Hello everyone, I'm Seventeen.
Psychologically speaking, extroverts have the energy of the outside world – such as all kinds of social activities, all kinds of people, different occasions and things. They are energy spenders, spending long periods of time on the sidelines, contemplation, solitude, or spending time with another person, making it difficult for them to feel high. Introverts, on the other hand, have more energy than their inner world – such as thoughts, emotions, and ideas. They are good at conserving energy, but they are easily stimulated by the outside world and experience discomfort"Too much stimulation"Feeling that they need to limit their social interactions so as not to be overconsumed.
It's the new year soon,In 2024, I will try to be an e-person！The difference between E and I can be simply understood as E people are more extroverted and I people are more introverted.
I'm a 50%i, 50%e person. You can be very open in front of familiar friends, be the most authentic self, and will be the maker of many topics, chattering, and feeling like you have endless words. But in front of unfamiliar people, he will become reticent, and he will not say a word for a long time, and he will become a topic terminator. I believe that many people are like me, and this kind of half-I and half-e people are not in the minority.
Although this represents two different types of personality. However, I do want to be a little bit more introverted and less introverted in many situations.
I don't know if you have noticed that every time you have a dinner or party, e-people are always the focus of the crowd, and I feel that all topics are started around them, with their own highlight background. Speak freely at parties, be uninhibited, and show a high level of enthusiasm for everyone, sometimesAppear to be like an idiot, unable to speak, cold.
But I know in my heart that it's not that I don't want to speak, but that I don't know how to speak, and sometimes when the words come to my mouth, I'm worried that people are not familiar with me and become afraid to speak. Who wants to leave an image of a non-talkative person in front of so many people?
I don't want to, as the saying goesThe country is easy to change, and its nature is difficult to changeThis introverted and taciturn personality is inextricably linked to the environment in which we grew up and the education we received, and it is difficult to change it in an instant.
But! We need to consciously make changes, start with the following three small things in the new year, accumulate e-person attributes little by little, and slowly make ourselves more confident and more extroverted.
1. Pay more attention to your own thoughts
Many times, we already have an idea in our minds for many issues, but because others have already said it in advance, it is difficult for us to say what we think.
I'm afraid that I won't agree with others when I say it, so I simply don't say it for the sake of face. In fact, this will only make you more unconfident and more afraid to speak.
You might as well be bold, as long as it is your own opinion, express it boldly, and pay more attention to your own ideas. After saying that, even if others are not satisfied, what about us?
Chen Guo of Fudan University saidWhat others think of you is what they rate about you, so why should we care about what others say about you when they don't know themselves?
If you have something to say in your heart, you can express it boldly, and who will remember what you said in hours, days, or years?
2. Think slowly, speak slowly
On many occasions, when it is our turn to speak, we are all nervous. There will be symptoms such as involuntary rapid heartbeat and reddening of the face. Actually, the kind of extroverts around me who do the same.
What I found was different from me: they were physically nervous, but their brains weren't. They speak very logically, their thinking is very clear, and they all think about it before speaking. And I just think of what to say, and sometimes I even have a blank brain and don't know what to say, and I end the speech in a hurry**.
In fact, as long as we achieve one word "slow", the effect will be much better. Slow down your speech, let your brain slow down first, wait for your brain to think about it before speaking, and slowly build up your self-confidence.
It's not so scary to be slow, but the listener will have a better audio-visual effect.
3. Boldly question and refuse
I've found that introverts really have a harder time saying no to others. Take me in the past, I didn't dare to boldly express what I liked, and I was embarrassed to refuse when I encountered someone else's invitation.
The person who refuses this ** will think a lot, will he be unhappy if he rejects him? Will he not invite me next time? Or go for it.
In this way, many meetings went in a daze, time and energy were spent, not to mention, and it became more and more difficult for me to refuse others. In this process, everyone thought about it, but they didn't think about themselves, did they really want to go?
Follow your own type of true ideas, boldly question and refuse, and slowly get used to it.
That's all for today, and I hope these ideas will help you. Slowly become more outgoing and more confident.
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