Tomorrow (February 9, 2024) is Chinese New Year's Eve, and the next time is the annual visit to relatives, but this year is different, most young people's attitude towards visiting relatives and friends during the Spring Festival has changed significantly. The traditional custom of visiting relatives has gradually lost its attractiveness, and has been replaced by a kind of alienation and avoidance. There are six main reasons!
Reason 1: Marital stress.
During the Spring Festival, visiting relatives is often accompanied by the concern and expectation of relatives and friends, especially for unmarried young people, this pressure is more obvious. Parents and elders often frequently mention the topic of marriage in the process of visiting relatives, and even directly urge marriage, which makes young people feel upset. The fear of being forced to marry has become one of the main reasons why young people are reluctant to leave their relatives.
Reason 2: Income burden.
In traditional Chinese culture, getting together with relatives and friends is often accompanied by the exchange of New Year's money. However, with socio-economic development, young people are facing economic pressures. In addition to their own living expenses, they also need to consider the expenditure of the New Year's money for the elders and juniors, and now at least one person gives 200 yuan, more than thousands of yuan.
Reason 3: Comparison psychology.
In the process of visiting relatives and friends, people are often faced with comparisons and comparisons between relatives and friends. Whether it is personal income, professional status or family status, it may become the object of comparison. Young people worry that their performance will not meet the expectations of others, and they are afraid that their lives will be compared to others, which can lead to an awkward and unpleasant atmosphere.
Reason 4: Social anxiety.
Spending time with friends and family is more likely to trigger social anxiety than with strangers. Young people may feel uncomfortable because of the generation gap with their elders and competition with their peers. Coupled with verbal conflicts and disagreements between family members, it has become a social challenge to visit relatives during the Spring Festival, which discourages young people.
Reason 5: Friends first.
Young people are more likely to spend time with friends than with relatives. Communication between friends is more relaxed, and there are no constraints of family relationships. As a result, some young people choose to gather with friends during the Chinese New Year rather than spend time and energy visiting relatives.
Reason 6: Personal space.
Chinese New Year is supposed to be a time of relaxation, but visiting relatives and friends often shatters that calm. Long family gatherings prevent young people from getting enough personal space and increase their psychological burden. Therefore, some young people prefer to choose to stay away from home and find their own personal space and time during the Spring Festival.
In short, the main reasons why young people are reluctant to go to relatives are multifaceted, involving financial, marital, social and other pressures and troubles. And this phenomenon also reflects the changes in social structure and personal values, and represents the redefinition and choice of young people in the new era of lifestyle and social mode, don't you say? I don't know why you don't like to go to relatives anymore? Everyone is welcome to comment!
Why don't young people love to visit their relatives during the Spring Festival?