&The feeling of powerlessness of the bystander&
Is it true that there will be people who will never grow up? Even if you are already a parent, even if your family is broken, even if your life is a mess?
At what stage does a person understand that he needs to be responsible? When a person grows up, he must know to be responsible for himself, right?
As a child, you must take responsibility for your parents; As a parent, you must take responsibility for your children; As a person, should you also take responsibility for yourself?
Why, I always see some people who seem to be enjoying themselves even after living in the four walls. With the attitude of living one day at a time, not impatient, not working hard, living like a mess, I was dumbfounded.
The people around him have long been anxious about his situation, and even got angry, and even tried to influence him and make him reform. Who knows, it's quite a bit of a meaning that the emperor is not in a hurry and the eunuch is in a hurry, and people don't take it seriously at all, and they still waste their time like that.
I don't know if I have already given up on life, or if I was born with a good attitude, and I didn't take the current difficult situation to heart at all. Watching him fool around eating and drinking, fooling his days, and fooling himself, no one can understand him.
I think the time has not yet come, and when he can't go on with such a fool, he must be in a hurry. However, to my great disappointment, even to the point where his ass was on fire, he was still fooling around so carelessly.
Not only did he not try to cope, but he also learned how to evade it with one hand. He lay on the bed, put on headphones, listened**, watched martial arts**, and the whole person was immersed in the online world.
I don't know if the chivalry and pride in the martial arts world have touched him, in the virtual world, he may think of himself as a hero. However, in the real world, he has long been as weak as a puddle of mud.
Seeing him like this, there was no one who didn't want to wake him up with a slap. However, no one but himself could wake him up, no one could wake up a man who was trying to pretend to be asleep.
If you say that he does not understand the world, I will not believe it. He must have known what he was facing, so he chose to run away. He thought that if he didn't look at it, it didn't happen, and that if he didn't face it, it was solved.
To sum up, he is still a child. When I made a mistake when I was a child, I secretly hid, my parents were angry, and the problem was almost solved. Now, his parents are no longer able to shelter him, and if he hides like this, the trouble will only get bigger and bigger, and he doesn't even realize it.
He is still so childish, he doesn't know how to be responsible for his own life, and he always wants to live his life next to a big tree. As everyone knows, sooner or later, one day, no one can be his big tree, and no one can help him hold up a blue sky.
At that time, wasn't he still growing up? Growing up passively is painful, and he is destined to suffer a big loss, I think.
&It's all self-inflicted&
I've heard of a couple of people who are doing quite a bit of a bad job. Some wives were separated, some families were ruined, some were financially bankrupt, and some were imprisoned. None of them were born to be such a person, and some of them had a good hand and ended up playing poorly.
Looking at these people, I found that they are indispensable for several characteristics: cowardice, incompetence, evasion, lack of responsibility, courage and no strategy. Counting the life experiences of these people, without exception, all the bad endings are of their own making.
The worst outcome does not happen suddenly, it is the accumulation of little things in life, the various choices in life are interlocking, and it is the result of a person's character, habits, style of doing things, and life standards.
They are living in such a wretched bag, not because of fate, nor because of bad luck. This is what they have come out of step by step, and the answer can be found in the minutiae of life, and coming to this point is an inevitable end, without any other possibility.
It can even be said that the existence of some fatal injuries directly triggered the butterfly effect, leading to tragedies one after another.
For example, a man who has no responsibility has always avoided and never solved things in the face of things. It won't be long before his wife leaves him, and his family is torn apart. He will lose his job due to lack of responsibility and therefore the economy**.
With no family and no job, he is forced to take some shortcuts, such as usury, such as doing something illegal. Later, he was unable to repay the loan and was blacklisted, and in some cases, jailed for breaking the law.
He wasn't a bad guy in the first place, he just had a big flaw. However, this shortcoming was enough to break up his family and paralyze his life. Even if outsiders try to help him turn it around, they can't change the trend of his deterioration, and when the bad trend comes, it will be unstoppable.
The poor man must have something to hate, and we think he is pitiful, but we don't know that he is self-inflicted and cannot live.
&Adou who can't help me&
Every time I see these "children who don't grow up", I am very wary of education. Parents love their sons as their lives. However, as parents, it is their responsibility to raise their children.
Parental love is not just about pampering and doting, but also about helping children grow up. It is necessary to let go in a timely manner, let children bravely explore the world, cultivate children's ability to think independently, and exercise children's ability to solve problems independently.
Parents can act as companions and listeners, but not as counselors and guides forever. If a child wants to surpass his parents, he cannot always live according to his parents' thoughts. At some point, the child will become an independent individual, an adult through and through.
Zhuge Liang's great talent and wisdom still can't help Adou Liu Chan, causing the country to fall into the hands of others. We are not Zhuge Liang, and we can't let our children become Adou.
Parents love their children for far-reaching plans", every pair of parents, for their children's education, should have a long-term vision and thoughtful consideration. We must know that we can only accompany our children for a while, and in the future, children will have to go down on their own.
Love is understanding, respect, and letting go. If you love your child, let your child fly, and the higher you fly, the better. We can only be a refueling station for his flight, not to tie his hands and feet in the name of love.
The child has what he should do, don't stay at home when he goes to kindergarten, don't go to school when he should live in high school, and let him choose the city where he goes to college. His world needs to be explored by himself, and no matter how strong his parents are, they can't replace one or two of them.
Be sensible parents and raise capable children. Don't wait until one day to find out that your child has not grown up and regret it.
&Conclusion&
The world is cruel, and it allows a child to grow up for a short time, and it will not allow a child to grow up forever.
A child who does not grow up must go through a heart-rending pain before he can realize how precious it is to grow up.
Time flies, and I can't wait for a person to grow up slowly. When all shelter is gone, the child who does not grow up will be thrown in front of the world in an instant, and it is useless to escape, only to face it.
I only hope that the children I know who have not grown up will grow up as soon as possible and take on their responsibilities.