Valentine's Day, for the relationship between unmarried men and women, is probably a festival to see a person clearly and clean up the relationship.
Because from the holiday "greetings", you can see whether the other party is sincere to himself, or hypocritical.
Those who pretend to be stupid, a simple blessing is omitted. 8 There is not a single gift, usually talking about love, but now talking about many material things, all on this day, all see clearly.
For married people, it is a bit pitiful to swipe red envelopes in the circle of friends on Valentine's Day.
1. "Exposing" red envelopes to transfer money shows that the family's economic power is not in hand
The more people lack something, the more they show off.
What do you want to illustrate by posting screenshots of transfer red envelopes and gifts? Is it to tell the people in the circle of friends that they are doing well, and that some people love and love and some pet?
Some people love and love each other, not reflected in a red envelope during the holidays, but in daily life, the relationship between the two, and the dominance of the family.
If the economic power of the family is in his own hands, when facing this ceremonial gift, he will not have too many waves in his heart, but will feel that he is wasting money.
Because, this is just the left hand into the right hand, and it is better to spend money on flowers than to buy meat.
If you have the money in hand, you can buy whatever you want.
And if your husband dares to give you financial power in the family, it means that you have the right to control the common property of the family.
When a woman posts a transfer red envelope on Valentine's Day, either her husband usually doesn't pay much to her, and in all probability, the economic power of the family is not in her hands.
After all, the money has been handed over, and there is still money to send red envelopes?
2. "Posting" red envelope transfers shows that your strength is not enough
What's even more pitiful than posting a transfer red envelope is that she is always in the circle of friends, clearly stating that she is living a hard life with him, "asking for money" to buy vegetables and sell daily necessities, and she still has less than a woman.
A little trivial at home, such as having no money to buy diapers, drying a bunch of vegetables, shouting at her husband in the circle of friends, and not being able to afford meat after marriage, etc.
Finally, on my birthday, I posted an 88 yuan transfer red envelope sent by my family, and I had to laugh at myself and say that my family still loves me.
Women, only when they lack money and materials, will they care about these transfers and gifts.
If she has her own job, has a good income, has a rich life, and can be self-sufficient in living conditions, she will not look down on these hundreds or thousands of dollars at all.
If she can earn this money herself, she can give herself what she wants, and she will not magnify the gifts and red envelopes in the holidays, unless the amount is larger than she expected.
3. People who hold financial power have long lost the habit of "sunning".
None of the days when the palms are facing up will be better, because of the posture of "asking for money", even he looks down on himself, but because of taking care of children, he has to do this.
In their lives, they are bleak, they are tightened with food and clothing, and they can't even afford to buy something they want to eat.
Therefore, it is a happy thing to receive a red envelope during the holiday, and it touches the sense of ritual that the other party gives today.
And the woman who holds the financial power thinks that this day is just an ordinary day, but today the two will cook a table of good dishes together to celebrate.
Maybe my husband will also secretly save money in his own living expenses in normal times, save enough money to buy a gift, and surprise her on this day.
But today's surprise, for them, it is enough for them to perceive happiness, and outsiders are not enough to say it.
In fact, a woman's sense of security is given by money and trust.
The man trusts her and hands over all the money, which gives the woman a sense of security, but she loves this family more, saves money for this family, and saves money.
And the days will also be solid and fulfilling, and those flashy forms will be abandoned.
The family's money is in hand, and there is also the love of the husband, so I don't need to show it, and I am very happy every day.