Visiting relatives and friends during the Chinese New Year is actually a manifestation of consumerist emotional exchange
During the Spring Festival, the custom of visiting relatives and friends is undoubtedly a time-consuming and labor-intensive collective action for all families. In just seven days, it is necessary to go through all the relatives accumulated in a year, which creates a situation of urgency and need. Everyone's diary is overloaded and the time allocated evenly between each family member's home is extremely limited, which means that visiting relatives is more of a hasty and superficial routine.
Is this type of visitation effective in maintaining and deepening the bonds between family members? The answer is challenging, I'm afraid. In fact, going to visit relatives and friends step by step and exhaustively is an ineffective effort, which not only does not help to strengthen family relationships, but also fails to cultivate deep emotional bonds. After all, the accumulation of any deep emotion is inseparable from long-term companionship and sincere communication.
In the modern social environment, blood ties are not synonymous with emotional intimacy. Ask yourself: How many of your ten closest friends are your immediate or collateral family members? The reason why most people choose to go to relatives is not because of a strong desire in their hearts, but because they are driven by the sophistication of human feelings, they passively join this torrent of hustle and bustle.
At the end of the day, the phenomenon of visiting relatives during the Spring Festival is, to some extent, another form of consumerism. Especially in China,"Return home"Many people choose to rent luxury cars home during the Spring Festival, not caring about waste, just to show off their achievements to their parents in their hometown. However, this deliberate ostentation has no substantive meaning in nature.
Although some people continue to follow the tradition of visiting relatives, under the pressure of reality, individuals are like scattered sand, and it is difficult to build a strong emotional bond in the rush of visiting relatives and friends. Therefore, when people reach middle age, they must learn to compromise rationally, let go of the hypocritical role of showing affection, and spend more energy on building their own harmonious family, carefully managing their own interpersonal network, and creating a high-quality social environment. In this way, you can be invincible in the uncertainty of the future and ensure that you do not fall into the abyss easily.
Now, I have changed my habit of visiting relatives in the past, and I have not visited all my relatives, because I know that it is not easy to be meticulous and meticulous. Not having relatives doesn't make me feel like I'm missing anything, but it makes me more aware of the true meaning of family and relationships.