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In relationships, every relationship is fluid. The people around us are changing, and our relationship with them is also changing.
Whether it's a friend, a colleague, or a romantic relationship, when the other person treats you like this, they are alienating you. You should recognize such signs in time, handle the relationship well, and stop boring yourself.
01: The communication is short and not deep
When a person begins to distance themselves from you, you may feel that communication with them is becoming more and more ephemeral and lacks the depth and intimacy that it used to have.
Topics that used to be talked about for a long time can now be concluded in just a few sentences. Moreover, the other party's answer to your question has become simple and vague, full of perfunctory.
This phenomenon suggests that the other person may no longer be interested in you or is deliberately keeping their distance. He may no longer be willing to communicate with you, or he may no longer care about your problems and feelings, in which case it will be difficult to communicate deeply and meaningfully.
When communication between you can't take place, it's hard to sustain your relationship.
02: Less and less contact and meeting
Feelings need to be maintained, and this maintenance mainly depends on contact and meeting.
If you notice that the other person is reaching out to you less and less, or only responds when you reach out to him, then it's likely that he's distancing himself.
Although sometimes people's lives are busy, when a person is really willing to stay in touch with you, he will find the time and opportunity to contact you instead of responding to you perfunctorily and casually.
This situation may not necessarily happen on its own, but may be due to the fact that the two people's life circles do not overlap, the pace of life is different, and the two people gradually lack a common language and communication topics.
But in either case, when you have less contact and see each other, your relationship is already a fact.
03: Avoid the opportunity to be alone with you
People who are close to each other are looking forward to being alone. Because the two of them talk about everything, they can talk more and have more fun when no one else is present.
But if a person starts to avoid being alone with you, the relationship between you has deteriorated.
In the past, you used to eat together, watch movies, or attend events together, but now he will find all kinds of excuses to avoid these occasions.
He may say he's busy, or already has other plans, but you'll find him showing up at other people's parties, just not inviting you to it.
He's not really that busy, it's just that he's deliberately avoiding being alone with you because he's no longer willing to share his time and space with you.
Maintaining a relationship is not a one-sided thing, and when we find that someone is alienating us, stop trying to get bored.
Sometimes we have expectations and hopes that the other person is just temporarily busy or that there are other reasons for distancing. However, when a person's attitude towards us changes significantly, we should face reality squarely and stop having illusions.
Instead of lingering in front of the other person or blaming the other person, we should be more free and easy, accept the other person's attitude and the estrangement of the relationship, and do not make pursuit and urgent actions in order to save the other person's relationship.
Instead of focusing on pursuing someone who is no longer interested in you, spend it on someone who really cares about you.
Most importantly, we learn to take better care of and value ourselves. When our hearts are strong and full enough, we are able to calmly deal with any estrangement and change in the relationship.
In your life, the one who will never alienate you is yourself. Love yourself better than any relationship.
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