Student asks: Friends, I have only listened to the teacher's lectures for a few years, and I don't understand enough of many contents.
But I want to try to be aware, for example, the matter of waking up in the morning
I have a hard time getting out of bed, and it is difficult to wake up early, but I really want to get into the habit of getting up early.
The first did not get up:
Dark Horse: I feel satisfied because I have slept enough.
White Horse: If I'm not happy, my parents will say that I'm far away from getting up early.
Rider: No sense of worthiness because I feel like it's a bad habit myself.
The second point is up:
Dark Horse: I didn't feel well, I didn't wake up
White Horse: Pleasure, challenge success.
Rider: Valuable, one step closer to good habits.
I found that the white horse and black horse riders could not agree on these two situations, what is going on?Am I not doing it right?
Is there a friend who can help me answer my questions?
Alice: I've had some sleep-related problems before, similar to yours, but it's a little different, I can't get up, but more importantly, I can't sleep, and I just can't sleep well.
Later, I tried to read some sleep-related books, and after learning some sleep knowledge, I followed the guidance and advice in the book, and then I also knew why I did it. The process is still relatively smooth, with almost no pain and persecution. Since then, my sleep has improved a lot, and of course I have to follow the book and follow the science of sleep.
Guo Chengquan: Waking up early is just a tool, not a criterion for judging whether we are good or bad or worthwhile. If you want to use this tool, you need to have a goal, that is, what to do with this tool, so it is not necessary to simply get up early, if you want to get up early, you can think about it first, what to do after getting up early.
Another point is what is the standard for getting up early, for example, if you get up at 8:00 now, then getting up at 7:30 tomorrow is your own standard for getting up early, instead of getting up at 5 o'clock directly, so that the body can't adapt to it, and it will take some time to change, so allow yourself to take your time.
My experience is to allow myself not to get up early, so that I can get up early slowly, because since I don't think about it, my body also has a reason not to think about it, and when I wake up tomorrow, I will try to respect this feeling and reconcile with the dark horse.
Qi Fei: By talking about getting up early, I want to talk about going to bed early. My kids wake up early every morning, so I have to go to bed early to get enough sleep. But at night, I just don't want to sleep.
Procrastinating, looking at this, looking at that, always dragging on until I can only sleep less than 7 hours a day, and the next day I am woken up by a child and I want to pump myself.
Try to improve a little bit every day and adjust the time, and immediately return to the original shape at the first opportunity. Maybe it's because I take the child every other day, so one day I can catch up on sleep, I don't know why, it's really collapsed the day I was woken up, but I just can't go to bed early.
Jubilant: I often want to go to bed early and get up early, but if I can't do it, I will often suffer from internal friction.
But I sometimes wonder why I have to go to bed early and wake up early, and now I can get the job done, and one of the benefits of this job is that I don't have to get up early, and what is the definition of going to bed late?Is one o'clock a late bed, or is it two o'clock, three o'clock?What about waking up early?Six, seven, or eight?
In fact, the reason why I think about going to bed late is that I am busy with things at other times, and only the time at night really belongs to me, so I really want to do something to make the dark horse happy, but I often can't pull it when the dark horse is happy, resulting in feeling unenergetic when I wake up the next day, and regret that I stayed up so late last night. What traps me now is that at night, once I open a TV series before going to bed, I can't control it at all.
Tai Yi: Entertainment is a very good supplement to work, it is very normal but it makes us feel internal friction, pull, and make us emotional.
Emotions are often caused by our cognitive conflicts, for example, there will be a voice in our heart "getting up early is a positive life, is not lazy", on the contrary, we will compare ourselves according to our own accumulated core beliefs, because we are accustomed to this kind of thinking inertia, reason will automatically deny the legitimacy of emotional needs.
You will learn to want to be entertained, and you will be anxious about entertainment.
Guo Chengquan: Take this topic as an opportunity to be aware of yourself, when you don't want to sleep, try to observe your feelings, what needs you don't want to sleep to meet, so that you can be aware for a while more clearly, and then try to adjust some behaviors to meet your own needs, then you can replace the habit of going to bed late.
Our actions and feelings are essentially meant to satisfy our needs in some way. But there is not only one way to be satisfied, we can try to find a better way to be satisfied, so the first step is to be aware of it, and then try to adjust it in other aspects to be satisfied, without attacking our own behavior. If you can't find a better alternative, it's okay to use the current one first, just pay attention to it, and believe that everything is flowing.
Author: Tai Yi, Guo Chengquan, jubilant, Qi Fei.
Edit: Panpan of the little assistant eating sugar-free taro puree.
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