There is a saying: "The success of a marriage depends on two people, and one person can make it fail." ”
The management of marriage depends on the joint efforts of two people, but if either party does not have the mentality of respect, respect and maintenance of marriage, does not take marriage seriously, or has a different heart, then the marriage will break down sooner or later.
There are always people who say that as long as the husband and wife are together and not separated, there will be basically no big problems in the marriage, nothing more than that they will usually quarrel and quarrel because of family trivialities, children's education, etc., even if both of them complain a little about each other, but they can see each other's emotions at any time, as long as one party perceives that something is wrong, stops in moderation, and knows how to bow his head, he will not make too much trouble.
But if two people live separately, they rely on ** contact on weekdays, and they can't see each other a few times a year, and after a long time, it's really hard to say whether there is trust between the two.
So, how can long-distance couples tell if there is something wrong with their marriage?
First, there has been a significant change in the frequency of contact and attitudes;
Communication is the most critical link for long-distance couples to maintain their relationship.
The husband and wife live separately, and they can only rely on ** to understand each other's situation and tell about their recent situation.
Because they can't be together, both parties cherish every opportunity to connect, and will try to tell each other what they find interesting and important, and at the same time will care about each other and tell each other to pay more attention to life.
In short, couples in different places can't say that they can't wait to contact each other every day, but as long as they have time, they will take the initiative to contact each other, they will want to talk more and share more with each other, and they will feel sorry for each other's difficulty.
If long-distance couples contact less and less frequently, and hang up after a few words, or two people always can't talk together, quarrel and lose their temper at every turn, and every time they contact, the other party's attitude becomes more and more impatient, and they always feel that you are verbose, no longer interested in what you say, and even not only say a few words about your own affairs, but also no longer care about and no longer ask about you and the situation at home, then, there must be problems in the marriage of two people.
Second, there is a gradual lack of transparency and distrust in money;
Money is one of the least important issues to face in a marriage.
A good marriage, husband and wife must be consistent and trusting in money, whether it is handed over to either party to manage the money, or each of them to manage their own money, both people are willing to pay for the family, regardless of who earns more money, who spends more money, and have good self-restraint, know when to spend, when to save, will not secretly spend and borrow money behind each other's backs, both people can save and save some money, accumulate a certain amount of wealth for the family, and make the family live better and better.
Couples in different places, if they want to have no differences in money, in fact, the trust between each other is not the most important, the most important thing is to look at their conscience: if they both have a sense of responsibility for the family, and can realize and feel sorry for each other's difficulty, then, whether two people give money to one of them for safekeeping, or one party gives money to the other party on time every month, everyone will not shirk, calculate, dissatisfied, and doubtful.
Because you know who he is, he can also give you a sense of security, and both people know that the other person is reliable and will work hard for the development of the family.
On the contrary, if the long-distance couple gradually becomes opaque in terms of money, one party is unwilling to tell the other party how much money he earns, and he is ambiguous about his distribution and control of money, and he is not sure of it, and even begins to be suspicious of the other party, and is reluctant or unwilling to give each other any more money, then one of the husband and wife must have a problem.
Third, find various reasons to shirk and even be unwilling to meet.
There is a saying: When you see the people you want to see, you need to run.
Regardless of men and women, for the people they like, worry about, and want to meet, they are always looking forward to having a chance to meet, and even can't wait to rush to each other as soon as they have time.
For long-distance couples, although they can't meet often, or they have to meet each other depending on their own time and arrangement, when both people still have feelings for each other and still attach importance to their families, they will definitely try their best to find time to see each other.
If one of the long-distance couples gradually does not want to see each other again, or always shirks meeting for various reasons such as busyness, lack of time, business trips, etc., or even when one party takes the initiative to meet and is avoided by the other party, then there must be a crack in the marriage.
Long-distance couples, although they must have enough trust in each other, they must still be careful and cautious.
If one of the couples has a significant change in the frequency of contact and attitude, and gradually becomes opaque and distrustful in terms of money, and finds various reasons to shirk or even unwilling to meet, then when these three "signals" appear, it means that there is a problem in the marriage.
The management of marriage depends on the joint efforts of the husband and wife, but the failure of the marriage can be caused by one person, if you don't want to let the small family that you have worked so hard to build go to breakup, then both people must be sincere, honest and responsible.