Description:As we reach middle age, we may face many challenges and pressures, and one of them is how to deal with our relationship with our parents. Regardless of our financial situation, we should actively reject the "four eccentricities" of our parents. These eccentric behaviors can have a negative impact on our lives and psychology, therefore, we need to be brave enough to face them and take positive action.
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Hi guys!I'm your headline editor, and today I'm sharing with you some tips on how to deal with your relationship with your parents when you reach middle age. No matter what kind of economic situation you are in, we should learn to reject the "four eccentricities" of our parents and make our lives more exciting!
First of all, I would like to give you a little bit of my background. My name is Xiao Ming, and I am in my 40s this year. I was born into an ordinary family, and my parents were ordinary working-class people. From an early age, I was instilled with the notion of being filial to my parents, which is seen as a virtue and tradition in Chinese culture. However, as I grew older, I gradually found myself in a paradoxical situation.
Parents' expectations are often what we find unfulfillable. They want us to be more successful in our careers, have a higher social status, and have more wealth. However, in reality, not everyone can achieve such an ideal. I once had low self-esteem and even fell into a state of depression because I couldn't meet my parents' expectations.
The pressures of life made me start to reflect on why I should live a life that is not my ownWhy do you want to give up your dreams all the time catering to your parents' expectations?It was at this time that I decided to take the initiative to reject the "four eccentricities" of my parents.
The first type of eccentricity is economic eccentricity. Parents want us to make more money and provide them with better living conditions. However, when we reach middle age, we may already have our own families and responsibilities, and we have to think about our own families and can't focus all our energy on making money. I told my parents that I had done my best, but that didn't mean I didn't care about their lives. I accompany them, care for them, and show love in my own way.
The second type of eccentricity is temporal eccentricity. Parents want us to spend all our time with them and neglect our own and our family's needs. However, we need to find a balance between giving ourselves and our families enough attention and time while trying to meet the needs of our parents. I set a fixed time for family activities once a week, and I set aside this time to spend time with my family, whether I am busy with work or not.
The third type of eccentricity is emotional eccentricity. Parents want us to be more emotionally invested in them, and neglect our relationships with our spouses, children, and friends. However, we need to learn to balance and manage relationships so that everyone gets the care they deserve. I told my parents that they would always be an important part of my life, but I also needed to share my feelings with other significant others.
The fourth type of eccentricity is life eccentricity. Our parents want our lifestyles and interests to be similar to theirs, while ignoring our own preferences and pursuits. However, each of us has our own unique interests and passions, and we should respect and pursue our own way of life. I told my parents that they could try to understand and accept my choice as much as I respected them.
By rejecting my parents' "four eccentricities", I gradually found my happiness and fulfillment. I've learned that as an adult, we have to take responsibility for our lives and live our lives to the fullest that truly belongs to us. I also hope that everyone can find their own balance and no longer sacrifice their own happiness to meet their parents' expectations.
I hope today's sharing has inspired you. Whether you have money or not, remember to take the initiative to reject the "four eccentricities" of your parents and live your own wonderful life!May you all find happiness and freedom in middle age!