"The Analects of Wei Linggong" said:
The gentleman asks for himself, and the villain asks for others
In everything, what is asked is oneself, and it is the gentleman who does it;
It is a villain to ask for everything and ask others to be responsible for themselves.
Therefore: excellent people will find reasons from themselves when they encounter problems;
A strong person will know how to ask for others rather than for himself when he is in trouble;
A wise man will know how to turn to himself in all things.
Therefore, seeking inward in everything is the highest level of one's cultivation.
In case of trouble, it is better to complain about others than to complain about yourself
Su Shi wrote in "The Question of the Western Forest Wall":
I don't know the true face of Lushan, only because I am in this mountain
The reason why people can't see their true colors clearly is because the center is not in themselves, but in the outside world.
If you look to the outside world, like the authorities, even if you are blessed, you will feel deeply unfortunate.
The poor will have something to hate, and the unfortunate will have something to blame.
Happy people don't complain about things, and blessed people know how to blame themselves when things happen.
When you think about it, it is.
When complaining about things, it is better to complain, so that you will reflect on yourself, gradually improve your cognition, and broaden the pattern, so as not to consume yourself in trivial things.
As Fan Gongyan said in "Passing Court Records":
Blame yourself with the heart of others, and forgive others with the heart of forgiveness
It is better to blame others than to blame oneself for everything, so I will judge myself three times, slowly recognize myself, and know how to find the reason from myself, instead of complaining, treating myself as a victim, and feeling that the whole world owes me.
Only by cultivating oneself with such an attitude can one's heart be sublimated, one's life will become real, and oneself will become self-respecting and self-loving.
So when something happens, if something goes wrong, don't rush to blame others, but you should find the reason from yourself.
This is not cowardice, but a kind of self-cultivation and a kind of respect for others.
Therefore, if you do not escape, avoid, blame, or complain in case of trouble, you will have an attitude of self-reflection and have the courage to take responsibility;
In the end, you can gradually become a responsible person, be thoughtful in the sophistication of people, act steadily in dealing with people, and truly become a person with both cultivation and connotation.
In distress, it is better to ask for others than for yourself
Three Songs on the Difficult Path" wrote:
It's hard to walk! It's hard to walk! Many divergent roads, where are you now?
There will be times when the wind and waves will be long, and the clouds will sail into the sea
There are thousands of roads in life, but the road in the heart is the most difficult.
Only those who work hard and redeem themselves can firmly practice in their hearts.
Such a person, when encountering difficulties and facing tribulations, will know that it is better to seek others than to seek himself.
Because we do not avoid difficulties and do not flee in distress, we can achieve things with things and achieve ourselves with difficulties.
Instead of pinning your hopes on others, you should rely on yourself;
Instead of taking shortcuts to the outside world, it is better to seek yourself inward.
Rely on yourself to walk slowly to the top of the mountain to see the scenery in life;
Only by overcoming your own gaze into the abyss can you get out of the trough in your life.
Xunzi wrote:
If you don't climb the mountains, you don't know the height of the sky;
Not near the deep stream, I don't know the thickness of the ground
I think so. If you don't go through a difficulty, you don't know your luck; If you don't encounter something, you don't know how difficult it will be.
Without personal experience, there is no real growth; Without the grinding of difficulties, there is no strong courage.
Therefore, when encountering difficulties, it is better to seek others than to seek yourself; Pre-climbing the mountain, relying on others is better than relying on oneself.
Only by oneself will the road traveled count; Only by seeking oneself can the difficulties experienced become help and ultimately achieve oneself.
You must understand that the difficulties in life and the challenges in life can only be truly overcome through your own unremitting efforts, and one day, you will be able to ride the long wind and break through the waves and move forward bravely in the sea at any time.
In the end, I really did it by myself, and I was tenacious after thousands of blows, let the wind blow from east to west, north and south, watch the flowers bloom and fall with a state of pampering and humiliation, and do it with an open-minded attitude to stay unintentional, and have a calm and comfortable state of life.
In all things, remember to ask inward
Mencius says: ". .If you can't do it, you should ask for yourself
The biggest stupidity of people is to only complain when they encounter problems.
Really good people, when things don't go well, they will know how to turn to themselves.
Habits are terrible, when you get used to asking outward, you will never see your own problems, let alone real growth;
Only by changing habits and trying to seek inward can we see our true colors and slowly revise our behaviors; Then, in the persistence of many years, stay away from unconscious complaints, gradually strengthen your fighting spirit, strengthen your own beliefs, and everything will go more and more smoothly.
Therefore, remember to ask inward and not outward. Only in this way will you stay away from disasters, be more lucky, be less bumpy, and be more smooth, and this kind of life will be more worth looking forward to.
As the saying goes: ".Meditation often thinks about one's own mistakes, and success or failure comes from oneself
Don't make excuses for everything, but calm down and reflect on your own behavior, so that you can discover your mistakes and gain your own experience.
Success or failure in life is determined by oneself, caused by oneself, and can not blame others, only by reflecting on oneself and summarizing one's mistakes, can we grow in things and succeed in difficulties.
In the end, with the attitude of self-knowledge, practice your own life, make yourself stronger and better, only in this way, can you live up to yourself, live up to your time, be more cultivated, life will be better, and life can be colorful.