February** Dynamic Incentive Program
Last year, my son got married on the eleventh day, and I have another role--- mother-in-law. I am both relieved and distressed, I am glad that my 30-year-old son is finally married, and I am distressed that I am old, a mother-in-law-level character, especially how to deal with the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, has become a new topic for me, because the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has always been one of the key factors in family harmony, and it is one of the most difficult relationships to deal with.
So how to be a good mother-in-law, I think, first try to change the traditional practice.
First, I don't tell them to wake up early for breakfast in the morning. Nowadays, young people are accustomed to going to bed late and getting up late, eating breakfast or not doing nothing, they are all breakfast and lunch together, will not go to bed early and get up early like us, as for whether they eat breakfast or not, it has nothing to do with me, you go to ask them to eat breakfast, and the result is kind as a donkey's liver and lungs, and the boss is unhappy, so why bother. Of course, I would make more breakfast in moderation, but not too much, because it would lead to waste. If they don't eat breakfast at all in the future, don't do much.
Second, I will never get involved in the general quarrels and quarrels between the two of them. There will be tongue biting when the teeth and tongue are together, let alone two living people, let them quarrel. When they quarreled, I just walked away and shut me up, out of sight, out of sight, and upset. Philosophy books say that contradictions are the source and driving force of the development of things, and after the son and daughter-in-law quarrel, they will naturally solve the contradictions. They quarrel during the day and hug each other at night, so why should I bother with this.
Third, protect your daughter-in-law in everything. When my son and daughter-in-law have quarrels, when there are disagreements, such as buying a house, buying a car, buying rice and vegetables, hiring a babysitter for children, investing in children's education, and so on, I basically protect my daughter-in-law. If my son is sinned, he will be sinned, and what will he do to me if he falls from his own flesh. But your daughter-in-law came from someone else's family, and if you look down on her, and even do things to be sorry for her, you will hate you for the rest of your life.
Fourth, when everyone is in harmony, I strengthen family education and moisturize things silently. Of course, more importantly, in daily interactions, I always take the initiative to communicate with my daughter-in-law, care about her living and working conditions, and understand her needs and difficulties. On holidays or special days, organize family activities or gatherings to enhance the feelings between family members, enhance mutual understanding and trust, and reduce misunderstandings and conflicts.
Haha, the above are my thoughts and practices on how to be a good mother-in-law in the past few months, quite effective, my daughter-in-law yelled at me as a mother in the morning and a mother in the evening, and confided in me some ups and downs in life from time to time, and joked with me from time to time. I'm so refreshed.