Do you understand, dear?
The emotional value of a person is actually extremely crucial and attractive in all kinds of interpersonal relationships.
In layman's terms, the so-called emotional value actually includes the following concepts: first, the other party can experience all kinds of positive emotions because they are with you; Secondly, the more positive emotions there are, the higher the emotional benefits for both parties. However, if there are too many "negative and negative emotions" when communicating with other parties, the emotional benefits will become negative.
When we play ambiguous games between men and women, emotional value becomes the most lethal"** Take the message I received in the morning as an example: "Today is a busy day, I am really tired, and I have to continue to work overtime after dinner." Let's take a look at what the two different emotional value responses look like.
The first response was, "Wow, your manager doesn't have to give you a promotion or raise, I'm not going to do it!" I've ordered a cup of your favorite milk tea, and with it, you're sure to be able to weather this tough time. Obviously, this is an energetic response, and the emotional gains are naturally positive. Another common mistake is: "Drink plenty of hot water", which may be a sign of caring, but lacks passion and empathy.
In modern society, people's lives are becoming more and more stressful, and most people feel tired. Each of us wants feedback from others, and we want to receive strength from others, and then give back to others through that power. So, how to enhance your emotional value when you are having an affair with someone?
1.Be positive with the other person.
In other words, we can't afford to be the kind of person who disappoints people. So what kind of people are the most disappointing? For example, if you share good news with him, such as a job promotion or earning money, instead of giving you positive encouragement, he will sneer at him, which is ineffective and negative. On the other hand, if you reply to him that you can understand his mood and understand his feelings, for example, if you hear him say, "I'm so happy today, my boss gave me a raise", and you respond, "Wow, that's great, we should go out and celebrate!" ”
2.Make the other person feel needed.
For example, when the two of you are together, he has always been active in giving you substantial advice and help. It even includes offering to invite you to dinner and so on. So what should you do at this time? You can try to make him feel that he is being treated with gratitude for the fruits of his efforts, and that he is an important presence in your heart. For example: "Thank you for doing so much for me, I am very touched and happy to have you by my side." "Whether it is the interaction between couples, the harmony between husband and wife, or the deep mother-child relationship between parents and children, or the mutual support between friends, we all want to be "recognized". When parents silently contribute to their children, they expect to hear: "Thank you very much, you have worked hard." And when the lover has been busy with the family, the response he expects must be: "Thank you for everything you have done for me, thank you for your eternal tolerance and endless love." Such a seemingly small gesture can actually have a touching effect.
3.When there is a conflict of opinions, we should have a dialogue in a different way.
We all know that the content of communication between people is not only 30%, but the remaining 70 – no matter how they regulate behavior or convey emotions. When you feel that the other person's attitude is just right, you will be willing to communicate with them; If the other person is condescending, you may lose the idea of communicating with them. Anger and nervousness usually last only about 3 minutes; So as long as you try to stay calm and resolve the conflict during these 3 minutes, the relationship can become more harmonious.
What form of communication is the most feared by men and women? Blaming others or avoiding responsibility: these are big taboos in interpersonal interactions. Blaming not only makes the other person feel hurt and blames you for all the mistakes; And they tend to see only where you are lacking and see you as having nothing at all. And evading responsibility makes the problem even more serious; You are indifferent to the other person's words, the other person keeps emphasizing, and you just sit there silently and digest the problem, which is a waste of time and feelings.
February**Dynamic Incentive Plan What do you think is the most suitable way to chat?
When chatting with others, try to speak your words in a softer tone and show a gentle and friendly attitude.
Try to replace uncomfortable or offensive words such as "I really regret meeting you" with softer, friendly expressions such as "Can we find a place to sit down and have a good talk?" ”
For couples who want to build a long-term and stable relationship, sometimes it is not so difficult to make a small compromise or put down the bottom line to communicate, right?
Of course, the next topic is also quite interesting:
In the hazy or unclear phase between you and your partner, have you ever received some emotional response from the other person that makes you feel good?