Jealousy, like a beast lurking in the depths of human nature, can make people lose their minds once it gets out of control.
When we see something that others have that we don't, it may be just admiration and envy at first, but over time, this envy can gradually evolve into jealousy and even hatred.
Friends who were originally close may drift apart because of the fire of jealousy in each other's hearts. Innocent friendship becomes unrecognizable under the erosion of jealousy, and ends up hurting each other.
When you find someone treating you in this way, think about the reasons behind it, and maybe help us look at each other's behavior more rationally.
01 Love to compete and compete secretly
Mo Lan, the concubine of the Sheng family in "Do You Know", has a distinct personality and is jealous. She is always secretly competing with her daughter-in-law Rulan, competing for her father's favor, the reputation of a talented girl, and a better marriage.
Whenever she had the opportunity, she would have an argument with Rulan and sneer at Minglan as she was cowardly and incompetent and couldn't set off the storm.
In order to climb the high branches, Mo Lan even did not hesitate to sacrifice her reputation and had secret correspondence with Liang Han.
She seems to have taken the lead in the family and got the most resources, but her selfish behavior makes her mother's family feel cold.
Jealousy is a strong emotion that makes people constantly compare with each other and distinguish winners and losers.
Those who are always jealous of what others have but do not have themselves, tend to pursue it by any means, even at the cost of harming others.
We must be vigilant against such people and not be easily used and harmed by them.
In this complex world, we need to keep a clear head, not blindly pursue the so-called "perfect life", learn to cherish what we have, and be grateful for the little happiness around us.
Life is not a race, it's a journey. Only by appreciating the scenery along the way and feeling the beauty of life with a peaceful mind can you truly live your own life.
02 Deliberately slander and secretly smear
People who are full of jealousy in their hearts are always good at weaving lies and secretly slandering others.
They are eager to surpass you, and they will do whatever it takes to do so, even to leak your privacy and create malicious rumors in order to ruin your reputation.
When you interact with them, you will find that their words are always full of hypocrisy and malice, and they don't really want you to be happy.
On the surface, he is intimate with you, but behind the scenes, he is suspicious, and he is good at stabbing you in the back, making you bear countless notoriety, making the people around you suspicious of you, alienating you, and thus ruining your development opportunities and future.
They don't do what you do to be sorry for them, but out of jealousy deep down.
They can't help but make up lies and spread rumors, hoping that everyone will isolate you and misunderstand you, so as to gain more recognition and superiority.
In the face of such behavior, we must learn to remain calm and rational, and not to be easily deceived by their lies.
Learn to protect yourself, expose their true colors in time, and let those around you know their true colors.
03 Deliberate suppression, undermining confidence
When jealousy grows in a person's heart, they will begin to reject you from the depths of their hearts, refusing to accept and recognize your existence.
As Shakespeare once said, "Envy is the weed of the soul, which steals the harvest of others." ”
When you are faced with a choice and hesitate, they will not give you encouragement and support, but will mercilessly point out your weaknesses and exaggerate the risks that things may bring.
Their purpose is not to care, but to stop you and deprive you of the possibility of success.
They are deliberately trying to suppress you, trying to destroy your confidence and make you dare not take steps easily.
Such a scheming person thinks that in this way he can be above you forever and make you breathless.
Those who are jealous of you, they try to hit you by all means, devalue your abilities, and ruin your mood.
In the face of such people, we may need to stay away for a while and give ourselves some time to sort out our thoughts and adjust our mood.
We need to think deeply about the other person's true intentions and whether they deserve to be considered a true friend. A true friend will support you when you're confused, not a rock.
Conclusion
On this tortuous path of life, we will always meet those who are jealous.
They spend their energies on pointless comparisons and attacks, as if the whole point of life is to surpass others and suppress dissent.
We need to be vigilant against such people, because the negative energy and malice of these people often cause us unnecessary trouble.
At the same time, we must always believe in ourselves, strengthen our beliefs, focus on our career and life, and strive to do our best.
As the saying goes: "He is strong, he is strong, and the breeze blows the hills; He is crossed by him, and the bright moon shines on the river. ”