The elderly in rural areas lamented that with the development of the times, earth-shaking changes have taken place in the countryside, with the improvement of income level and quality of life, and the more nourishing the small days have passed. The material and spiritual life of the peasants has been improved, and young men of appropriate age are still "difficult to marry", and the number of bachelors in rural areas has increased, which is very tricky and troublesome.
The elderly in rural areas have courtyards in their homes, their children have buildings in the cities, and every household has a car, a car, a house, and a deposit, so why can't they marry a daughter-in-law? What's the problem?
Internet noun: "older leftover men, older leftover women".。30-year-old and 40-year-old unmarried in rural areas, grab a lot of them! Affectionately called by the villagers:Single dog, bachelor！became the laughing stock of the villagers after dinner, the parents were in a hurry, they couldn't marry their daughters-in-law, they couldn't raise their heads in the village, they couldn't straighten their waists, and they were often ridiculed by the villagers!
Take the post-80s generation as an example: some have become grandparents, some are still sending their children to kindergarten, and some are still unmarried, the post-80s generation is really a mysterious generation!
Parents in rural areas believe that if they can buy a house in the city, buy a car, have a certain amount of savings, and have a stable job, they will not have to worry about not being able to marry a daughter-in-law. Conversely, why are there so many bachelors and single dogs?
It is difficult for rural "bachelors" to marry a wife, caused by these 4 reasons! Very realistic
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1. The ratio of men and women is out of balance.
The phenomenon of preference for sons over daughters still exists in rural areas, and individual rural families, no matter how many children they have, even if they have more than one child, still want a boy. Boys are the symbol of the heirs, inheriting the family incense, the state has always advocated: "boys and girls are the same, girls are also heirs".
During the period of family planning, families that preferred sons over daughters, in order to have boys, used various channels to determine the sex of the fetus, which was strictly prohibited by the state. As a result, many girls cannot be born normally, which is also the main reason for the imbalance between men and women, according to relevant statistics, there are more than 30 million more boys than girls in our country!
Monogamy, the imbalance between men and women, at least 30 million people will not be able to marry a daughter-in-law! Relevant experts in agriculture and agriculture suggest that rural bachelors can choose formal labor dispatch to work in countries with more women and fewer men, and the probability of marrying a daughter-in-law will be greatly improved.
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2. The concept of marriage.
In the new era, women's concept of marriage has changed, especially for women with superior families in the city, and the concept of marriage is more advanced and not bound by the traditional ideas of the older generation. In the era of high-speed development of the Internet, the influence of the Internet also indirectly affects the concept of marriage. Even if they are married, they are unwilling to take on the responsibility of having children.
Women in the new era pay attention to their personal future and career development, and marriage and childbirth are considered a burden, consuming youthful vitality and precious time, and are unwilling to devote themselves to the family.
Many young women in the new era choose to be single, live alone, work independently, buy a house or car alone, do not rely on men to live, have strong autonomy, strong dedication, and live for themselves.
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3. The threshold for marriage has been raised.
As the saying goes: the right door. The older generation was matched by others, and they could live together if they made do with each other, and they could form a family if their personalities were compatible.
Women in the new era not only pursue spiritual life, but also need material comforts. Compared to the older generation, the thinking has changed dramatically. Many women measure whether a man is excellent, meet their own mate selection criteria, have a car, a house, a deposit, a stable job is the foundation, and have a certain social background.
Engagement and marriage ask for a high bride price, which is also the main reason for the emergence of "sky-high bride price", women have high requirements, and men are under great pressure, resulting in many men having a "fear of marriage" psychology.
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Fourth, the fear of men.
Living in the countryside for a long time, afraid of contact with the outside world, lack of self-confidence, closed information, relatively withdrawn personality, not good at expressing true inner thoughts.
Even a good man who can't talk sweetly will be disliked and disgusted by women in the new era. Living in the countryside for a long time, out of touch with social development, even if you meet your favorite girl, you are at a loss, there is no family background and material conditions to support, and you will not be pretty, it is difficult to be liked by women in the new era.
In the online world, the list of high-quality authors often has women expressing their personal views on marriage: what does marriage bring to women? On the contrary, men also sighed: What does marriage bring to men? How can we effectively solve the problem of "bachelors" in rural areas having difficulty marrying wives? Food for thought.