Marriage is a mistake, divorce is awakening, remarriage is a fallacy, and remarriage is obsession.
This is a sentence that ridicules marriage, it is undeniable that marriage is the same as life, there is rarely smooth sailing, there are always various problems emerging in an endless stream, and some people will face difficulties when they encounter problems, and find ways to fight monsters and upgrade, so that the marriage can be restored to the right track; And some people choose to escape after they have problems, and even try to change each other by divorce.
35-year-old Xiao Li and his wife Xiao Jiang in the same year, the two are still from the same village, know each other's roots, from the marriage to now 11 years now, have two daughters, during this period the two marriage certificate twice, divorce certificate also saved two, so frequent divorce and marriage, what happened between the young couple?
His wife, Xiao Jiang, said that the family's big money is in her husband's hands, but he doesn't live at all and always spends money indiscriminately.
Once the sun panel was installed at home, and the manufacturer promised to return a sum of money in October every year, and in October of the following year, Xiao Jiang asked her husband if the money had been paid to the account, and the husband said no. For nearly a month, Xiao Jiang often reminded her husband of this, and her husband said no every time, and finally Xiao Jiang was anxious, she called the boss who installed the solar panel, but she didn't expect the other party to say that the money had already been called to her husband.
Xiao Jiang was very angry when he knew the truth, so he asked her husband where the money went, and finally under her questioning, her husband admitted that he bought an electric car and spent it, but after the electric car was bought, he put it at home and her husband didn't ride, he said that it was cold and rode with a frozen hand, the key is that her husband actually hid it from him, and he didn't discuss it with himself.
Subsequently, her husband spent more than 3,000 to buy a mobile phone, but he didn't hold it well when he bought the mobile phone, and he lost the mobile phone after a month, which made Xiao Jiang feel that her husband was a big spender and couldn't live any longer, so she filed for divorce, and the two of them went through the divorce procedures in a hurry.
When the divorce was more than half a year old, Xiao Li sued with his wife, promising to give her all the money in the future, and discuss everything with her, so that for the sake of the child's young age, the two of them remarried, Xiao Jiang agreed after thinking about it, and just like that, the divorce certificate became a marriage certificate again.
As a result, it didn't take long for the good days to happen, and Xiao Jiang found out that her husband began to lie to her again and cheat on her.
For a period of time, her husband Xiao Li went to the Northeast to drive a big car, usually about three days back and forth, but once he went for a week, Xiao Jiang was very worried about her husband, so she kept calling him ** to ask, Xiao Li said that the car broke down in the Northeast, and it took a few days to repair the car, so it was delayed.
Xiao Jiang listened to her husband's words and believed it, and then her husband came back and there was nothing unusual, but Xiao Jiang inadvertently found a ticket to Hainan when she was washing her husband's clothes.
Xiao Li explained that he had never been to Dalian Hebei Province since he was a child, and if he didn't go to the Northeast to drive a big car this time, he couldn't even go to the Northeast, and he also thought about taking his daughter-in-law to travel together, but his daughter-in-law was afraid of spending money as soon as he proposed it, and it wouldn't work at all to tell her, so he took this opportunity to go to Hainan alone for a few days.
Xiao Jiang said that her husband never understood the hard work of raising two children at home, and even went out to play by himself and spent money indiscriminately, which made her decide to divorce for a second time There is another thing that has been entangled in her heart for a long time, that is, her husband has never known how to respect his parents-in-law, and his husband has never called his father-in-law and mother-in-law since he got married, especially during the New Year's holidays, there are many guests at home, and her husband at most calls his parents-in-law with the word "you".
In this regard, her husband Xiao Li said that because the two of them are from the same village, he used to call his wife's parents the second mother and the second uncle, and after the two got married, he also changed his mouth, and called his mother-in-law once Mom, but the mother-in-law had her ears back, and she may have a little small voice, so her mother-in-law did not hear it, nor did she have any response, and since then, Xiao Li has never been embarrassed to open her mouth to call people.
Xiao Li said that the second divorce is not all his fault, his wife has been chatting with *** netizens for a while, at first he asked his wife, his wife still didn't admit it, saying that there was nothing to do, and then he secretly looked at his wife's mobile phone and found that the two of them still had ambiguous words, which made him very angry.
His wife Xiao Jiang said that she and the netizen had nothing to do except chat, and he also introduced customers to her, but no matter how she explained, her husband didn't believe it, and talked about this every day. The two divorced again for the second time.
After the divorce, the eldest daughter followed her father, and the wife took the younger daughter back to her parents' house, but the husband didn't care about the eldest daughter at all, and one morning he got up and didn't see the child, and he didn't look for it, so he went out to eat by himself, and then went out, but the child was knocked that morning, and the injury was very serious, and more than ten stitches were stitched.
Xiao Li said that he also blamed himself very much after the child's accident, and he realized the importance of his wife at home, and he couldn't take care of the child without a wife, and the family didn't look good, so he began to beg his wife to remarry, but his wife refused to agree anymore.
Xiao Jiang said that her husband did not let her see the change in actual action at all, and now although the two are still living under the same roof for the sake of their children, she has lost confidence in him, so she is very entangled in the matter of remarriage.
Regarding the practice of Xiao Jiang and her husband divorced and did not leave home, some tutors suggested that Xiao Jiang should move out with her children as soon as possible, end the relationship, and be an independent woman.
But starting from the actual situation of rural marriage, this kind of advice from the mentor is not in line with reality, I am a rural person, my daughter is married, especially if she is married, once there is any turmoil in the marriage, it will make the mother's family lose face, and if the mother's family has an older brother and brother who are married, then the mother's family has become a relative, and it is no longer the daughter's own home.
If a rural woman has a child, you let her be independent, this is simply too difficult, if she goes to the city to work, she needs to throw the child to her parents, so that the child becomes a left-behind child, if the parents live with the brother and sister-in-law or the younger brother and sister-in-law, it will undoubtedly increase their family conflicts.
The approach that most rural women choose after divorce is to find another man to marry as soon as possible, but Xiao Jiang obviously thinks more about the child, she wants to give the child a complete home with father and mother.
Two young people from the same village can come together, which shows that the two people still understand each other and have a certain emotional foundation, just because the man is too playful, does not care about the family, spends money indiscriminately, and the wife has no other way, and finally can only threaten divorce.
Things in marriage can't be judged in black and white, especially after having children, more aspects should be considered, and many things are often a slap in the face, Xiao Li and Xiao Jiang have no principled things, and the two of them are just not good at dealing with economic problems in marriage.
As her husband, Xiao Li is the economic pillar of the family, but he doesn't hand over a lot of money, and he spends money without moderation, which makes Xiao Jiang very insecure to live with him, because he doesn't know when the money will be spent by her husband. It's just that Xiao Li is a straight man, he doesn't know how to say good things, let alone coax his daughter-in-law, and he will divorce when he is angry, but in fact, he has the bottom in his heart, and feels that his wife can't completely leave him for the sake of the two children.
It can be seen that even after more than ten years of marriage, Xiao Li, who is already a father of two children, is still immature, and his sense of family responsibility is not strong, but marriage is a responsibility, but also a responsibility, as a husband and father, he should indeed make changes, respect his wife more, and give her more security.
Marriage is not child's play, don't get married hastily, don't divorce easily, don't toss about remarriage, family and talent are prosperous, only the relationship between parents and emotions in a family is stable, in order to give children a happy future.