The philosopher Friedrich Nietzsche once saw a gardener pruning flowers and plants in a garden.
Later, he found that the pruned flowers and plants got more nutrients and grew more luxuriantly.
He couldn't help but sigh"Actually, we can 'prune' ourselves like a gardener. ”
Many times, we feel physically and mentally exhausted because we always think that the more we have, the happier we will be.
In fact, too much redundant stuff will only make us tired.
When people reach middle age, learn to prune themselves, and the road of life will be more beautiful and light.
Prune the goal and plow yourself
Jack Trout said in "Positioning": "If you do everything, you will achieve nothing." It's better to focus on one thing and make yourself a unique expert rather than a generalist who does everything.
In real life, there are always some people who want to experience all the wonderful things in the world, but this mountain looks at that mountain high, but in the end nothing is achieved.
And when we are willing to hone our skills in one direction, it is easier to succeed.
The French painter Durret, under the influence of his grandfather and father, showed an extraordinary talent for painting.
Dured began learning to paint at the age of 13, but his creative goals were not clear.
He dabbled in many aspects, but he was not very knowledgeable. Gradually, his creative enthusiasm was far less than it was at the beginning.
By chance, he met two highly respected botanists. After learning about botany, Dured became interested in it.
So, he began to devote all his energy to botanical painting.
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Under his painstaking study, his painting career began to emerge.
He was invited by Rousseau to illustrate the book "Botanical Correspondence". He made 65 illustrations for the book.
The plants in the book come to life on the page, which is one of the important reasons why this book has become a botanical classic.
Later, his work was appreciated by the nobles of Versailles.
The Empress of France invited him to paint roses in her garden, and he spent nearly 20 years concentrating on them.
In 1789, the "Rose Atlas" was born, with 169 kinds of roses, which were vividly and vividly known as the "Rose Bible" by later generations.
Durede, for this reason, is known as the "Raphael of Flowers".
Romain Rolland once said, "Instead of spending a lot of time and effort digging many shallow wells, it is better to spend the same amount of time and energy digging a deep well." ”
Human time and energy are limited, and if we want to try everything, we are destined to lose sight of one or the other.
Those who are truly masters often know how to choose to cultivate themselves wholeheartedly in a field.
Prune the mood and stabilize the kernel
A few days ago,Dong Lina, a visually impaired girlhas attracted the attention of many netizens.
She touched Braille and gave a graduation speech at the graduation ceremony of China Transmission.
On the podium, she was generous and eloquent, which touched countless netizens.
Looking back at her experience along the way, I can't help but bring tears to my eyes.
Dong Lina suffered from congenital amblyopia and was completely blind at the age of 10.
Due to her physical inconvenience, after graduating from technical school, she began to work as a masseur.
She was told to practice her skills well, after all, massage is the only way out for the blind.
Although she was confused, she was very sure in her heart:Massage is by no means the only way out for people with low vision.
In 2006, she got the opportunity to learn radio recitation by chance, so she came to Beijing to study alone.
After a class, she fell in love with the charm of broadcasting.
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As a result, she spends almost all of her time practicing her pronunciation every day except sleeping.
Finally, she won the first-class Mandarin certificate with excellent results.
Later, in order to better improve her professional level, she applied for a postgraduate degree at the Communication University of China.
During her graduate studies, she studied tens of millions of words of literature by listening and reading and typing blindly.
In the end, she successfully graduated and became the first visually impaired broadcasting master's degree graduate in the country.
Writer Feng Tang said:"Everyone must have a certain core, so that in the universe, it is not easy to be blown away by the wind. ”
What supports a person's life to turn the tables against the wind is often his inner intransigence.
In the second half of life, cultivate a strong and stable core, and life will go more and more smoothly.
Prune relationships, narrow circles
When we were young, we were always busy staggering in various social situations, and we felt that multiple friends had multiple paths.
But in reality, most social interactions, not only do not bring you growth, but also consume your time and energy.
Blogger @风九楼 once shared a story of his father on Zhihu.
When his father was a child, he loved to watch martial arts**, and especially appreciated the friendship between Chu Liuxiang and Hu Tiehua, Li Xunhuan and A Fei.
Therefore, in life, my father treats every friend with heart and heart, and responds to every request.
When friends come to the house, he will be hospitable and pick them up personally
When a friend is hospitalized with an occasional illness, he will immediately go to visit, saddle up and horse;
When a friend is in trouble and needs help, he must be the one who helps in the snow.
However, reality gave him a big blow.
Once, my father's business was in trouble and he was on the verge of bankruptcy. My father asked his friends for help, but they all stood by.
On the contrary, a few friends who are not often contacted took the initiative to ask if their father needed help.
After this incident, my father woke up.
As a result, he no longer cares about anyone, and only associates with a few close friends.
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Jia Pingwa also shared his experience in "Knocking on the Door".
He used to be very socially obsessed, and every time his friends came to his house, he was very happy. But most of my friends come here with a request.
either invited him to the show, or asked him to write an article, or asked him to help go through the back door, which consumed a lot of his energy.
After that, he turned away all general acquaintances and only received close friends who could be chatted.
After doing so, he found that although he had fewer friends, his life was cleaner, and he had more time to think and create.
Writer Yu Qiuyu said:"In terms of interpersonal communication, frequent ** detoxification will make it easy to walk the road ahead. ”
In life, irrelevant socialization can be pushed as long as it can be;Socializing that consumes mental energy can be avoided if it can be avoided.
Instead of wasting time at a dinner with cups and lamps, it is better to use the limited time to enrich yourself and spend time with your family.
In middle age, we need to learn to streamline the circle and invite those who are not important out of our lives.
When you put more energy into important people and things, the road of life can be wider and wider, and your heart will become more and more abundant.
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Writer Lin Qingxuan said:"If you want to get the joy of life, you have to subtract life. ”
When you reach middle age, you need to understand that less is more.
Only by subtracting life in a timely manner, unloading the burden in the heart, and loosening the mind can we empower ourselves.
Prune the goal, concentrate on deep cultivation, and you will be able to achieve your wishes;
Stabilize your mind and cultivate your core, and you will be fearless;
Streamlining social interactions and paying attention to oneself will make it easy and comfortable.
The rest of your life is long, and adjusting your life to minimalist mode is the best way to love yourself, and it is also the wisest way to live.
Author: Si Tian, into the red dust and storms, return to tranquility and ease, come and go freely, and be happy at ease.