""A 40-year-old woman with a salary of 7,000, her husband sold a car and borrowed 180,000 to treat her brother without permission, and divorced"."
Ye Wenhui, 40, is a staff member in the hospital's finance office with a monthly salary of 7,000 yuan. Her husband, Bai Feng, 43, is an environmental engineer who works in a state-owned enterprise with a monthly salary of 11,000 yuan.
One day, when he was about to get off work, Bai Feng called** and told Wen Hui not to wait for him and go home by himself. This made Wen Hui feel a little strange, because he usually came to pick her up. However, Bai Feng hurriedly hung up ** and only said that he had something to do and went home.
Wen Hui had to take the subway home alone. After arriving home, his son had not returned, and Bai Feng was not at home. This upset her, but she decided to make her son his favorite boiled beef to replenish his strength.
After his son came back, the meal had been prepared, but Bai Feng still did not appear. Wen Hui asked him why he hadn't gone home yet, but was told that Bai Feng had gone to his brother's house because his sister-in-law was sick. Wen Hui felt strange, why didn't Bai Feng tell her about this matter directly?
A week had passed when Bai Feng returned, and he told Wen Hui that he had sold the car and borrowed 180,000 yuan to treat his brother's illness. Wen Hui was very angry when she heard this, and felt that Bai Feng was too hasty in doing this, and he didn't discuss it with her at all. She believes that such behavior is irresponsible and shows Bai Feng's disrespect for the family.
Bai Feng explained that his brother's wife was sick and needed bypass surgery, which cost 200,000 yuan, and the family had no extra money. He and his eldest sister each pooled 90,000 yuan, but the eldest sister was struggling, so he gave his share to his brother first, and planned to borrow money from the eldest sister later.
Wen Hui listened to this explanation, and although she understood the situation, she was still disappointed by Bai Feng's behavior. She coldly stated that she didn't want to talk to him anymore and that she didn't plan to continue the marriage. Although she did not file for divorce for the time being, she knew that there were already problems between them.
During this period, their son Ruihe took the high school entrance examination and was under a lot of pressure to prepare for the exam. Despite the problems in the family relationship, Wen Hui still insisted on giving her son the best support. She hopes that through Ruihe's success, she can mend the rift between her and Bai Feng.
During a family dinner, Bai Feng proposes to go back to visit her eldest brother, but Wen Hui refuses because she thinks her son's exams are more important than everything. Although Ruihe was confused, he understood that the relationship between his parents had become strained.
The whole family is at an impasse, and the rift between Wen Hui and Bai Feng is becoming more and more obvious. Although they have not officially divorced, the relationship between the two has become very strained, which makes Ruihe feel very confused and distressed. 
Ruihe's mood was a little heavy, and he wondered why his parents' relationship had suddenly become so bad. It seems that everything changed after my father came back from my uncle's house. What's going on? Should he try to persuade him?
He watched his parents cautiously, then lowered his head to concentrate on eating. Wen Hui sighed helplessly when she saw him like this.
She knew the child was aware of it, but she had done her best. She felt like she had reached her limits.
Bai Feng didn't think about this, he just thought that as long as it took a while, Wen Hui would definitely be discouraged. At that point, he can apologize properly, and then the matter will pass.
However, he didn't realize that the essence of this incident was not that Wen Hui was angry, but that he had made a mistake. He violated the family's bottom line. In fact, what he should have been waiting for was not Wen Hui's discouragement, but to have a good talk with her.
In a family, when this happens, he is completely arbitrary, without considering his wife's feelings and without the need for her forgiveness.
Wen Hui sat in the room, holding a book, but she couldn't calm down to read. She sighed and went out to buy a few cans of beer. Ruihe shouted, "Mom, do you want to drink?" I'll get it for you. ”
Wen Hui glared at him and said, "You are not yet 15 years old, how can you drink?" Do you want to be beaten? ”
Ruihe picked up his mobile phone, ordered some barbecue, and said, "Mom, you are really outdated." Who wouldn't drink some beer at our age now? At the birthday party, the teachers all drank with us. ”
Wen Hui looked at him suspiciously and said, "Are you serious?" You're not lying to me, are you? But you are too young to drink alcohol is not good for your health. ”
Ruihe pulled her into the house and said with a smile: "Mom, I don't drink every day, I only drink a little occasionally." I just want to be with you, Mom, don't worry, tomorrow is a day off, and I can get a good night's sleep. ”
Wen Hui was pulled into the house by Ruihe, he found the wine glass, and then put a small table on the bay window, and said, "Mom, wait a while, I ordered a barbecue, we can eat and drink at the same time." ”
As he spoke, he took out his mobile phone again and said, "Mom, what do you like to listen to?" I'll play a song to us. ”
Wen Hui looked at Ruihe's busy appearance, and suddenly felt very comfortable in her heart. She wanted Ruihe to be by her side, but she was worried that he would not be good for his health if he drank. Her mood became complicated.
