I want to go back to my happy hometown during the Chinese New Year
Why do young people "don't like" the New Year?
Writer Yu Hua once talked about this problem, and he publicly said:
To put it bluntly, three sentences are inseparable from money.
Four sentences can't get out of marriage.
All five sentences are about saving.
The six sentences are all sensible.
The seven sentences are all about raising you not easy.
The eight sentences are about you looking at people.
The nine sentences say that you have to fight for energy.
You can't complain, you can't shout tired.
Can't talk about feelings.
Can't talk about gossip.
On the second day of the Lunar New Year, someone from the family came.
It must be pulling his face to look at his phone.
It cannot be refuted when it is used as a talking point.
Young people don't want to celebrate the New Year.
It's because I don't want to find pressure, I don't want to feel uncomfortable.
After all, not all suffering is forgiven.
Today is the second day of the Lunar New Year, and it happens to be the day of visiting relatives, do you have a "deep understanding"? ?
In my opinion, this is the change in the attitude of young people towards the New Year, and he keenly pointed out several core reasons. These reasons are largely related to young people's life stresses, family expectations, social customs, etc.
The most direct manifestation of the change in young people's attitudes towards the New Year is that "three sentences are inseparable from money". This reflects the materialization of modern society and the helplessness of young people under economic pressure. On special occasions like Chinese New Year, family reunions and joy are often closely linked to the flow of money. Young people may feel particularly troubled by money problems during the Chinese New Year because of their poor financial situation or because they have not met their family's expectations. This pressure comes not only from one's own financial situation, but also from the expectations of family and society.
Personally, I think that "you can't get married" reflects the influence of the modern concept of marriage on young people. Marriage is seen as a milestone in many families, but modern young people are seeing marriage more and more diversely. They may be more inclined to pursue personal freedom and development rather than being bound by traditional notions of marriage. Therefore, during the Chinese New Year, young people may feel at a loss and confused in the face of the pressure of the family to urge marriage.
Third, "talking about saving" reflects the influence of the family on the lifestyle and consumption concept of young people. In many households, thrift is seen as a virtue, but excessive thrift may limit young people's freedom of consumption and personality development. At a special time like the Chinese New Year, young people may feel constrained and uncomfortable because they are asked to save. This pressure comes not only from family expectations, but also from society's influence on young people's consumption attitudes.
I believe that in real life, "sensible" is an expectation of maturity and responsibility for young people. During the Chinese New Year, family members may pay more attention to the words and actions of the young people, hoping that they will appear more mature and sensible. However, this expectation can leave young people feeling constrained and restricted, unable to express their personality and emotions freely.
It's not easy to raise you" reflects the family's emphasis on the nurturing grace of young people. This is justified to a certain extent, because parents do put a lot of effort and effort into the growth of their children. However, when this nurturing grace is overemphasized, it can leave young people feeling burdened with heavy burdens and responsibilities and not being free to pursue their dreams and lifestyles.
In my opinion, "you look at other people" is a manifestation of the psychology of comparison in the family. Family members may motivate young people to strive by comparing children from other families, but such comparisons often make young people feel devalued and denied. As a result, they may develop low self-esteem and frustration, and feel tired and disgusted with family reunions such as the Chinese New Year.
You have to be angry, you can't complain, you can't shout tired" reflects the family's expectations and requirements for young people. During the Chinese New Year, family members may place more emphasis on the achievements and efforts of young people, hoping that they will be able to get ahead and glorify their ancestors. However, such expectations and demands can be overwhelming and unsatisfying for young people, creating feelings of frustration and anxiety.
In addition, Yu Hua also mentioned other pressures faced by young people during the Chinese New Year, such as "not being able to talk about feelings and gossip", and being pulled to look at their phones at family gatherings and being used as a talking point. These pressures can lead to resistance and antipathy among young people, who feel that the New Year is a burden and pressure, rather than a time of joy and reunion.
In conclusion, I believe that there are multiple reasons behind the change in young people's attitudes towards the Chinese New Year, including economic pressure, marriage concept, consumption concept, family expectations and other aspects. The combination of these reasons makes young people feel less and less interested and enthusiastic about the Chinese New Year.
Therefore, we need to re-examine the meaning and value of the Chinese New Year, so that the Chinese New Year can return to the essence of family reunion and joy, reduce the stress and burden of young people, and allow them to enjoy this special moment freely.
At the same time, we should also respect the choices and values of young people, not overemphasize traditional ideas and expectations, and give them more freedom and space. Only in this way can we make the Chinese New Year a time of joy and reunion, and let young people rediscover their enthusiasm and anticipation for the New Year.