if you have done something wrong and made the other party unhappy.
In fact, these are the unconscious actions of the other party, and the reason why they are worried and restless is because they think too much.
There is a saying: what can interfere with you is often that you care too much. ”
Even if the other party is really what he thinks, but life is his own, why bother to take it to heart and let himself be depressed?
Many times, you are not defeated by gossip, but by yourself.
When you figure this out, all your worries will go away with the windWhen you begin to live for yourself, all darkness will be dispelled by your own brightness.
Paul said:"Life is like a book, stupid people, page by page quickly turned, but smart people, will read carefully. Because they know that this book can only be read once. ”
The book of life can only be read once.
When you encounter trivial and complicated things, if you can't figure it out, you will be tripped, shackled, and become a stumbling block on the road of your life;
If you figure it out, you can easily overcome it, and then step on the difficulties under your feet and become a stepping stone on your own life path.
In this life, many things can be solved when you think about it, and many roads will be smooth when you walk, so you don't have to panic, and when you figure it out, you will clear the fog and see the dazzling light.