Girl's Marriage Choice: Vicious relatives originate from the doting of parents, what you don't understand is who will provide for you in old age?
Evil relatives", It is because of the doting of her parents that this girl will break with her relatives: who is the old man, don't you understand?
A well-known figure once said, "They drive us crazy, but they watch these attacks calmly and end with our recklessness." These words have touched the hearts of many people. Emotionally, the most important question is whether the other person is suffering from you, not how you perceive him.
There are rumors circulating on the Internet that siblings are arguing over favor. Many people desire a child, there is no contradiction. However, it doesn't matter, what matters is not how many people there are in the family, but whether the parents are loving and wise.
Does the child represent the complete pampering of the parents? Not necessarily. A woman in Liaoning Province said in a statement: "I have made up my mind not to return to my hometown, I will move overseas". She is a child from the countryside, and she is the only daughter in the family. However, she and her dad don't get along well.
When I was in college, my classmates in the dormitory learned that she was the only daughter in the family, and they were very jealous: the only daughter could have her own bedroom, and she didn't have to worry about her parents' partiality, and everything was her own, which was great.
However, this idea may just be a fantasy about a child. But they may not have realized it yet"Preference"The term is not used only among peers. A long time ago, this girl had realized that she valued the relationship between father and son more than this extended family.
Unbeknownst to the girl, she had provoked her father's brother, who was her father's brother, and was therefore punished for any dinner party at home. Sometimes, she would be severely punished for her performance, and sometimes, she would joke about her daughter, saying that she was not as good-looking as his sons, and that if she got married, her future would be affected.
However, she was not happy at all. She wanted to get the pity of her parents, but she expressed her dissatisfaction with her father, and all she got was a meal"Education"。
Such scenes are commonplace, so the 26-year-old still maintains a stiff relationship with her father. As soon as she graduated from college, she returned to China and has been with her mother ever since. And during this time, it was a change again and again, which shattered all her expectations.
Evil relatives"Behind is the doting of parents, in "Know", the girl decisively cut off the contact between relatives, including this paragraph: "Do you know that my mother is stupid, she helps her relatives without principle, and she usually never discourages, and finally makes such a scene, which not only ruins her marriage, but also affects the family."
The man reflected that in the past, he to:"Filial piety"As an excuse, even when he found out that his mother had made a mistake, he did not dissuade or stop it. This is not true filial piety, but the recognition of the fault of the elderly, and the rebelliousness.
But in reality, it is difficult for Chinese society, especially the elderly in the lower strata of society, to find a rational solution to the problem. Many meaningless conflicts come from parents who do not have the ability to discern.
It is an abnormal and immature concept to think that in one's own family, relatives are more important than their wives and children. However, our society does not allow the younger generation to correct their parents' mistakes.
The last time she came home, she was reprimanded by her grandfather because she didn't have a boyfriend. She had to tolerate people who never really cared about her"Teachings", because her life outside is not easy in the first place.
The girl couldn't take it anymore, and the emotions that had been suppressed for several years finally exploded, and she said what she really thought, and left angrily. The father opened his mouth, and just as he was about to defend himself, the mother said angrily: "It's all because you spoiled the child!" "In front of her, in front of her, treat her as a good person.
In fact, compared with those nosy and venomous relatives, her father's coldness and bullying of her hurt her more. She knew in her heart that the reason why those bad relatives were disciplining her so domineeringly was probably because their father had said something bad behind her. Even these gossips often reach her ears from her relatives.
Is this contradictory "Chinese-style education" benevolent or insensitive? Sometimes, "Chinese parents" are difficult for people to understand. If you talk about them"Mercenary"They are very wrong, they value family relationships very much, and they don't just care about their own family.
Some parents raise their children simply because they fear they will get old. Which is more reliable, the eldest son pension or the daughter? This perception does not seem to take into account the harm that children will suffer.
with"There is life"To describe these creatures is inaccurate. If you can't even love your children unreservedly, then what else can you do? In any case, this is a very strange phenomenon, and it has aroused the interest of many people.
Either way, it's not worth mentioning. At the same time, it also reminds teenagers to recognize the facts as early as possible and not to have too high expectations for the changes of the elderly, so as to avoid being swayed by the social atmosphere.
One physician said that the only way to avoid the condition and pain was to leave. To live better, to respect others, and not to be swayed by your own thoughts.
Some of the post-00s said frankly: "I have been separated from those relatives, am I still afraid of being separated from them?" Instead of caring about them, they blame them. Do you want to break up your loved ones? "
Have you lived up to your parents' expectations?