Life is rich and colorful, just like diamonds have many facets, each side is a role in our life, how we perform in each role, whether we are satisfied or not, together determine our happiness index.
Spring Festival family reunion, looking back on the old year, looking forward to the new year, the pursuit of happiness, let's work together how to do a good job in every important role in the family, let love flow.
CHAPTER VI
"The Way of Happiness" is the "way of being a human ancestor".
Today, let's take a look at the way of our ancestors.
Grandparents, grandparents and grandparents love their grandchildren and granddaughters very much, they are afraid of melting in their mouths, they are afraid of breaking in the palm of their hands, they obey their words and respond to their needs, and they unconsciously turn love into doting without knowing it, and even become a refuge for children to make mistakes.
There are also, the elderly are very hard to take care of the housework and children, but they are not understood and recognized by the children, the difference between the educational concepts and living habits of the two generations also makes the old people full of sadness, and the children are also full of grievances, because the problem of education is related to the fierce outbreak of contradictions are also frequent.
Everyone is because of love, but no one is happy, none of us want this to happen in our family often, as grandparents and grandparents, what is appropriate?
1. I need to be clear that we owe nothing to our children. We have raised our children, and we have done everything we can in the context of the situation, in our own circumstances and conditions, whether the results are good or not, whether we are satisfied or not, whether the children are satisfied with themselves or not, we have a clear conscience, we have done our best. We owe nothing to our children.
We don't have to compare ourselves with other parents, no one is better than whom, no one is better than whom, every parent is using their own ability to give the best to their children in their own cognition, even if we make a lot of mistakes in the process, do a lot of things that should not be done, a lot of things that should be done are not done, that is not our intention, our heart and starting point is always for the good of the child, are all love for the child. You can never be wrong with that.
The second thing we need to do in the way of our ancestors: we and our children live our own lives.
We have worked hard all our lives, we have raised our children, our responsibilities have been fulfilled, we have paid enough for our children, it is time to take good care of ourselves and care for ourselves.
We need to have our own lives, take care of our own bodies, regain our hobbies, connect with our friends for many years, and a colorful old age life awaits us.
This is also the time for us to pay more attention to our loved ones. Caring for each other and supporting each other, making our bodies healthier, allowing us to live longer, and being able to spend more time with them is the best love we can have for our children.
When children grow up, they have their own thoughts, their own way of life, it is difficult for us to influence and change, they need respect, and they also need to take on the responsibility of family, life and education of their children. Let's take a break from our children's lives, live our own lives, and give them back to them!
The third thing that needs to be done in the way of being a grandchild: we are only helping to return the education of our grandchildren to our children. Children are busy with work and need our help to take care of the children, do we help or not?
Of course I have to help! We all want to help, but if we don't want to create contradictions and want to have our own life in old age, how can we have both?
The wise thing to do is to put the responsibility of caring for and nurturing the child back to the child, and we are only helping them when they need it, we are only helping.
What does it mean that the responsibility lies with the children? Leave the decisions related to your children to your children! The people who are responsible for the results of children's growth and education are children! When there is a disagreement between the child and the child in the process of growth and education, listen to the child.
Grandparents and grandparents, with wisdom, support children, family harmony, children responsibility, children grow up healthily!
Now for the highlights!!
The way of being a man of our ancestors:
Clause. 1. We owe nothing to our children;
Clause. 2. We and our children live our own lives;
Clause. Third, we are only helping to return the education of our grandchildren to our children.
Grandparents, grandparents, let's start enjoying our lives!
He Yanhong
Lecturer of Yiwu Maisui Flower Family Education Guidance Center.
Founder of Xinqizhuo Education.
Nationally registered second-level psychological counselor.
Coming soon
The way to happiness - the way to be a grandchild
* |Yiwu women.
Edit |Bao Jiahui.
First instance |Jin Jingwen.
Second instance |Wang Jingli.
Final Judgment |Jinchuang.