Why are other people's children so good? But I can't do anything?
Why don't my parents understand me? Disrespectful to me, not even privacy?
What if there are no advantages?
What should I do if my grades are not good and my classmates ignore me?
I've worked hard, how can I never meet my parents' requirements?
My parents always called me rebellious, but I just wanted them to respect my ideas. ”
Origin. Growing up comes with a lot of confusion. In order to better help children relieve the pressure of growing up and make them more comfortable in the face of adolescence, I am honored to receive the invitation to share the theme of youth for the eighth grade children of Hangzhou Dinglan Experimental Middle School.
Course review.
On the afternoon of July 3, 2019, I successfully shared the theme of "Happy Youth Journey" for nearly 600 children in the eighth grade. After two and a half hours of sharing, the children were still full of passion at the end, actively participated in the scene, interacted warmly, and sincerely opened their hearts, sharing the confusion hidden in their hearts and pasting it on the "problem tree". After the end, many children came to me and said: I have gained a lot, which is the greatest affirmation for me. At the beginning, one problem bothered them, and after just over 2 hours, the child said that the feeling of sudden realization suddenly grew up and many troubled problems were no longer a problem.
The kids said.
I have learned a lot, and I believe that the relationship with parents will get better and better! ”
Today, I have a sudden feeling that all the questions that have been annoying me have suddenly figured it out."
Through today's study, I understand the teacher better, it turns out that the teacher loves us so much and cares about us".
I thought I was one of the worst in the world, but through this activity, I learned about myself, I am a person with strengths and weaknesses, and I can do better than I used to be. ”
I am very happy today and have learned how to understand my parents instead of misunderstanding them, because in fact, parents are often good for us, instead of looking down on us and belittling us. ”
I had a lot of fun today, more than 2 hours, many times I interacted with my classmates, I had a very good time, and I found a lot of my own advantages."
Auntie said, There is no failure, only growth, which has helped me a lot and made me more confident to face setbacks."
Characteristics of adolescent children.
1) Rebellion. The adolescent child feels strong enough and expects his parents to recognize that he has grown up, to treat him with respect and understanding, to listen and to be equal.
In fact, more parents, in the home that their children think are the safest, tend to ignore their children's inner feelings, and treat their children in a way of correction, accusation, and denial, so that children begin to rebel against being considered rebellious, or gradually close the door of their hearts and gradually fall silent.
2) Behind the problem is the need, what parents need to do is how to see the need behind the problem.
3) Low self-identity - the need to confirm oneself through relationships.
Adolescent children have the ability to explore the future, and the ability to explore themselves, and they look forward to affirming their own value through the relationships around them. Therefore, I hope to be recognized by my classmates and teachers. They are looking forward to seeing their true selves through their classmates as a mirror.
4.Design activities
Design a number of activities according to the characteristics of adolescent children, so that children can experience that they have enough energy and ability to cope with various activities.
1) Energy - Discover the merits.
1. Students empower each other.
In yesterday's Happy Youth Journey activity, in a group of three, everyone is the best buddy. They shared with each other the strengths of their classmates and wrote them down on small cards. The nearly 600 children present became each other's energy, and each student gained the energy of love from each other and saw their own strengths. There was a lot of emotion in the hearts of the students. was always said by parents to be inferior to other people's children, and found that he was also worthy of love and loveliness.
2. Be aware of your own energy.
Each child has different genes, different growth environments, and different parental upbringing, so they are all unique to themselves, and they all have their own strengths and strengths. The most important thing is how to be aware of the strengths, and how to respect the child's strengths as a parent. Once children discover their strengths, they will be more confident, more likely to accept themselves, tolerate others, and be able to face possible thorns on the road to youth calmly.
Be aware of your strengths.
Accept your imperfections.
Be the best version of yourself.
2.of Energy - Teacher's Chapter.
Students spend more time with their teachers and classmates at school than with their parents, and the relationship between teachers and children is also an important bridge for energy interaction. At the scene, the children shared a lot of touching stories with the teacher, and the children were cared for by the teacher, and the teacher's affirmation and recognition were all touched and warmed by the children.
Energy flows, and the children also sent gratitude cards to their teachers, and each card passed on a stream of energy to the teacher. From these cards, we feel the deep love hidden under the strictness of Mr. Ding Zhong's children to the children. The moment many female teachers received the card, they were moved to tears by the child's conscious love.
3.Energy - Parents.
Learn to understand your parents and speak up in the right way.
Pity the hearts of parents all over the world, the deepest love of Chinese parents, and the hardest love. Because of the beautiful expectations of Jackie Chan and Jackie Phoenix, many times, these excessive expectations have become the fuse that triggers the war.
Truly respect the child, understand the child as he is, let the child's goals fit his ability, find his own goals with the child, and let him grow with him on his own track. Maybe this is a better way for adolescent children to get along.
Parent Gratitude Card——
The true feelings in the child's heart touched the mother.
Mom and Dad – I want to say to you.
We asked the children to write down their expectations for their parents, and between the lines, we saw the children's deep expectations for their parents, looking forward to understanding, and expecting recognition. I believe that parents can see these expectations of their children and readjust their communication methods, and I think they can definitely give their children more energy and support, and help them have the ability to cope with the growing pains.
Only youth and dreams can not be disappointed.
Goal: Sense the dream in your heart and make a small plan to achieve it.
Words from my heart.
When the lesson was shared, look at the campus.
One by one, the children shouted to their aunt with a smile.
Chase me to share today's special happy day;
When my classmates told me that it dawned on me;
When a child told me.
He has not dared to speak since he got his answer wrong in the Chinese class last semester.
And today he broke through himself.
When I spoke four times, I felt that it could inspire and touch the children.
My heart was filled with joy and a sense of worth.
Written to you on the road to youth.Youth is accompanied by ignorance and confusion, and youth also has dreams and hopes. Let the goal in your heart condense into the seeds of hope, sow them on the road of youth, take root and sprout; Then find the strongest strength in your heart, and let the seeds bloom with hard work and sweat. In my own way, I declare to the world that I am the best version of myself, to achieve the path I want to take, on the track of my own youth, at my own speed, let my dreams blossom and bear fruit, and meet more and more excellent myself.