Some people say that a man may be able to tolerate all the emotions and vexatious things of a woman, but he cannot tolerate a woman's unfaithfulness to her feelings.
In fact, what men value most is the purity and innocence of women, and this has nothing to do with appearance and talent. A woman who guards like a jade can win the cherishment of men at any time, because she has capital that is worthy of being cared for.
On the contrary, a woman with overflowing feelings, no matter how good her performance is, will find it difficult to get the true love and care of a man.
In general, the core of men's concern is whether a woman is pure, and no matter what kind of man he is, he expects to marry an innocent and pure woman.
Therefore, what men fear most is that their women are not pure. In the eyes of men, impure women are usually of the following types.
1. I have experienced too many feelings.
Sanmao once said: "If what you give me is the same as what you give to others, then I would rather not." ”
In a relationship, a man expects a woman to give him a unique love and will always have feelings for him alone.
However, in reality, many women fail to do this, they have experienced love failures again and again, and when they finally meet someone who is truly worthy of love, it is difficult to win the true cherishment of men.
The reason is that her emotional journey is too rich, which makes the man feel that this kind of love is too cheap and not worth his investment.
Miss Ning has been in a relationship since college, and by the time she was at work, she had three boyfriends, and they all broke up on the grounds of incompatible personalities.
In the company, Miss Ning still maintains the same way of communication as before, believing that she should enjoy the nourishment of love when she is young.
Therefore, Miss Ning's pursuit of men is very casual, she has a beautiful appearance and a good figure, and soon became the object of many men's pursuit.
In the face of these suitors, Miss Ning felt very satisfied, thinking that she was very attractive and made men fall for them.
So, Miss Ning randomly chose a man with good economic conditions, and the two quickly fell in love.
At the same time, Miss Ning did not completely reject the pursuit of other members of the opposite sex, and still maintained a relationship with them. Whenever her boyfriend questioned, she always excused herself with the excuse that "we are just normal colleagues".
The boyfriend didn't pay much attention to Miss Ning because he loved Miss Ning deeply, and it wasn't until he witnessed Miss Ning and other men entering the restaurant hand in hand that he realized that the woman he loved was so indulgent.
In order to gain an in-depth understanding of Miss Ning's relationship status, he asked many colleagues and friends, and finally confirmed that Miss Ning had three relationships in college and had ambiguous relationships with many male colleagues after joining the company.
This shocked the boyfriend, and after careful consideration, he decided that the fact that Miss Ning indulged in her feelings made him unacceptable, and resolutely proposed to break up.
Therefore, men are usually very cautious about women who have too much emotional experience and do not develop relationships with them easily.
Because in the eyes of men, such a woman is impure, not worthy of emotional investment, and even less worthy of marriage.
In fact, both men and women who pursue love at a young age may not think too far ahead, and it is normal to experience one or two loves.
However, if a person has had more than two or even more love experiences, this is no longer due to love ignorance. Even if it's unlucky, it's impossible to be unlucky every time.
The most fundamental reason may be that this person is not emotionally dedicated and not serious enough about love. Such a person is impure in the eyes of others, and will choose to give up even if he loves again.
2. Unfaithful to love and extremely materialistic.
There is also a category of women who, in the eyes of men, also fall into the category of impurity, that is, they are unfaithful to love and are too materialistic.
Mr. Wang, the director of the unit, once said that a woman who pursues material things too much often seems very cheap in her feelings, because they are willing to sacrifice their bodies for material comforts.
This statement is realistic but makes sense, if a woman values material things too much and squanders money, but she is not able to make enough money herself, their most direct choice is to find a rich man.
Such a woman usually regards feelings as child's play, only for the pursuit of material gains, and is unfaithful to love.
Therefore, men generally dislike such women, believing that they are impure, too vain, and unworthy of association.
Just like Miss Ning, who has been dating her boyfriend for three months, she spent her boyfriend 50,000 yuan, and she felt that her boyfriend invested too little.
If her boyfriend didn't know much about her emotional experience and stop the loss in time, the money he would pay for Miss Ning in the future might be more.
In fact, for a man, it may be acceptable for you to spend his money, but be loyal to love, and you can't have an ambiguous relationship with other members of the opposite sex. However, Miss Ning did not do it, spending her boyfriend's money while maintaining an ambiguous relationship with other members of the opposite sex.
This kind of behavior naturally makes my boyfriend feel cold, he feels that all the efforts are not worth it, how can he continue to be with you.
Not long ago, my friend Xiaoqiang also shared a story about how he broke up with his ex-girlfriend for more than half a year, but his ex-girlfriend came to him to borrow money. When Xiaoqiang lent her money, he asked her why she was short of money.
The ex-girlfriend said that the family introduced her to a man, and the blind date was not long after. Unexpectedly, the man's monthly salary is only more than 5,000, and the living expenses are not enough, and she has to buy clothes, cosmetics, etc. every month, and she already owes a lot of foreign debts.
Xiaoqiang is a soft-hearted man, so he lent her 5,000 without any way, and said that he didn't have to pay it back. However, what Xiaoqiang didn't expect was that his ex-girlfriend said that he could accompany him for one night.
In an instant, Xiaoqiang felt extremely embarrassed, he really didn't know what to say, and at the same time he was glad that breaking up with his ex-girlfriend was a wise choice.
Therefore, there is often a reason why some women are looked down upon by men. Especially those women who are both materialistic and unfaithful to love are even more disgusting to men.
A woman who is truly loved by a man does not have to be very beautiful, nor does she need to have much ability, as long as she is loyal to love, pure and innocent is enough.
In the world of feelings, no man can tolerate a grain of sand, if a woman's love is cheap, not dedicated to love, and too materially vain, they would rather choose to be single than choose to marry you.
When choosing a partner, a man would prefer to marry a woman who is independent and has a soul, rather than a woman who only knows how to pursue vanity and materialism.
3. Don't cherish yourself and be too cheap for love.
There is a saying in a certain way: "A woman who does not cherish herself will not be cherished by the man she loves." ”
This sentence makes sense, a woman doesn't even care about herself, how can she care about others. If her love for herself is cheap, she will not know how to cherish the love given by others.
Men treat such a woman if they don't understand her situation, but once they get to the bottom of it, they will soon choose to quit.
Friend Reiko, before her current boyfriend, had three boyfriends, and each time she was willing to do anything to please her boyfriend.
Three loves, two pregnancies, and one miscarriage brought great physical and mental trauma to her. After breaking up with her last boyfriend, she recuperated at home for a few months before returning to work, and her whole body became emaciated.
Not long after she went to work, another man pursued her, and Reiko thought that she had finally found a man who really loved her this time, so she cherished this relationship very much.
However, the good times didn't last long, and not long after the two fell in love, her boyfriend actually heard about Reiko's previous pregnancy and miscarriage from others and was very disappointed.
Although he loves Reiko deeply, he has to reluctantly break up with her because he can't accept a woman who doesn't value him.
In fact, what a man values most is whether a woman cherishes herself, and if a woman's love seems cheap and a woman who is very unloving, he will definitely not marry her.
Therefore, if a woman wants to be cherished by a man, she must learn to cherish herself, not make her love seem too cheap, and maintain self-esteem, which is really a very important thing.
Some women become unloving and act cheap everywhere once they are hurt in their relationship, but they don't know that doing so will only make men look down on them more.
A woman with self-esteem and self-love will definitely be able to win the respect of men, and I hope women can understand this.