Recently, a news that a female teacher in a middle school in Shanghai was "reported by her husband for cheating on a 16-year-old student" rushed to the hot search, causing heated public discussions. It just so happens that I also have a middle school student who is in love with me at home, and fortunately, unlike the students in the news, the middle school student in my family has a positive outlook. Next, I would like to share with you my views on children's early love.
When I found out that my child was in early love, I had mixed feelings. On the one hand, I realized that children are going through the normal stages of development of puberty; On the other hand, I am also worried that early love will affect their learning and growth.
I decided to communicate with my child with understanding and openness. I chose an appropriate time to sit down with my child and ask him honestly about his feelings and thoughts. I told him that I knew he might have special feelings for someone special, and that was normal, but I also wanted to know what he thought about the relationship.
During the conversation, I emphasized the importance of academics. I reminded him that adolescence is a critical time for growth and learning, and that he should focus more on his studies to build a strong foundation for his future. At the same time, I also encourage him to develop healthy friendships and communicate and interact with more friends.
I shared some of my teenage experiences with my child to let him know the joys and challenges that early love can bring. I told him that love is wonderful, but it also takes time and maturity to deal with.
To help children put puppy love in perspective, I offer some advice. I encourage him to maintain healthy communication, respect each other's feelings, and not let their feelings interfere with his studies and other important matters. I also reminded him to protect his physical and mental health and avoid over-committing or getting hurt.
Through this communication, I hope that my child can understand my concerns and expectations, and at the same time, be able to think and handle his own feelings independently. I believe that communication, based on understanding and facilitation, will help children navigate adolescence healthily and develop mature relationships.