I have encountered all kinds of emotional problems, and there is one kind of person who is the majority. That is, he already has a decision and position in mind, but he still has to seek advice from others.
I believe that you must have such friends around you, such as complaining that your boyfriend is a scumbag, you persuade her to leave, and she makes excuses for herself and the other party; always can't let go of an old relationship, obviously the other party is no longer in love but still has to seek a means of redemption, while saying that he will let go and entangle to insomnia; Unknowingly, he became someone else's junior or Xiao Wang, knowing that there was no result if he continued, but he was still struggling and pulling.
It is useless for these people to listen to the advice of others, because it does not match the answer in his heart, he has to find someone who supports his decision, no matter how bad that choice is, at least he can put the blame on others and hypnotize himself: "Because so-and-so said this, I decided this way." ”
I don't like to endorse anyone's decision, of course, I can judge and analyze how the person concerned is most suitable, but if the other party listens to the suggestion and still can't think about it clearly, it is a waste of each other's time, and I can't help it.
There is a good saying: those who pretend to be asleep cannot wake up. You are blinded by the love ghost, and you want to find someone to exorcise the demon, but you must recognize:The real choice is clearly in your hands, and you have the right to make your own decisions.
We can only help those who are willing to help us, not allow ourselves to become driftwood that drowning people cling to. Usually when I find that the person has a preconceived idea that I can't help or lacks thinking, but just wants an answer from someone else, I will find a way to retreat from his question.
Only by maintaining a rational and neutral role can we not be entangled in endless entanglement, and can continue to help more people.
I believe that happiness comes from "choice", no matter how many people ask for advice or read more articles on both sexes, you must learn to make the right choice yourself, be firm in your choice, and most importantly, bear the results of your choice.
Sometimes I receive friends who share with me the change in relationship status after accepting my advice, and thank me for allowing her to meet the next better person and live a happier life! I would tell the other person, "Actually, you should thank yourself for making a choice and firming your decision after listening to my analysis and advice." ”
Before seeking advice from others on relationship issues, everyone should take a good look at themselves. Do you really want to get a solution by asking the question, or is it just an emotional vent? If you listen to bad advice that you can think about and accept, or do you have a fixed mind that you can't change or adjust at all? Not.
There are no solvable problems, only people who can't find a way and have no intention of solving them. When it comes to managing gender relationships, it may be more helpful to think a little more about yourself, make wise choices, and take responsibility for your own decisions than if you keep consulting others!