Children have their own reasons for grinding. To solve the friction, parents need to be tolerant with love and help with patience.
All chickens, flying dogs, and jumping like thunder are all manifestations of incompetence and do not help.
Rebel against parents with procrastination
Many children are actually rebelling against their parents in a grinding way, or trying to get their parents' attention.
In either case, the parents' reaction should not be excessive, and it is necessary to first find out why the child is resisting the urging of the parents, and respect the child's will and feelings.
Because if the child does it on purpose, it means that they already have a personal awareness, and parents need to find out the reason behind the child's friction.
Many times children are actually very serious, and they are doing well in the face of their parents' orders, but they are not proficient in doing things, so the more parents urge them, the more they are in a hurry.
Therefore, when parents let their children perform tasks, they give orders step by step, such as the order "clean up quickly", which is very general.
Break down the steps for your child to complete: first have your child fold the bed, then put all the toys on the floor into the cupboard, and finally make the table.
In this way, the child can not only learn the steps to tidy up the room, but also complete it quickly and accurately, and have a sense of accomplishment in his heart.
Encourage children to complete every task, especially young children, praise is the best motivation for action, parents just need to pay attention not to false praise, sincerely encourage a certain behavior of the child.
Sometimes urging is a signal that parents subconsciously want their children to rely on themselves, because in the process of urging, children will act according to their parents' orders, and over time, children will form a dependency mentality.
Parents should be vigilant about their desire to control and let their children arrange their own time, because their children's concept of time is definitely different from that of their parents.
But the child also has his own fixed timetable, parents should give them the most basic trust, let the child do it, even if it is late, let the child bear the consequences of being late, so that they will change their timetable next time and speed up.
Many times, what parents think of as "slow" is actually imagining the bad consequences of their children according to their own standards.
If you really leave it to your child to do it, it may not have such a result.
Parents always think that their children can't do anything without their own urging and can't do anything, but the reality is not necessarily like this.
Every child has their own rhythm of doing things, and parents are disregarding their wishes and forcing their children to do things according to their own orders, which is actually depriving children of the initiative.
In the eyes of parents, children are full of shortcomings, can always find fault with their words and deeds, originally said that the child's shortcomings, while he is doing things, but also found another shortcoming of the child, one will say this and one will say that, in fact, it is also distracting the child's attention from doing things.
So let the child do one thing at a timeFor example, if you urge your child to do your homework quickly, don't care if the desk is messy or not, or if your grades are bad, otherwise you have to do your homework, but as soon as you say that the table is messy, you have to let the child clean up the table, which is to let the child develop the habit of not paying attention to things.
Especially when the child is concentrating on something, it is not allowed to urge or interrupt the child, which is not only distracting, but also makes the child resentful of the criticism of the parents.
Visualize the schedule
No one is born with the desire to be a howler mom, it's just that the way of parenting is wrong. Mothers can make a schedule for their children to learn and train from an early age, which not only allows parents to understand their children's time planning ability, but also allows them to understand the logic of time.
But remember, it's important to give your child time to play in order to strike a balance.
Use diagrams to train children to turn passive into active.
Benefits of Training Benefits:
1.Let the child know clearly that the goal is **.
2.Practice combining goals with the ability to look at the clock.
3.Remind your child to remember the rules that have been set.
4.There is more interaction between parents and children.
Time schedule clock training steps.
Lesson Plan Name: My Time Scheduling Clock.
Step 1: Make a daily time allocation with your child
Set a time with your child to do at home every day. For example: homework at 4-5 o'clock, 7 8 to take a shower, 10 o'clock to go to bed, etc
When your child has done it, you can paste the corresponding target sticker and record what you have done.
Step 2: Make a target sticker
Discuss with your child the stickers for all your goals, and your child can choose his favorite graphic stickers to strengthen his motivation.
Step 3: Start executing the time planning clock and teach your child to analyze
At the end of each day, you can discuss with your child what you have done today and what you have not done. For example: today I took the initiative to take a shower, which is great! But if you forget to take the initiative to do your homework today, today's clock will be one less tick...Let's continue to work hard tomorrow!
Some children may not be able to analyze themselves how they did it or why they couldn't. Parents can use guidance to guide their children step by step to recall that they have improved.
Step 4: Sustain and reward your child's initiative
The cycle of forming a habit is 21 days, when the child continues to do it, there is obvious progress, parents can take the initiative to give the child some rewards, take her out to play on holidays, you can eat snacks after dinner, play with favorite toys, and encourage the child, if there is no such table in the future, will you also remember, what things you should do?
The sooner parents guide their children to learn how to manage their time and adjust their own learning methods, the stronger their children's learning advantages will be.
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