In counseling work, I have seen a father undress his child and beat his adolescent daughter's buttocks, and a father slapped his adolescent daughter in front of classmates, all of which led to the child's extreme resentment towards his father, obvious emotional reactions, and even obvious self-harm and suicide, all of which were caused by not paying attention to the child's self-esteem.
The development of self-esteem is very important in the development of children. Self-esteem is a person's perception and evaluation of self-worth, which is an important part of mental health. However, some parents often ignore their children's self-esteem in the process of educating their children, resulting in emotional problems and even resentment towards their parents.
Adolescence is a special stage where children are experiencing great changes, both physically and psychologically. During this period, children's self-esteem also becomes more sensitive. If parents do not pay attention to protecting their children's self-esteem in the process of educating their children, it is easy to cause emotional problems and even resentment in children.
Some parents believe that spanking is an effective way to help children recognize their mistakes and correct them. However, hitting a child will not only harm the child's body, but also the child's psyche. When parents hit their children, the child's self-esteem will take a huge hit, and they will feel that they are not being respected and loved, which can lead to emotional problems and behavioral problems.
If parents hit their children in public, it will make them feel embarrassed and even have low self-esteem. Hitting a child in front of classmates can make children feel that they have lost their dignity in front of their classmates, which can lead to resentment towards their parents. This resentment can lead to resistance to parents, reluctance to communicate with parents, and even behavioral problems.
Therefore, parents should pay more attention to their children's self-esteem in the process of educating their children. When children make mistakes, parents should educate them in a gentle way to help them recognize their mistakes and correct them. At the same time, parents should also save face for their children in public and do not criticize or scold their children in front of everyone.
Finally, if the child has already developed emotional problems or resentment towards the parent, the parent should take steps to communicate and resolve it in a timely manner. Parents can try to have a calm conversation with their child to understand their child's thoughts and feelings so that they can find a solution to the problem. At the same time, parents can also seek professional psychological counseling or help to better help their children solve psychological problems.
In conclusion, children's self-esteem is an important part of mental health, and parents should pay more attention to their children's self-esteem in the process of educating their children. Educating in a gentle way and protecting children's self-esteem is a must for every parent. At the same time, if the child has already developed emotional problems or has a grudge against the parent, the parent should take measures to communicate and solve it in time. Only in this way can we help children grow up healthily and establish good family relationships.
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