Five years after the death of your parents, if you go back to your rural hometown, you will understand the "four things".
When he was young, he traveled to the ends of the earth with the yearning of "traveling to the ends of the world and pointing to the sky".
No matter where you are, every festival, your heart is still concerned about your hometown, because your relatives are there, silently waiting.
However, time is merciless, and there will always be a day when parents leave, and their hometown will become a distant homeland.
Five years passed in a hurry, and I gradually realized that I had become estranged from my hometown.
The reality is not as beautiful as a dream, and only after returning to the rural hometown can I know the truth.
It's life, often unexpected.
As time goes by, affection and friendship fade away, and gradually, you don't have so many people to welcome you anymore.
Imagine that you've been away from your hometown for years, have achieved something, and maybe even drive home in a luxury car. At this time, you expect the people of the village to greet you, curiously ask about your life history, and have a look of envy in your eyes.
However, when you drive back to your hometown, you find that fewer and fewer people know you. Most of the villagers have moved to the city, their hometown looks desolate, and the once lively scene is gone.
He Zhizhang, who was over eighty years old, wrote when he returned to his hometown: "When I left home and returned to my eldest child, my hometown accent has not changed, and my sideburns have declined." When the children don't know each other, they smile and ask where the guests are from. This minister of the Tang Dynasty, who had a great reputation, found that the people at the entrance of the village no longer cared about him, and only the children regarded him as a stranger.
After the death of a parent, many relatives gradually disappeared. As the saying goes: "If you don't come to the door for three years, you won't be a kiss." The people in the village no longer envy the people in the city, because everyone lives in the city and has their own houses.
Relationships become estranged, everyone becomes strangers to each other, and there is little to communicate with. Some villagers will even be immediately wary of you, thinking that you may have some bad motives.
At some point, the people in the village gradually got used to being well-off, perhaps because everyone knew that living in the village for a long time had become a luxury.
In my hometown, life is not as convenient as in the city.
Although you can tidy up the old house and furnish it cosy and comfortable;Plant all kinds of flowers and plants in the small courtyard;You can even take advantage of the fish pond at the door.
These ideas sound great, but when you do decide to live here, the problem arises.
After all, it's been five years since your parents died, and you're no longer young, even over sixty. Rural hometowns are relatively remote, and it has become quite difficult to get to hospitals, shopping, etc. Communication equipment may not be advanced enough, and there may even be power outages in the event of wind, rain, and wind.
Mosquitoes and rats are also common problems.
All kinds of discomfort make you feel uncomfortable in life and can't find the feeling of childhood. After all, your hometown isn't as tidy as a B&B and there's no one to provide services.
Living in the city for a long time makes you more comfortable with the urban environment rather than the countryside.
More realistically, you no longer have a house in your hometown, or the house has been given to a brother, and you lose the right to use it.
Although staying at a brother's house is an option, it also brings the inconvenience of being under the fence.
The fish stinks after three days, and people live for three days to be disgusted. You know this very well.
They come with the original intention of looking for rural landscapes, but end up in disgrace and return to the city, which is often the end. 
The brothers and sisters have been scattered and no longer gather in their hometowns.
Once upon a time, every time I came home, it was very lively, tasting the souvenirs made by my parents, and the house was in order.
Parents are always busy, packing up the house in advance, and the bedding will be dried or updated before you come back.
The flowers in the small courtyard are in full bloom, which is the result of the careful care of the parents. Puppies and kittens are also partners that their parents have long raised.
However, after losing their parents' hometown, will their siblings return together?After all, the "backbone" is no longer there.
Without siblings pushing cups and changing lamps, without the laughter of children, and without the warm hospitality of parents, the taste of returning to my hometown has become completely different.
When I returned to my hometown alone, I couldn't feel the warmth of home, and my heart was inevitably full of loneliness.
Even on the Qingming Festival, brothers and sisters may not sweep the grave together.
In many large families, there is a rule that siblings come in turn, each responsible for a year's work of sweeping graves.
When the people of our generation are gone, will there be anyone who will take care of the graves of our parents?Thinking of this, my heart is inevitably heavy. Maybe the younger generations have taken care of themselves and no one cares anymore.
Everything in my hometown is still familiar, but without familiar people, something seems to be missing on this day.
The most worrying thing is that the siblings may have long been estranged, and observing everything around them only makes the heart even more entangled. Perhaps, not looking.
Your homesickness is incomprehensible to your children and grandchildren.
Remember: your rural home is your hometown, not your children's.
As a post-70s generation, I deeply feel this.
I was born in the countryside and started my career in the city as a teenager. The sons and daughters were born in the city. During the holidays, the family would go back to their rural hometown for a meal and occasionally stay overnight.
Later generations regard the countryside as a place to visit occasionally, and there is no deep nostalgia.
When the older generation told about their experiences in the countryside, the younger generation was a little unimpressed, and even felt that they were nagging.
When you decide to return to the countryside after the age of 60, your children and grandchildren will most likely oppose it.
Because you are in the countryside, your children and grandchildren need to travel thousands of miles to celebrate the holidays for you, and they are also worried that you will get sick or get in trouble in the countryside. Your predicament will be a burden for your children and grandchildren, and it is obviously an unwise choice.
If you take your children back to the countryside and try to sort out the inheritance left by your ancestors, they may reply, "What's the point of turning over the soil for a lifetime?"”
Indeed, our ancestors have been farmers for generations, but they have not been able to escape poverty. The children do not want to follow the same path again.
If your children need your help to take care of their children and support them to start their own businesses, and you insist on going back to your rural hometown, there may be conflicts between the two generations.
Lu Xun wrote in "Hometown": "We all have our own hardships and travels, and we are not willing to let them be numb to the hardships of leap soil, nor are we willing to let them be as hard and wanton as others." ”
Life is constantly changing, the past is a thing of the past, and the present is the present. Everyone has a unique way of life, and even people in the same village have their own way of survival.
Five years after the death of our parents, the changes in our hometown may be small, but our lives, small families, and the outside world are constantly changing.
Eventually, we become people without roots, but we can find the possibility of rooting anywhere.
The real society is complicated, people are busy for some insignificant wealth, as for the inner emotions, it may be more suitable to hide in the bottom of the heart.
Year after year, the vegetation is luxuriant, year after year, people are gradually aging, this is an irreversible law of nature, let it pass away with the wind.
Author: Dressed modestly and lived frugally.
Pay attention to my words and let them warm your heart.