"Someone asked you for help, originally hoped that you would give 10 points, but you only helped 7 points, the other party felt that you were unfair, not only did not thank you, but felt that you owed him 3 points, and the grievance was quite deep. "In the world because of this. ”
Many people ask for help from others or offer help to others.
I don't ask for help unless I'm desperate. You can find a way to repay the borrowed money, but it is not so easy to repay the favor.
In the past, when others asked for help, I reluctantly agreed for the sake of face, but after encountering some bad things, when others asked for help, I no longer agreed easily.
When others help you, it's a matter of love, and it's not fixed and it's not easy to reciprocate. Even if you help others, they may not be satisfied, and in the end it will be in vain.
So don't start helping lightly. Don't try to avoid trouble in any way, just consider asking for help. When others ask you for help, you should think more carefully and do it according to your abilities.
Some time ago, a friend stayed at my house for a week. It's not that he has nowhere to go, it's that his relatives came to his house as a guest, and he couldn't stand it because of lifestyle problems, so he came to me for protection.
A friend of mine told me that when he entered university, his family was in trouble and couldn't come up with money, so he borrowed money from relatives to make up for the first year's tuition and the first semester's living expenses.
Those who reached out to us in difficult times will never forget this love. But relatives take advantage of their efforts and always ask friends for payment.
Two years ago, a friend of mine bought a house in town and moved his parents there. Sometimes relatives would come to the city under the guise of visiting relatives and stay at her home for at least a week.
Before my friend's parents left, they had to buy a lot of things, including food and necessities. They also feel safe.
Sometimes help can seem like a deal. Helping others is like investing; If you invest in the right people, your money will increase, and you can ask them about anything in the future, but if you invest in the wrong people, you will lose money and throw in the towel.
There are always more solutions than problems. When you have a problem, try to find a solution on your own. Don't think about asking for help. You may have to spend the rest of your life paying off the debts you owe.
When it comes to rejection, the simpler the better. It's obvious that someone else needs your help, but if you spend too much time explaining, you'll feel like you owe something to the other person. "If you can help, you can help. "You do. If you can't help, just say no. ”
Some are ungrateful. Even if you help them, they will continue to suspect that you are not doing your best.
I used to know a very caring aunt. She often asks others for help, and when others help, things go well, but she always feels that others are taking advantage of her.
The pork sold in our hometown is also very low. One day, my aunt heard that a colleague was going to that town to buy pork, so she asked me to buy some pork for her.
Subsequently, a colleague bought meat and delivered it to her home. She bought a lot of things, ** for less than we knew.
Unexpectedly, as soon as her colleague left, she took out the scale at home and weighed it again to see if there was anything missing. Later she told us that the ** of that piece of meat might be cheaper than what her colleague had told her.
A friend of mine had a younger sister who couldn't stand it anymore and criticized her directly. "Didn't I drive more than 20 kilometers and didn't pay for the gas? Isn't my time worth it? If I have to be suspicious of others, why should I let them do it? You can buy yourself one, and you will never worry about others taking advantage of you one day! ”
Some people need to know how to say no even though they can. Whether you help them or not, they are not only ungrateful and narrow-minded, but they may even be plotting things for you behind your back.
When you need help from others, you realize that the person you can trust the most is yourself. After helping a few people, you realize that not everyone deserves help. ”
Think about everything. In fact, there are a lot of you. how to solve a problem without seeking help from others;
Just like the person who comes to you for help, you should pay more attention to whether you can help and whether you deserve it. That doesn't mean you have to force yourself to accept it. — This is called face.
Kindness should be given to the deserving person, not to the so-called actions of others.