After fifty, these three privacy should rot in the bottom of my heart, don't tell my children
After the age of 50, I have passed half of my life, experienced ups and downs, and accumulated a lot of life wisdom. At this age of knowing our destiny, we should learn how to get along with our children and how to maintain family harmony. Sometimes, "pretending" is not only a strategy, but also a wisdom. In particular, the following three privacy, don't tell your children if you rot in the bottom of your heart, so as to avoid unnecessary troubles and contradictions.
1. Past emotional entanglements.
When they were young, who didn't have a few unforgettable emotional experiences? But these past events, with the passage of time, have long become a thing of the past. After the age of fifty, don't talk about these old things, especially in front of your children. These emotional entanglements may be incomprehensible and unacceptable to children. Frequent mentions can not only be distressing for children, but may also affect their respect and trust in their parents.
What's more, past emotional experiences are often accompanied by pain and regret, and mentioning it again will only make you fall into the whirlpool of memories and find it difficult to extricate yourself. For children, they want to see the happiness and satisfaction of their parents now, rather than the sadness and regret of the past. Therefore, rotting the emotional entanglements in the past is a responsible attitude towards oneself and one's children.
2. Partiality and disappointment with children.
As parents, it is difficult for us to be completely even-handed with our children. Sometimes, we may be biased towards a particular child or disappointed in certain behaviors. But these emotions and opinions are best not shown in front of your children. Because once spoken, it can cause irreparable harm.
Partiality can make the favored child become proud and complacent, while the child who is left out will feel inferior and resentful. Disappointment can undermine a child's self-confidence and motivation, making them feel that no matter how hard they try, they will not be recognized by their parents. These negative emotions and perceptions can not only affect the relationship between parents and children, but can also have a profound impact on the child's personality and outlook on life.
Therefore, even if we are biased and disappointed in our children, we must learn to keep it in our hearts and not say it. On the contrary, we should try to identify the strengths and strengths of each child and give them recognition and encouragement. This not only boosts the child's self-confidence and motivation, but also promotes family harmony and intimacy between parents and children.
3. Economic pressure and dilemma.
After the age of 50, we may face various financial pressures and difficulties, such as pension problems, medical expenses, children's education, etc. These issues may make us feel anxious and uneasy, but it's best not to mention them too much in front of our children. Because children also have their own lives and stresses, they may not be able to take on more financial burdens.
If we constantly complain about financial hardship and stress in front of our children, it will not only make them feel worried and guilty, but it may also affect their confidence and expectations for the future. Instead, we should try to solve the problem on our own or find other ways to alleviate the financial pressure. If you really need your child's help, you should communicate with them in an equal and respectful manner and discuss solutions together.
In short, after the age of 50, we should learn to be more mature and rational in our relationship with our children. The above three privacy is best rotten in the bottom of your heart, don't tell your children to avoid unnecessary troubles and contradictions. At the same time, we should also try to maintain a positive and optimistic attitude to face the challenges and difficulties in life and set a good example for our children.
In addition, we need to learn to respect and understand our children's ideas and lifestyles, and give them enough freedom and support. Only in this way can we build a harmonious and happy family, so that our children can grow up healthily in love and care.
In closing, I would like to say that no matter what kind of predicament and challenges we face, we must believe that life is always full of hope and possibility. As long as we maintain a grateful heart and a positive attitude, we will be able to overcome all difficulties and usher in a better future!