"Of course, there are drawbacks to potential marriage partners. ”
No one is perfect. Just as we ourselves have some flaws, we cannot expect others to be perfect.
Unless it's a matter of principle, there's no need to elevate things to the level of love or unlove.
But there are two things that men dare to do. This shows that he doesn't love you at all.
If you meet such a man, you must cut off your feelings for him as soon as possible and stay away from him, even if you love him again.
1.Often ignore your feelings and focus only on what's important.
There's an old saying that goes like this: "Be patient. Take a step back and the sea will become brighter. ”
But for some people, the more you tolerate them, the less they treat you. Think hard;
The more you withdraw, the more he will think that you are vulnerable to bullying and the more you will undermine the basic idea of getting along.
A man who often belittles you and influences your interests is unlikely to love you.
My cousin has been with her boyfriend for three years. When it comes to getting married, my cousin is at a loss.
I asked her why she was hesitant after being together for so long.
She even said that some things seemed to be just small things, but they still made her uncomfortable and caused inner conflicts. Isn't she too stingy?
After getting to know her, I found out that her boyfriend often chatted with her brother's girlfriend.
When he buys a gift for his cousin, he doesn't hesitate to take a picture of the gift and send it to her.
Whatever his cousin did that upset him, he would complain to the girl.
These things made her cousin feel very uncomfortable, but when she told her about it, her boyfriend innocently said, "You know what? "What can she and I do? We are not friends of the opposite sex, she is my brother's partner. ”
Over and over again, they all said it. Minmin's cousin said that when she and Minmin were together, she didn't want her boyfriend to have friends of the opposite sex because she didn't believe in pure friendship between people of the opposite sex.
Eventually, the cousin found that he didn't care about her feelings at all and chose to break up.
Someone who loves you will put your feelings first. Even if you're unhappy because of something else, I'll reflect on what I've done wrong to upset you.
Instead of touching your bottom line again and again, making you sad, making excuses to deal with you, ignoring your principles and feelings for your own selfish interests.
2.Emotional apathy, ignoring negative emotions.
The similarity between emotional apathy and relentless violence is that they both turn a blind eye to you.
Relentless violence is a form of emotional abuse, as is emotional neglect. Emotional neglect is worse than cold-blooded violence.
He usually loves you in deeds but neglects you mentally.
Such men can be happy and play with you, but they cannot tolerate your negative emotions. As soon as you are upset, he behaves naïvely and indifferently.
I read an article about a man without boundaries who is still filming with friends of the opposite sex at two o'clock in the morning. His girlfriend found out and was very angry.
Unexpectedly, the man said calmly: "She just came to see me on a business trip. You know, she's got a boyfriend. If we do something, we are already in each other's lives. You know that, but I don't know you. ”
That's the explanation, and I ignored it. The girlfriend was sad and angry, decided to digest her feelings and say hello to him the next day as if nothing had happened.
Such a man will subconsciously make you feel powerless. No matter what feelings and emotions you have about him, whatever you say or do, it's like beating cotton, there is no reaction.
Truth be told, he doesn't care about you at all. That's why he treats you like that. He is not afraid of you leaving, nor is he afraid of you being emotional.
Such a man is not worth your life. Living married life with such a man will only further weaken his energy.
Marriage is a woman's second life, and a woman who is nourished by love in marriage and a woman who is addicted to married life live different lives. ”
Stay away from men who dare to touch your interests. Stay away from men. A man who is indifferent to your feelings is usually of bad character and cannot afford to sacrifice his life for a woman.
I hope that every woman can meet a good man and get true love.