The eldest in the family is her mother, who also has an aunt and an uncle.
When my mother was 10 years old, my grandfather fell ill and was bedridden. At that time, the family was poor and could not pay for expensive medical expenses, coupled with limited medical conditions, my grandfather passed away soon after.
After my grandfather died, the family lost its support, and the livelihood that was not rich became even more difficult, and my grandmother did not remarry and raised three children alone, experiencing considerable hardship.
Her mother understood the family's predicament, and in order to reduce the burden on her grandmother, she voluntarily dropped out of school, gave up her primary school studies, and returned home to help with farming, and had to take care of her younger siblings.
When she was young, her mother was beautiful and a flower in the village. Many people in the village came to propose marriage, but my grandmother did not agree.
Later, the mother married a man from the town. After getting married, she and her father opened a stall in the town and ran a department store business.
The mother was fluent in eloquence and well-behaved, and gradually showed business acumen. As time passed, there was a steady stream of regular customers, and business gradually boomed.
With some savings, my mother and father rented a store next to their stall and opened a department store, and the business grew bigger and bigger, and the family life gradually improved.
My aunt has been smart and clever since she was a child, and her academic performance has always been among the best. It's a pity that in the year of the high school entrance examination, she failed to perform well and finally fell off the list.
My aunt felt guilty for not working hard. Her grandmother suggested that she repeat her studies for another year, but in consideration of the increased burden on the family, her aunt decided to go to Guangdong to work.
During her part-time job in Guangdong, my aunt had little contact with her family. She suddenly brought back an out-of-town boyfriend, causing her grandmother's dissatisfaction. My grandmother objected to my aunt's marriage far away, but my aunt didn't listen to advice because of her love impulse.
Despite her grandmother's best efforts, the aunt finally decided to marry far away from the north, more than 2,000 kilometers away from home. After marriage, due to the distance, the aunt rarely returned home, but it was rumored that her life in the north was not satisfactory.
When my grandmother learned about this, she cried sadly and declared that she would no longer recognize her aunt as her daughter.
My uncle has been fun since he was a child, he is not serious about studying, and he often fishes for three days and dries nets for two days, and my grandmother is very angry about this. My uncle dropped out of school as a teenager and followed his relatives to carry rocks on a construction site, and because of his short stature, he was emaciated and broke his leg bone a few months later.
Although the injury went unnoticed, the leg never healed. The uncle has not had a partner since he became an adult, and the matchmaker in the village introduced several girls, but after learning about the uncle's situation, they all politely refused, disgusting that the uncle was disabled and the family was poor.
Grandma was anxiously worried about her uncle's singleness and feared that he would become a bachelor.
Later, a relative introduced my uncle to a tall girl from other places, my aunt. My aunt was a lonely orphan whose parents were deceased, but she had no dislike for her uncle.
At the time of marriage, my aunt put forward a condition that my uncle would renovate the family's bungalow into a two-story building, otherwise she would not want to get married.
My grandmother had been farming in the countryside for many years and could not provide so much money. But if the house is not renovated, the uncle's marriage will face difficulties. As my uncle is getting older, it will be even more difficult in the future if he doesn't start a family as soon as possible.
After learning about the situation, my grandmother confided in her mother, crying and complaining. Her mother empathized with her grandmother's situation, and for her uncle's marriage, she privately took out all the family's savings of 20,000 yuan to repair the house, even at that time, which was already a large amount.
My uncle also scraped together some money himself, plus his mother's 20,000 yuan, and finally succeeded in renovating the house.
Later, when my father learned about this, he had a big fight with my mother, which almost led to a divorce between the two. In the end, in the face of my brother and me, my father did not make a more drastic decision.
Not long after the house was repaired, my uncle ushered in married life. After marriage, my uncle and aunt worked in the countryside and had two children.
My grandmother has been living with my uncle's family, and in addition to helping to take care of the two children, she also has to be busy with farm work, laundry, cooking and other household chores.
A few years later, my grandmother had health problems, and after a hospital examination, she was found to have stomach cancer. The doctor recommended chemotherapy, and the uncle agreed without hesitation.
During this time, my mother accompanied my grandmother to the hospital for chemotherapy and took care of her throughout the process. The cost of each chemotherapy treatment is expensive, and after half a year of tossing, a total of more than 60,000 yuan was spent.
However, my aunt was reluctant to bear the full medical expenses, believing that my mother and aunt were also my grandmother's children and should share the expenses.
In rural areas, it is usually the daughters who are responsible for caring for the elderly, and there is no obligation to share the medical bills. Faced with this situation, in order to avoid conflicts between brothers and sisters, the mother and aunt had to agree to share the medical expenses equally, with 20,000 yuan each.
Although my grandmother accepted the ** for a while, she eventually passed away. My uncle undertook my grandmother's funeral, and all the gifts I received belonged to my uncle.
After the death of my grandmother, my mother lost her care and rarely returned to her parents' home.
Soon after my grandmother's death, the county began to build an expressway that passed through the village and happened to pass my uncle's house, much to the delight of the family.
Subsequently, the uncle's house was successfully requisitioned and demolished, and the compensation was calculated according to the size of the house and the size of the family, with a total compensation of 580,000 yuan. However, the uncle took the money alone and did not tell his mother.
The news was eventually told to the mother by a neighbor in the village. When she heard the news, her mother went to her uncle's house, but when her uncle saw her arrival, her expression became displeased.
