Returning home for the Chinese New Year is not only a simple homecoming trip for many people, but also a final exam. In this special time, in the face of the torture and expectations of relatives and friends, every adult is undergoing the baptism of the soul. How's the work? How much did you get the year-end bonus? 、Is the object found? These questions are like test questions, waiting for you to answer. Every answer is like a label that indicates the results of your efforts outside, and every response may become the basis for others to evaluate you.
Have you ever felt stressed by a relative's questioning? Have you ever felt anxious answering these questions? Or, do these questions really reflect your growth and gains over the year? How many points can you score on this particular exam?
As soon as the Chinese New Year arrives, my sister and my brother and I will be tortured by the elders in the family.
The elders are actually very qualified, and there are no exaggerated evaluations with "personal attacks" like on the Internet, just casually ask how you are doing, and then you can basically see your score from their micro-expressions and attitudes towards everyone.
For example, when it was my sister's turn, I could see the appreciation and affirmation, the relief and hope in their shining eyes.
My sister, 985 doctor, 211 lecturer, is well married, the children are also very good, and she is very filial, she buys gifts for everyone every year, and usually helps her relatives do a lot of things.
It must be a full score, even in the family history written by my cousin, I have to deliberately write a paragraph of my sister as a representative of our generation.
I, working in a private company, was nothing, and was directly skipped. It is estimated that the score is also a failure.
My brother graduated from the Academy of Fine Arts, his father is a professor, his mother is an engineer, and he has a house in Beijing. He didn't go to the job he was given by his family, he felt that the working atmosphere was not good, he was unhappy, so he had to make his own studio, save works, and dream of industrialization. And as the only incense heir of our generation, he doesn't plan to get married.
If it's scored, he's pending.
Then the elders in the family gave my sister and me a task to persuade my brother to be pragmatic, first find a stable job, find a partner to get married, and after giving birth to a child, he will do whatever he likes in the future.
My sister must help the elders with this favor, know it with reason, move it with affection, and tell my brother the benefits of stable work and the necessity of getting married and having children.
But my brother is a tough breed and doesn't listen to persuasion.
Let him work steadily, he said that he hates to make reports, and he doesn't like to look at the leader's face, talk to the leader, and don't like this kind of life at a glance.
Let him get married and have children, he said that he would live with a woman **, and then become a child slave, and then look at everyone's faces, which made him feel frightened.
Then my sister said to me, it's your turn, hurry up and persuade him.
I said, I persuaded him? Am I worthy? He finally has a suite in Beijing, and he sold the house back to Shenyang, so that he can have enough food and clothing for a lifetime.
My sister said, okay, you better stop talking.
Then we began to discuss some social issues, my brother and I came to Shen'er, we talked eloquently, talking about things and terms that the elders did not know, as soon as the Tao was introduced, my sister quickly pulled it back, and what the elders did not understand, my sister quickly explained it in a language that they could accept.
At every party, in the comment on young people, I was useless because I was a girl, and my parents were incapacitated, and I successfully got forgiveness. The focus of the discussion was on the topics of persuading my brother to take a long-term view, to be down-to-earth, to establish a family, and finally to end the discussion with everyone praising my sister together.
Of course, in their eyes, I also have advantages, that is, I have a good attitude and attitude, like Xiao Cuier in Ma Dashuai (I don't know whether to praise me or bury me, I should praise me and thank them.) ）
Every time my brother secretly told me that he didn't want to come back for the next Chinese New Year, I begged him to come back, otherwise everyone would miss you more!
My real thought is, wouldn't you be more embarrassed if I wasn't there? I can breathe a sigh of relief when they say you.
This is my "final exam", there are no too exciting exam questions, the question type is a bit winding, sometimes I regret it, I don't work hard, and now I am just as lazy, I can't be as good as my sister.
Fortunately, this remorse was very short-lived, and as the feast ended, I returned to my own one-third of an acre.
I'm glad that my parents were also very ordinary, they never expected too much from me, and they never told me why you can't be as good as other people's children.
In their eyes, I didn't cause trouble outside, I was healthy, I was able to support myself, I didn't always care about their money, and I could do some housework, and they were already very relieved.