In people's traditional impression, marriage is generally when the woman marries into the man's family, and the child follows the husband's surname; But there are also some cases where the man lives with the woman after marriage, which is generally called marriage.
Marriage is nothing more than these two forms, but now in the Jiangsu and Zhejiang regions,Gradually, a form called "two-headed marriage" has emerged, there is nothing you marry me, there is no dowry, and it mainly reflects the equality of men and women.
As the concept of the new generation of young people becomes more and more open, there are more and more forms of marriage of "two-headed marriage", so what is the two-headed marriage all about?
In the seventies and eighties of the 20th century, in order to curb the situation of population growth,The system of "monogamy, one wife and one child" began to be strictly implemented in China.
In the eyes of many,Passing on the family and continuing the incense is the value and meaning of lifeBut after the implementation of the one-child policy, the continuation of many families began to change.
In order to continue the family, some families with only daughters have come up with various ways to "patch". The simplest solution isRecruit the man, let the man join the family of the only daughter, so as to achieve the inheritance.
However, with the general improvement of economic conditions and the implementation of the one-child policy, the possibility of changing the status quo with recruitment is becoming less and less, and even the bamboo basket will be empty, so in recent years, the form of "two-headed marriage" has been gradually implemented.
Two-headed marriage, also called "marriage with the family", it abandons the traditional marriage of men and women, and implements the practice of men not to marry, women not to marry, and the composition of the family is a small family composed of two big families.
The parties decorate the marriage room in their respective homes, and in the two-headed marriage, the man has no bride price and the woman has no dowry; The wedding banquet is also held separately on both sides, and the bride and groom are considered to "marry each other", and even the worship ceremony is held on both sides.
After marriage, the small family of the man and the woman is no longer limited to who lives in the house for a long time, but the family of the man and the woman alternates between them.
Having a child is also discussed by both parties, and many will discuss having two children, one child with the father's surname and one child with the mother's surname. For children, he only has grandparents, not grandparents.
However, small families should also bear the responsibility of supporting both parents and inheriting each other's property. These are the main forms of two-headed marriageHowever, the situation and requirements of each company are different, so the situation will also be different.
This also illustrates from the other sideThis form of marriage is highly negotiable. Their new home can be purchased at the expense of both parties, and the marriage ceremony can also be discussed on what to do, where to do it, etc., as long as it is coordinated.
Now some people on the Internet have begun to implement this marriage model, some time ago there was a hot topic, the marriage model of the first generation of Internet celebrity papi sauce made people open the door to a new world, many people were amazed,It turns out that marriage can still live like this.
Papi sauce participated in variety shows before, and talked about the way she and her husband get along on the show, Papi sauce is from Shanghai, but her husband is from Shaanxi.
They have spent more than ten years since they fell in loveThe two have been married for five years, and their parents have not met so far.
They didn't struggle with whose house to go to for the New YearEvery Chinese New Year, she and her husband go back to their respective homes. Because for the man's family, the son is very important, and for the woman's family, the daughter is also very important.
Whose house to go to for the New Year is the center of controversy, but in factBehind the Chinese New Year's home, there is a family reunion, and it is his children by his side, everything else is secondary, rather than the consummation of one side, it is better to be consummated on both sides, anyway, the man and the woman are together all year round.
So "papi-chan's marriage model is ahead of its time" is on the topic list, for young people in the new eraThis not only solves the controversial issue, but also allows me to accompany my parents for the New Year, the best of both worlds.
In addition to the Internet celebrity papi sauce, there are also small families who also practice the model of two-headed marriage. They are more classic, and this marriage model is also decided after careful consideration.
The man does not need to bear the bride price of hundreds of thousands, and the woman can also live with her familyThe house is as lively as an extra mouthful of people.
At the beginning, the woman also tried to recruit money, but there was no result, and after finally accepting the two-headed marriage, she found that this way was better.
The two families have become one big family, and their parents have now become "good friends", and they often visit the house and often go on trips.
For them, the families of both sides are like having an extra son or daughter, the whole family is happy, and they discuss and solve things together, and the relationship between the two families is also very good.
The New Year of 2024 is coming soon, and going home for the New Year has become a problem for many people.
Miss Li and her husband in Guangzhou have been married for six years, and they belong to a different placeWhen they were just a year old, they chose to go to the man's house together for the New Year, but Miss Li had a very bad year.
