WidowedMonth, husband remarried: rare freedom for adults.
Recently, Lu Guijun, the director of the pain department in Beijing, shared a touching story that aroused widespread social attention. He mentioned that not long ago, a woman in her 40s fell ill and eventually passed away.
However, the lady's husband behaved very considerate and affectionate, and after the death of his wife, he personally cleaned her body and sang "The Moon Represents My Heart" in the process.
The husband's actions deeply touched everyone present.
7 months later, Lu Guijun received a ** from this man, saying that he had remarried. Lu Guijun was a little surprised and a little lost: "Did this relationship end so soon?" ”
Soon, Lu Guijun met another patient. The man's wife took good care of him, but he said to her, "I hope you will remarry in the future, and you must find someone better than me." ”
Lu Guijun's experience is touching, and the tolerance of true love is beyond our imagination. After he realized this, he gave the widowed man a **, which rekindled his hope for life.
This ** has attracted widespread attention and discussion, including a mockery of the bereaved man, but the power of true love cannot be denied.
In the documentary "The World", Zhang Lijun's death has aroused widespread attention from netizens. This special girl has made a deep impression on people. In 2015, 26-year-old Zhang Lijun was diagnosed with advanced pancreatic cancer.
However, the condition of her 5 months of pregnancy complicates **. In order to save the baby, she could not undergo surgery, anti-cancer drugs, or even an open biopsy to determine the details of the cancer.
However, Zhang Lijun resolutely refused to induce labor, and she was determined to give birth to the child. She wants her unborn child to see the world with her own eyes.
She loved her husband dearly and didn't want him to feel lonely in his old age, so she wanted to be able to leave a child for him.
Zhang Lijun gave birth to a 2-pound son, Xiaolongbao, by caesarean section in the third trimester. Soon after, she was transferred to the oncology department for **. Her husband took great care of her during the ** period.
When he learned that his wife had a rare malignant tumor and was unable to **, he cried many times in private. After Zhang Lijun fell ill, her husband did his best to sell their 5 million wedding house, take her to the doctor, and take her on a trip, loving her and taking care of her until the last moment of her life.
Despite their hopes for a miracle, Zhang Lijun left this world at the end of 2016.
After Zhang Lijun's death, people thought that the story would end there, but two years later, her husband remarried. This incident caused heated discussions on the Internet, and people accused him one after another: "I gave up my life for you to have children, but you forgot the old love so quickly." ”
I moved the heavens and the earth, but I couldn't move you. Indeed, this is unacceptable. But if you think about it from another perspective, is this also a competency? We used to love each other, and I'm sure you loved me too, and after we separated, I will definitely live well.
Everyone has the right to choose their own life, you are willing to immerse yourself in sadness and depression, why can't I turn the page and start a new life? An interview with Cao Ge's ex-wife, Wu Suling, is also thought-provoking.
When asked if she has done anything to be happy lately, she replied, "I've been successful lately!" Next, one of her answers can be called gods: "No, for me, it's actually a stage in my life, and I don't think of it as a harm."
We just ended up fate, I tried my best, and he did his best. But I don't think he's a wound for me, I'm going to face him anyway, because he's still a big part of my life.
So I don't think this thing can't be talked about. It is often said that life is like a play, and it all depends on acting skills. But in fact, life is more like a practice, we need to learn to face setbacks and partings, face them positively, and start a new life.
Everyone has the right to choose their own life, not to indulge in grief all the time because of the failure of a relationship, but to face it positively and start a new life.
After all, life is all suffering, and the only way to cross it is to cross it.
There is no hurdle in life that you can't pass, and the only thing that can make you can't get over is yourself.
After 14 years of marriage, how can you not be heartbroken? As she said, human hearts are flesh and blood, and it is inevitable to go through a heartbreaking process.
She was always quick to let go of the past and continue to enjoy life with a passion for it. Such a person will not be stuck in the mire of emotions for too long, and will always quickly find the strength to save himself from grief and chaos. "
Turn the page in time"skills are so important.
Have you ever wondered why some people can become very powerful once they get their senses? How do they do it? According to the analysis of Zhihu post owner @van Bo Gao, the reason is that they understand the power of the two dimensions, which allows their energy to be released without internal friction.
This power is the power of enlightenment, which represents the wisdom of birth and the means of entering the world. The wisdom of birth means to be able to withdraw from difficulties and unsatisfactory situations, and to look down on everything; The means of joining the WTO is to seriously experience life and enjoy the process, despite knowing that it is all a game.
A true master can switch freely between birth and accession, and can face any challenge with ease, transparency and ease. So, if you want to become stronger, try to raise your consciousness and make yourself comfortable in the world of life, work, and emotions.
Ma Yili said that she will devote herself to love but will not let her feelings affect her career.
Only when you are fully committed can you feel truly passionate! "Fu Seoul nodded in agreement. Ma Yili agreed: "That's right, why should I waste my time if I don't put my heart and soul into it? ”
Some people ridiculed her for being too emotionally involved, but that was a reflection of her intelligence. She knows when to love with all her heart and when to end decisively, and always puts her career on the back burner.
Isn't this the perfect embodiment of "having the art to enter the WTO and having the way to be born"? Master Hongyi once said: "Gain calmly, lose indifferently, conform to nature, and pursue the inevitable." ”
Whether you are dealing with past successes or failures, or dealing with wrong feelings, you should let go decisively, so that life can be more comfortable. Let's work together.
Author: Fei Bai, a member of the intensive reading team, personal WeChat***Fei Xiaobai has something to say (ID: feixiaobai2018), this article was first published on the official WeChat of intensive reading***ID: jingdu999).