Is this answer really that important? I don't think so, people should live in the moment, for example, when we are reading a book, there will always be a moment when we turn to the last page, and whether the ending is happy or regretful, in the process of reading the book, it will bring you different feelings.
Because there is a parting, you will cherish the encounter.
I am a Yi person, I have been from Yi for decades, and I have seen not 10,000 but thousands of marriages. During this period, I witnessed the rise and fall of many feelings, the loss of the original points, and some of the sins that could not be retained no matter how obsessed they were.
At the end of '22, a young man who had seen me before came to me again, this time to ask me to show him the marriage.
The young man said that he had been talking for several years, and that he was very suitable in all aspects, and at the end of the year, he planned to go to the woman's house to meet his parents, and he wanted to see when he could get married after the year.
After a while, I said, "It's been three years, and it's time to talk about marriage."
The young man blinked after hearing this, and said respectfully: "Yes master, we are indeed the third year together this year."
As soon as the young man finished speaking, my next sentence directly made him unable to sit still.
The good origin starts, the evil origins fall, I am afraid that there is no part of the original, and it has disappeared in a year".
Yes. What. I. Can't we get married, master? The young man stammered.
I shook my head: "I also feel sorry, but that's what it is, don't take it too seriously." Living the life in front of you now is the cherishing of this feeling. ”
The young man was silent for a long time. (Because I have seen it before, it has been verified, and the young man didn't ask much).
Later, after the New Year, he sent me a long message and was still puzzled:
He said that he went to meet his girlfriend's parents, and at the same time brought his girlfriend home to meet his parents. They are very supportive of the two of them being together.
Friends have also seen girls during the New Year, and they are all looking forward to and blessing them to get married soon, and no one objected.
Economically, two people have their own jobs, and their careers are not only thriving, but they are also very stable, and there is no big fork.
So after thinking about it, I really can't figure out why the two broke up.
To this, my reply message is still those four words - cherish the present.
Later, I saw the circle of friends, this year the young man took the girl to travel to many places, eat uneaten food, see the scenery that I have never seen, and the various ** taken by the two of them are also full of happiness, I once thought that the two of them were married and went on their honeymoon.
As a result, in October, the two of them quarreled, the cause was a small thing, but for some reason, this small thing involved a bigger contradiction, and finally it intensified, and both of them were miserable and broke up unhappily.
After that, the young man who had been on hold for a few days sent me a message, and he was puzzled.
He said, "Master, I don't want to leave regrets, so I accompanied her wherever the girl remembered." But I really can't figure it out, we are very suitable, I like her very much, why can't God give us results? ”
I told the boy, "Every period of sin will have its end day, but after the end, it doesn't mean that both of them are back to square one." ”
When the young man heard what I said, he was still a little puzzled. So I asked him to go back and think back to the experience of the two of us in the past few years.
It turned out to be less than a week, and the young man called me one night.
This time, he sounded a lot more energetic, and the whole person was full of energy.
He told me that he thought about it a lot when he went back. reminds me of 4 years ago, when the two of them first got together. At that time, he was very introverted, taciturn, and his life was very dark. Girls are cheerful, sunny, and have an optimistic attitude to face everything they encounter. The young man said that in the past few years together, the girl was like a ray of sunshine shining into his life.
She taught me how to be optimistic about life, and I must have left a mark on her. Even if we are separated, the growth and experience brought by this relationship will not disappear, but will become a part of me. Master, I now understand what you mean. That was the last thing the lad said to me, and he clearly had the best answer to the question of "encounter".
Destiny is indeed real, but the old saying is that things are man-made, and people will win the day. It means "the framework has been set, but what is the matter in man, that is, you can float up and down in this framework, how you accept it, how you live your life, this is up to you to decide." ”
The meaning of the encounter is not in the eternal companionship, but in the encounter and parting again and again, so that we can see the different differences between people, and then have a clearer understanding of the world.
From the process of meeting and parting, so as to allow yourself to grow.
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