In the process of getting along with people, it is inevitable that there will be conflicts.
If we get too emotional at this time and let our emotions dominate us, then the situation is likely to get worse and worse.
Today, Xiaomei and Xiaojian originally made an appointment to go to the movies together.
In order to prepare in advance, Xiao Jian even took a leave of absence in the afternoon.
As a result, Xiaomei was 30 minutes late because her supervisor temporarily called her to deal with an urgent matter.
What was supposed to be a happy date turned into a series of arguments.
Xiao Jian kept emphasizing that she really had no choice because the supervisor's request was too urgent.
And Xiao Jian was angry because of Xiao Mei's tardiness.
Xiaomei felt wronged, Xiaojian felt angry, they were each occupied by their own emotions, they both thought it was the other's fault, and the quarrel was out of control.
But they forget that everything they did before was actually to be able to enjoy the time on a date.
If the quarrel continues, then even the original goal will not be achieved.
In fact, they can think differently.
Xiaomei is late, and the movie will definitely not be watched, but this is a fact that cannot be changed.
Xiao Jian can fully express his understanding of Xiaomei, and suggests that the two of them go to singing instead.
On the other hand, instead of constantly emphasizing that it is not her fault, Xiaomei should sincerely apologize.
After all, it was indeed because she made Xiao Jian's preparation come to naught.
In this case, Xiao Jian can offer to invite to dinner and continue their date.
No matter who you are or what the situation is, as long as you get emotional when you encounter a problem, it is difficult to deal with the situation objectively.
So, when we're in a state of emotion, we might as well calm down and think about what we really want.
Accepting the inevitable and working towards the original purpose from now on, this is what we really need to do.