The moral kidnapping of parents often manifests itself in the form of high expectations of their children, demanding that they behave according to their own wishes and values. Such expectations and requirements are often not based on the interests, abilities, and values of the child, but on the wishes and expectations of the parents. This practice can easily lead to anxiety, low self-esteem and rebellion.
First, let's take a look at why parents engage in moral kidnapping. Some parents may believe that they have the right to demand that their children do what they want, because they provide their children with basic living conditions such as food, clothing, shelter and transportation. Other parents may be worried and caring for their children, but they don't know how to properly express their concern and love. In either case, the moral kidnapping of parents can have a negative impact on the growth and development of children.
So, how to avoid the moral kidnapping of parents? First and foremost, parents need to respect their children's independence and autonomy. A child is an individual with his or her own thoughts, emotions and values. Parents should respect their children's choices and decisions, rather than impose their own expectations and demands on their children. Secondly, parents need to establish good communication and relationships with their children. By communicating with their children and understanding their lives and thoughts, parents can better understand their children's needs and expectations and thus better support them. Finally, parents need to improve their own educational literacy and cognitive level. Understanding the psychological characteristics and growth patterns of children of different ages can help parents better guide and educate their children.
Let's illustrate this with a concrete example. Xiao Ming is a high school student, and his parents are very demanding of his academic performance, often putting pressure on him and restricting his free time. Xiao Ming felt very anxious and helpless, and even had insomnia and boredom with school. In this case, Ming's parents need to recognize that their approach is inappropriate and take steps to change the situation. They can have an honest communication with Xiao Ming, understand his thoughts and needs, respect his choices and decisions, and at the same time, they can also seek professional psychological counseling or educational guidance to help themselves better educate and support Xiao Ming.
In short, the moral kidnapping of parents is a problem that cannot be ignored. For the healthy growth and development of their children, parents need to respect their children's independence and autonomy, establish good communication and relationships with their children, and improve their own educational literacy and cognitive level. Only in this way can the family become a warm, harmonious and happy place.