Ruihe opened the album, showed it to her, and said, "Mom, don't think about it anymore." Look at these**and**, one of them is more drunk than the other. ”
He pointed to a ** that everyone toasted again, and said, "Look at this, and this is our teacher." Mom, it's okay to drink a little once in a while, now there is smog everywhere, and if we care too much about everything, then we won't be able to live. ”
Wen Hui glared at him, feeling that the current child was both innocent and mature, and felt very conflicted.
When the barbecue came, Ruihe set up a plate, poured two more glasses of wine, and said, "For my loveliest mother, forever young and beautiful!" ”
Wen Hui smiled and said, "Haha, okay, I wish my handsome son a bright future." ”
The two drank and ate barbecue at the same time, and the depression in their hearts suddenly dissipated.
She drank another glass of wine, looked out the window and said, "Hehe, when I got married to your father, our family didn't have anything. Not to mention the bride price, he didn't even have the money to hold a wedding and buy a ring.
Your grandparents blamed me, and no matter how much I tried to persuade me, I didn't agree. But I think as long as others are good and self-motivated, as long as we work hard, we can overcome other things.
They were very angry, and when I got married, your grandmother said, "Okay, okay, since you are so insistent, then I won't stop you." It's up to you to choose how you want to live. ”
They had a little house for me, but your grandmother was so angry that she didn't even give it to me. Only your grandfather secretly gave me 30,000 yuan.
Haha, your grandfather has loved me the most since I was a child. Keep anything delicious for me. Your grandmother wanted to beat me, so she took me out to play. She was always jumping to her feet in anger.
When I got married to your father, I paid for the rent. I also have to help him find a job, and your grandfather found someone and gave him 10,000 yuan before he entered the current state-owned enterprise.
Ruihe looked at her sad appearance and thought to himself that her mother must be very disappointed, otherwise she would not have remembered those things.
He said, "Mom, come, have another drink, and eat some barbecue." The taste of this shop is very good, I specially ordered it for you. ”
Wen Hui smiled, eating barbecue and drinking beer, and her mood really became very good.
Wen Hui continued: "When you were born, there was no one to take care of you, so I could only take you to the office every day. Fortunately, you are very well-behaved, and you can sit on a small stool for a long time while playing with the Rubik's Cube.
But when you were very young, it was your grandfather and grandmother who took care of you. None of them had retired at that time. But I have to go to work, you're only a few months old, what are we going to do?
They are all within the system, there is no way, they often take turns in sick leave. Originally, we wanted to hire a nanny, but during that time, the nanny abused the child a lot, and we were not at ease.
Once, your grandmother said, "Hey, I'm going to retire early if I take any leave."
The house we lived in at that time was what they had prepared for me. Your grandmother saw that I was about to give birth, and saw that the house we lived in didn't even have a bathroom, so she gave me the house again.
Ruihe, am I too unfilial and let them worry about it for a lifetime? ”
Wen Hui and Ruihe clinked glasses gently, and she recalled those difficult years. It wasn't until Ruihe was almost 10 years old that they bought their current house.
Her house was rented out to support the family. Later, Bai Feng was admitted to the environmental protection engineer, and his salary increased, and his life gradually improved.
The car purchased by Bai Feng cost nearly 200,000 yuan, and at first she disagreed, thinking that there was no need to buy such an expensive car. But Bai Feng seems to have been stimulated by something and must buy this car.
He managed to get his CPF out so he could afford the car.
However, now he sold it again, selling it for 180,000, some of which must have been borrowed.
Wen Hui closed her eyes, and her mood was heavy. The life at home is also passable, but Bai Feng has never considered the feelings of others, and he seems very selfish.
Over the years, her parents have been helping them, making her feel that Bai Feng's behavior is like a slap in the face to her, making her feel painful and embarrassed.
Wen Hui unconsciously shed tears, and Ruihe was by her side and let her cry to her heart's content. He felt his mother's sadness and disappointment, and thought that if he could get a divorce, maybe he could make his mother a little happier, and he didn't care.
At the same time, Bai Feng stared out the window blankly. Their relationship with Wen Hui has lasted for more than ten years, but he doesn't understand why she is so stubborn. Money may be earned, but what about people? What's the use of having no more money?