Regional differences make their living habits, language, climate, etc. differentMiss Li was particularly uncomfortable for the ten days of the New YearEspecially when I think of the coldness on my parents' side, it's even more uncomfortable.
So the next year, when her husband asked Miss Li to go home with her for the New Year, Miss Li refused, and the two quarreled over this issue and almost divorced.
Fortunately, the husband slowly calmed down, and he compromised after thinking about itThey went back to their respective homes, explained the situation to their parents on both sides, and then bought a lot of New Year's gifts, New Year's goods, and red envelopes.
That year, both of them were very happy for the New Year, and Miss Li got her wish to go back to her home to accompany her parents, and the taste of the New Year at home was the same as before. Since then, they've continued this every year and continue to improve.
The couple will have a big meal together when they are separated, which is equivalent to the Chinese New Year's Eve dinner of a small family, and both families can accept this situation, so they have been in this mode for four years, and the relationship between husband and wife is better than before.
The biggest advantage of "two-headed marriage" is that there are no uniform rules, and they are free to arrange it according to their own circumstances. The rise of such a form of marriage also shows that for some families, the advantages of two-headed marriage are greater.
His benefits are number oneIdentification with the one-child family. We often say that "the daughter who marries spills the water", and since ancient times, the status of women has been very low.
A family gives birth to a daughter, spends money to raise them to the right age, and then marries into another family, and they can never come back, especially for families with only daughters, the daughter will not be able to stay with them for a long time in the future, and it will be extremely lonely and lonely.
But after the advent of the two-headed marriage,The daughter who marries out is no longer the water that is spilled, as long as the daughter is there, we are a big family, and marriage has not brought much change.
This has also changed the phenomenon of preference for sons to a certain extentAnyway, the daughter can also inherit the family. Equality between men and women is gradually becoming equal, as is the family structure and the distribution of property.
The second benefit is:Reduce the pressure on both sides. Now many families are divided because of the bride price, and it is clear that the relationship between men and women is goodBut when it came time to talk about marriage, he broke off his relationship because of the bride price.
The list goes on and on, and the huge economic pressure is not only for both men and women, but also for the families behind both parties. The man does not have to pay the bride price, and the woman does not have to pay the dowry.
This money can be used to build a small family, which greatly reduces the financial pressure of marriage. After marriage, they can also discuss whether to take turns to go to each other's homes for the New Year, or go back to their respective homes for the New Year.
The third point is that everyone will have more self. Now everyone has a cognition, that is, after the woman gets married, it is okay to go back to her parents' house for two days, but once she lives for a long time, she will be gossiped about by the neighbors.
But in the midst of the two-headed marriage,Even if the woman lives in her mother's house for a long time, the people around her will not talk nonsense, and the woman can also take care of her parents.
After the two have a child, if they need to work, then it is okay to take turns to hand over the children to their respective parents, if one of the children takes the father's surname and the other takes the mother's surname, then it is enough to take care of the grandparents directly.
Although the existence of two-headed marriage solves certain problems, it still has disadvantages in some aspects.
First of all, the two-headed marriage is closely related to the property of both families, although he has reduced the financial pressure on both parties to a certain extent, but life is only two people living together after allIf the gap between families is too large, the concept of consumption and the property interests after the conflict are all situations that need to be considered.
Because of the different forms of marriage between the parties,Men and women will also have different starting points for decision-makingIf family expenses, raising children, etc. are not clearly discussed, then the economic impact on the relationship between husband and wife will be very serious.
In order to avoid this happening, most of the family backgrounds of the two parties need to be the right one, so that even if there is a disagreement, there will not be much dispute over the property.
Furthermore, if both parties have a child with the father's surname and the other with the mother's surname, the birth of the child is random, and the family is more inclined to girls and boysChildren with two surnames are not conducive to the integration of the family.
They are obviously born to the same parents, but the difference in surnames will make them feel unfamiliar, and if they don't say it outside, everyone will rarely think that two people with different surnames are family.
However, if the family education is better, the unfamiliar situation will not happen, and now with the opening up of society, this situation is gradually accepted by people, and it may become the norm in the future.
In fact, the development of the times has made many people look down on some things, such as whose surname they have, and for example, they must have a son, etc., which are not necessary for young people.
What people really care about now is whether the small family can live happily, whether the children are wronged, etc., as long as the couple will live a harmonious and beautiful life, it is better than anything else.
As for the two-headed marriage, it is only the third form of marriage independent of the marriage of men and womenWhich one to choose, what kind of life to live, you need to make a decision according to your own situation.
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