After half a year of dating my boyfriend, he offered to ask me to meet his parents. I happily agreed, it was an important meeting opportunity for me, and I hoped to make a good impression in front of my boyfriend's family. When I arrived at my boyfriend's house, his mom received me very warmly. I thought I would get a generous red envelope or gift, but it turned out to be unexpected. I didn't receive the red envelope, and I was urged to leave before I could finish eating.
In the evening, my boyfriend called me a **, and I was completely shocked by his words. He told me that his parents were very unhappy with me and that they decided to break us up. I was in pain and confused, and it never occurred to me that meeting my boyfriend's parents once would cause us to break up. I told my cousin about it, and she gave me a tirade and pointed out some of the problems I had when we met.
First of all, she pointed out that I should bring some gifts to visit my boyfriend's parents, even if it was just some fruit, that would be a sign of my sincerity and respect. I realized that I really didn't do a good job at that. I didn't take into account the importance of bringing gifts to elders, which is a very basic courtesy.
Second, she criticized my behavior of moving around in my boyfriend's parents' room. I should observe basic etiquette and respect their private space. Without their permission, I casually entered their room and observed the contents. It is undoubtedly very rude to do so and makes a bad impression on them.
In addition, she mentioned some of my mannerisms at the dinner table, such as me ordering my boyfriend to peel shrimp for me and being very direct about mangoes that I didn't like. These behaviors show my disrespect and selfishness towards others. InFirst meeting, I should be more mindful of my own behavior and respect the feelings of others, rather than just my own preferences and needs.
I am now aware of my problem and feel very confused and blamed myself. I didn't realize how impolite and selfish my actions were, and I only focused on my own needs and interests, without taking into account the other person's feelings and family background.
I realized that my attitude and behavior were wrong, and I didn't make a good impression on my boyfriend's parents, and even made them unhappy with me. I realized that I was too utilitarian and wouldMarriageas a means to change the status quo of the economy, without realizing itMarriageIt should be based on respect and care.
I understand now,MarriageThe economy should not be the first threshold, but should be based on mutual trust and mutual understanding. I need to find the problem in myself and try to correct it. I need to pay more attention to the feelings of others, respect their opinions, and pay attention to my own cultivation and quality.
I want to learn from my cousin Xi accept her suggestions and criticisms, and work hard to improve my self-cultivation and quality, so that I can better develop and maintain my feelings. I also have to remember not to be guided by material desires and interests, but to deal with feelings and interests based on genuine concern and respectMarriage