He remembered the help his eldest brother had given them, and his heart was firm in his faith. He felt that he had done nothing wrong, whether it was a car, or borrowed 50,000 yuan, even if he wanted to sell the house, he was willing.
Wen Hui was so difficult to understand him, which made him feel a little disappointed. It was his sister-in-law who was sick, and she was so distressed about that money? He suddenly felt that Wen Hui was too selfish and too narrow-minded.
Bai Feng's family is in the countryside and has three children, and his parents have been in poor health and cannot go out to work, so they can only barely farm at home.
The eldest brother has a particularly good academic performance and is the best of the three children in their family.
However, after graduating from junior high school, his eldest brother was admitted to the technical secondary school, but he chose to give up. At that time, the eldest sister was in junior high school, he was in the sixth grade, his father was sick, and the family could not continue to live.
The mother wanted the eldest sister to drop out of school and work for her brother to study with him, but the eldest brother said: "Mom, let the younger sister continue to go to school, she is so young, what can she do when she goes out, or I will go to work." I'm the eldest brother, and I'm supposed to be for my younger siblings to study. ”
The eldest brother gave up the opportunity to study at the normal secondary school, and with the help of his teacher, he entered the factory where he is now working.
All his salary was used for his eldest sister to study with him, and until the eldest sister got married, he was still single.
Fortunately, their factory has a welfare house, and the eldest brother and sister-in-law borrowed money to buy a house, otherwise they would definitely not have a place to live now.
The eldest brother's house is relatively close to the village, and their parents are taken care of by them. Because their parents are not in good health, they have hardly done heavy work over the years, and they are all taken care of by their eldest brother and sister-in-law.
The eldest sister was later admitted to a junior college and now works in a public institution. And he was admitted to the university, and now he has a good job.
Only the eldest brother has no education, and he does the hardest work in the factory. 
Thinking of these, Bai Feng felt very sad. He thought of his eldest sister again, and his heart was full of anger.
The eldest brother told them that the sister-in-law was sick and needed money. The eldest sister asked, "Brother, how much does it cost?" ”
The eldest brother hesitated for a moment and said, "I have already had an operation last time, and the family's money is almost spent, and now I still need 180,000 yuan." ”
The eldest sister's face changed suddenly, and she said, "Brother, do we have so much money?" We are also ordinary people, and my sister-in-law will definitely not be able to work in the future due to this kind of disease, how can you still pay it back? ”
Da ** lowered his head bitterly and said, "I know I'm embarrassing you, but I really have no other way." Your sister-in-law has followed me for so many years and suffered a lot, and now she has this disease, I can't ignore it. ”
He said sincerely: "Bai Juan, Bai Feng, don't worry, I will definitely work hard to earn money and return it to you." I can't do it, I'll go out in the evening and look for a job. Ruixiang is also older, even if he goes to college, he can still work. We will definitely do our best to pay it back. ”
The eldest sister hesitated for a long time and said, "Brother, I'm sorry, my money is all in the financial products, and I can't withdraw it now." You can think of another way to lend you when I can withdraw the money. ”
The eldest brother was disappointed, while Bai Feng was angry. He said directly: "Sister, if it wasn't the eldest brother back then, you would have dropped out of school, and the eldest brother is now going to the teacher, he has paid so much for you and me, you are like this, is it too unconscionable?" ”
The eldest sister was so angry that she wanted to beat him, and finally said: "Hmph, Bai Feng, you said it nicely, you can give the money that the eldest brother needs, you have a conscience, you are responsible." ”
He was forced to be helpless, and his family didn't have much money, so he could only sell the car and borrow 50,000 yuan.
Bai Feng also wanted to discuss with Wen Hui. But he was worried that she would not agree, and he didn't want to disappoint his eldest brother, so he could only act first. 
The more Bai Feng thought about it, the more angry he became, he had already sincerely apologized, but Wenhui still refused to forgive, couldn't they bear it together? Is money that important?
Ruihe helped Wen Hui fall asleep, handed her a glass of honey water and put it beside her, and then tidied up her things and walked out of the room.