My mother said bluntly: "When I first built the house, I contributed most of the money, and now that the house has been demolished, I should be given a share." ”
After hearing this, my uncle said, "Eldest sister, you volunteered to pay for the house, and I didn't force you." Now we plan to use the demolition money to buy a house in the city, and we don't have any extra to share with you. ”
My aunt also chimed in: "You already have a house in the city, and the conditions are so good, how embarrassed you are to share this money, you don't know how to let us." ”
My mother was very chilled when she heard this. At the beginning, she kindly helped her uncle, but in exchange for such treatment. In fact, the mother didn't really want the money, but just wanted to see her uncle's attitude, but the result was very unexpected.
Uncle and aunt didn't think about brother and sister at all, and my mother turned her face against my uncle because of this. The mother said to her uncle: "Then you can take the demolition money alone, I am not qualified to share." In the future, we will not have any more contacts, just because I don't have this brother. ”
After speaking, the mother went home, and the uncle saw that the mother was angry and called **, but the mother did not answer.
Because of that incident, my mother and uncle have not been in contact for 8 years. Even if my uncle would take the initiative to greet my mother when we met, my mother would ignore him indifferently.
Later, I got married, and the wedding took place in the town. My father and mother were very happy and started preparations a few days in advance, and invited many relatives and friends, but my uncle was not invited.
When I heard about this, I felt a little uncomfortable. After all, my uncle is my relative, and as a junior, I think that no matter how much conflict there is between my mother and my uncle, I should invite my uncle to the wedding.
I expressed my thoughts to my mother and asked her if she would like to invite my uncle. When my mother heard this, she said firmly, "I have no contact with your uncle for a long time, and I do not want to see him, nor do I welcome him. ”
My mother's attitude was resolute, and I did not persuade her again, for fear of arousing her dissatisfaction.
At my wedding, more than a dozen tables of banquets were prepared at home, and many relatives and friends were invited, and the scene was very lively.
My aunt, who came back from the north, also came in person and gave us two big red envelopes, wishing us a happy wedding.
Just as the wedding was about to end, my uncle suddenly appeared. I saw that my uncle was extremely happy, and immediately stepped forward to greet him.
When my uncle saw me, he smiled and said, "Nephew, I wish you a happy marriage." There are some temporary things at my uncle's house that have been delayed, so it's late, don't be angry. After saying that, my uncle took out an envelope from his bag and handed it to me, telling me to go back and open it again in the evening.
I took the envelope and invited my uncle to stay for dinner, but he waved his hand and said, "Forget it, my eldest sister doesn't want to see me, I'm afraid she won't be happy." Let's get together again when we have a chance in the future. ”
With that, my uncle hurried away, and even though I tried to hold him back, to no avail.
After the wedding, I went home and told my mother all about it. The mother did not speak after hearing this, and continued to bury her head in busyness.
I opened the envelope and it contained a bank card and a letter addressed to my mother. The letter wrote: "Eldest sister, I'm sorry, this apology is 8 years late, please forgive me for my selfishness back then." You have given so much to this family, and I would not have lived my life without you, and I am deeply grateful.
Ever since we broke off our relationship, I've been feeling sick inside and hating myself for being too selfish. For the sake of money, I didn't even recognize my six relatives. Every time I looked at the money in the card, I fell into deep thought, and my heart was full of self-reproach. I've always wanted to reconcile, but you ignore me, and I don't know how to speak.
This time my nephew got married, you didn't invite me, I don't blame you. I know that my nephew is still short of money to buy a house, there is 200,000 yuan in the card, you can use it to buy a house for your nephew, the password is your birthday. That's a little bit of my heart, and I hope you can accept it. In this way, I can also feel a little relieved. Hopefully, our two siblings will be able to rebuild our relationship. ”
After reading this letter, I had mixed feelings. Years passed, and my uncle finally lowered his head and admitted his mistake.
I forwarded the letter from my uncle to my mother. When my mother saw the contents of the letter, she burst into tears. After so many years, I finally waited for my uncle's apology.
I said to my mother, "I didn't invite my uncle when I got married. Otherwise, I'll call my uncle ** and invite him over for dinner tomorrow. I haven't been together for so many years, so the family has a good time together. ”
My mother listened, nodded, and agreed that I would call my uncle. I was happy in my heart, and I couldn't wait to call my uncle and invite him to come to the house tomorrow.
The next day, my uncle came to the house on time with fruit and milk.
As soon as the uncle entered the door, the mother saw it and ran over to hug the uncle excitedly, and the two siblings hugged each other and cried. After so many years of grievances, it was finally resolved at this moment, and we couldn't hide our joy next to us.
The uncle took his mother's hand and said, "Sister, I'm sorry for you. Blame me for being too selfish and not taking your feelings into account. After saying that, the uncle knelt in front of his mother and begged her for forgiveness.
Seeing this, my mother quickly pulled my uncle up and said, "Brother, it's been so many years, and I've already let it go." We are still sisters and brothers, so we can get along well in the future. ”
The uncle finally had a smile on his face when he heard that his mother had forgiven him.
My mother invited my uncle to stay and eat, and my father cooked a meal in the kitchen. We all got together as a family and talked while eating, not to mention how happy we were.
In this way, the grievances between my mother and uncle for so many years were finally reconciled. I'm really happy for them.