In my memory, I always like to visit my relatives during the Chinese New Year.
Even if it is a dozen or twenty kilometers of road, it will not hesitate.
The journey was very pleasant, I like to go to my relatives' house, and I like to be lively with my relatives.
At that time, it seemed that I was quite close to my relatives.
As I grew older, I didn't seem to have such a mind anymore. Many young people seem to have become like this, they don't like to go to their relatives at all, and even start to break up their relatives.
It seems that young people have become apathetic, but in fact, they are not.
It's just that after a certain age, and with the change of the environment, the idea is different from the past.
Many relatives have long since become strangers.
In the past, most of the relatives were not far apart, and there was always contact with each other. Whoever has something to do, needs to harvest crops, needs help or something, they will come and go with each other and give help.
After coming and going, the relationship will naturally be closer, and the relationship will continue forever.
But now, relatives are often all over the city, even in the same city, the way of life is already different from before, there is no need to trouble to go to the trouble, and there is basically not much contact in normal times.
As there is less contact, and each other is no longer involved in each other's lives, the feeling in the heart often begins to fade.
They are just starting to be busy with their own lives, and they are just maintaining the circle in their respective lives.
As a result, the relatives who are more distant naturally have less and less movement, and they all choose to forget it tacitly, even if they are more intimate and occasionally get together, some of them just greet each other, as they said back then.
It's not a good feeling, it just looks awkward, and it makes people feel uncomfortable.
At first, you may be willing to tolerate it, but gradually you will feel more and more alienated, and you simply don't want to go to such an occasion, and you don't want to maintain such a semblance of peace. The feelings are weak, and there is no way to force it after all, so just go with the flow and don't have to be reluctant.
It's not happy together, it's very boring.
It stands to reason that relatives should care for each other for each other's sake.
Many relatives in real life, but not at all.
But it's just all kinds of questions, all kinds of comparisons, asking about salary, asking about grades, comparing their children, comparing whose family is better, etc., the scene is very discordant.
If you live well, you may be jealous, if you have a bad life, you may laugh again, which makes people very uncomfortable, there is not so much friendship at all, and few relatives will really want their relatives to live well.
Come to think of it, such relatives are just blood relations, and they are not so valuable.
Life is short, and today's young people are more and more concerned about the quality of relationships, and they are more and more concerned about their own circles, and they don't want to cater to anyone against their will, and they have to be fake close to whom.
After one or two times, I directly refused to go to my relatives, I really didn't want to go, and those who could not basically choose not to go at all, don't grieve myself. I prefer to be alone than to go to relatives.
Originally, the pressure of study and work was already very great, and when I could have relaxed well, I really didn't want to bear these messy things and deal with such meaningless feelings.
You don't have to get in touch, just forget it.
Between people, there is no blood relationship, they can be regarded as relatives, it is worth caring, and they must be held.
All relationships, that need to have a back and forth, need love to flow.
Really close, really care about each other, really help each other, for each other's sake, so naturally take it seriously, always cherish it, often come and go, get together together, don't lose this feeling.
That can be regarded as a relative, a very precious emotion, and no one will want to give it up if it feels important.
If you don't have these, some are just calculating, taking, ridiculing, indifferent, like strangers, not as good as strangers, losing your life will not have anything to lose, but will only become pure, then even if you are connected by blood, it is actually not that important.
After thinking about it a few times, many people will eventually be cold-hearted, and they will no longer dare to have any relatives, and finally choose to break off their relatives, actively or passively to break off these associations, and stay away from such relatives.
After all, that's not a bad thing, it's even good for yourself and your future life.
Even if it will seem a little cold-blooded and unkind, it is not so important, after all, it is your own life, and you have the right to make a choice, after all, what is going on, others do not know, only you know best.
There are always people who say that young people nowadays have become apathetic, but in fact, they just don't want to maintain those false feelings.
Important relatives, meaningful relationships, always maintain well, and keep in touch, will also take time to come to the door, especially polite, will show their respect and value.
Only those relatives who are not very important, do not know how to have contacts, do not have a good heart, and are even always excessive, young people will directly ignore them, directly do not like to go to such relatives, and break off with such relatives.
There is no intersection, and I will not look for it at any time.
are too lazy to give face to the surface, and they are unwilling to admit the relationship between each other.
In a few years, you will even forget that you still have such a relative.
There is no intersection, and there is no hope.
Text: Tan Meng.
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