Bai Feng looked at his son's indifferent attitude and said, "Ruihe, do you blame me too?" If it weren't for you, I wouldn't be where I am today. He is in trouble right now, shouldn't I help him? ”
Ruihe suddenly smiled, looked at Bai Feng and said, "Dad, what does what you said have to do with my mother?" You have received the favor of your uncle, and you should thank him, but you should not sacrifice your mother, let alone your attitude. ”
Dad, you don't even respect your mother, you don't realize the relationship between this matter and your mother, why should she bear the debt with you, and you even quietly gave the property that belonged to us quietly to the uncle. ”
Dad, in your heart, do you still have this home? Is there a mom with me? What about grandparents? In fact, you have also received their favor, have you thought about how to repay it? ”
Bai Feng was stunned, he didn't expect his son to say this, he thought that his son would support him, but after hearing this, he felt very sad: "Ruihe, do you also think I'm wrong?" ”
Ruihe said softly: "Dad, uncle has helped you for a few years, but mother has been with you for more than ten years, and grandparents are also kind to you, but in your heart, only uncle, no one else is important." ”
Dad, maybe divorce is the best choice, and you should also let your mother go and make her easier. My grandparents are also old and need to be taken care of. ”
Bai Feng was very conflicted when he heard this, he felt that if he divorced, he would have an easier life with his mother.
Dad often talked about what happened when he was a child, and Ruihe was tired of hearing it, he felt that his mother was closer to him and more willing to be with his mother.
Bai Feng felt very angry when he heard his son file for divorce, and felt that his son was also influenced by Wen Hui, and he didn't know how to be grateful at all.
He kicked open the bedroom door and said loudly: "Ye Wenhui, I didn't expect you to be such a person, you can't do it together, and it also affects my son, okay, let's divorce and go tomorrow." ”
Wen Hui looked up at him in a daze, and said softly, "Okay, I'll go tomorrow." ”
Ruihe rushed over, pushed his father out, and handed Wen Hui a glass of water.
Wen Hui asked him with tears in her eyes: "Ruihe, will you be sad?" If you don't agree, I won't get a divorce. ”
Ruihe replied softly: "Mom, I'm fine, don't worry, I will study hard and will definitely be admitted to the high school of this school." ”
Wen Hui nodded with satisfaction: "Okay, I believe that my Ruihe must be the best." ”
The next day was Saturday, and there was no way to go through the formalities, but the two had already made a decision.
Wen Hui said: "You go find a house and move out first, the house belongs to me, and the family has no savings." ”
Bai Feng glared at her angrily: "Wen Hui, you are too much, this house was purchased by us together, why should it belong to you?" Besides, you have a house, and you still want to fight me for it? ”
Wen Hui smiled: "Hehe, what does it have to do with you that I have a house?" Besides, when I bought the house, I gave more than you, and now you lend 180,000 yuan to your eldest brother, and the money will be returned to you directly at that time, and your share of the house will be reduced. ”
Bai Feng was unwilling: "Impossible, what is that money, the house won't give it to you, don't think about it." ”
Wen Hui shook her head: "Okay, the house will be given directly to Ruihe, he is also 15 years old, and the house should have been half of us, so let's give it directly to our son." ”
Bai Feng refused: "No, I can't give the house to anyone, and neither can Ruihe." ”
Wen Hui proposed again: "Then sell it, half for one person, and you use half of yours to buy a house." ”
Bai Feng was a little reluctant, but Wen Hui was not reasonable at all, which made him feel very helpless.
Now this house can be sold for almost 1.8 million, 900,000 yuan per person, but the 180,000 yuan he lent to his eldest brother is also family, and he has to give Wen Hui 90,000, he feels that Wen Hui is too stingy.
He hesitated for a long time, looking at the house he had lived in for a few years, and he was quite reluctant, but in the end he reluctantly said: "Wen Hui, as long as you give me 800,000, the house will be yours." ”
Wen Hui asked, "Okay, what about the son's expenses?" How much do you plan to give each month? What about the cost of his college trip? ”
Bai Feng replied: "I can only give 3 years of living expenses, he has to rely on himself when he goes to college, and I have to use my own money to buy a house, I have no ability." ”
Wen Hui sneered: "Bai Feng, Ruihe is your son, you treat your brother better than him, aren't you afraid of his coldness?" ”
Bai Feng replied: "Wen Hui, the child has to let go when he grows up, it's all because of you, so he doesn't know how to be grateful." ”
Wen Hui felt that there was nothing to say, so she could only say: "Okay, I'll go raise money in the next few days." ”
With the help of her parents, Wen Hui scraped together enough 800,000 yuan, she and Bai Feng soon divorced, and he gave her 3,000 child support per month until Ruihe was 18 years old.
Wen Hui took Ruihe to live with her parents, so that her son could grow up, for him to study, and to support and accompany his parents, which was the best life for her.
The best relationship between people is to run in with each other and grow together. For the rest of your life, being with someone with warmth is the best nourishment for yourself.
Wen Hui is right, what do you think? Comments are welcome! 