In people's lives, children are the objects of most concern of parents, and even at the age of 70, parents still do not stop worrying about their children's lives. However, many elderly people backfire when it comes to helping their children and grandchildren. Gift-giving is a way of interpersonal communication, but if you don't understand the wisdom of gift-giving, it can lead to the loss of wealth and favors. The ancients once had a wise saying: "If you don't give away four things, your descendants will be rich." The "four things" here refer toOld clothes, antiques, sharp objects, and things with bad meanings. This article will go through why you shouldn't give these items and provide alternative ways to show love and help.
People over the age of 60 are likely to follow the custom of "don't build a house at 60, don't add clothes at 70", believing that people don't have much to live by the age of 70 and may die before they have bought enough new clothes. However, now that living conditions have improved, the demand for new clothes has also increased. Therefore, sendOld clothesThe possibility is getting smaller and smaller, and it may even cause displeasure and disgust from the other party. Moreover, the old man'sOld clothesOften withFashionableOut of place, its value and practicality are not high. Therefore, we should follow the changes of the times, buy less clothes, and do not give them awayOld clothesto others. If you really care about what someone is wearing, you can buy new clothes as a gift, or simply give money for them to buy what they need.
Antiques are considered heirlooms in some families, representing the family's history and wealth. Sometimes, we will hear some stories of missing out, such as the small pot picked up by Xinshidai was identified as a famous work of the Ming Dynasty and sold for 300,000 yuan. Stories like this make people begin to realize the value of antiques. If an elderly person sells his family's antiques or gives them as gifts to outsiders, what will happen to his children and grandchildren? We should cherish the antiques in our homes, not treat them as commodities, and do not give them to outsiders easily. Antiques are a family business passed down from our ancestors, and if we lose these antiques, it is a kind of ruined behavior for both the development of the family and our sense of responsibility. Antiques often represent the blessings of ancestors to their children and grandchildren, and if they are to be given out, they should also be given to children and grandchildren rather than outsiders. In addition, we should be cautious of some relatives and friends who want to take them away in the name of antiques, after all, we can't determine the real motives of the other party to avoid becoming a victim of **.
Sharp objects have the potential to harm others and even oneself. In ancient times, the sword symbolized imperial power, and only trusted ministers could be given such sharp weapons. In ** and TV series, knights give each other swords and hidden weapons, expressing mutual trust. However, as ordinary people, we live in a peaceful society, and it is obviously inappropriate to give away sharp weapons at will. The injuriousness of sharp objects is well known, and it is not good behavior for us to hurt ourselves or others. A friend's father gave a sword to another friend in the hope that he could use it to learn Tai Chi Sword. However, later the friend fell and injured himself while practicing Tai Chi Sword, and his daughter-in-law took a week off work to take care of him. Therefore, his daughter-in-law was annoyed with the old man who gave the sword and asked him to cover the medical expenses. This story teaches us that the ability of older people to control sharp weapons is often insufficient, and it is a potential threat to the safety of themselves and others. Therefore, we should stay away from those who carry sharp weapons and keep a certain distance from those who receive them. We should also resolutely refuse those who intend to give us sharp weapons.
Different places have different customs, and we should first understand what kind of customs are in the other person's place before giving gifts. There are some things that have good meanings in our hometown, such as:MirrorsIt is considered to ward off evil spirits, but when it goes to other places, it may be misunderstood as transmitting negative energy to the other party. We should follow the local custom and choose gifts that mean good. If we don't know the local customs, we can communicate and understand in advance, instead of acting on our own subjective will. Sending something with a bad meaning can bring misunderstanding and displeasure, and it can even be very negativeRelationshipsNegative impact. Therefore, choose carefully when giving gifts and follow the culture and customs of the other party.
Fifth, the social gift-giving of the elderly is a way to express care and help, but we must understand the wisdom of gift-giving. Giving gifts is not about showing one's status or pretending to be generous, but about genuinely caring about the needs and desires of the other person. When giving gifts, we should respect the wishes and habits of the other person and choose items that the other person likes and is practical. If we are unsure of the other person's preferences, we can check in advance or consult the local customs.
When the elderly give gifts to their children and grandchildren, we should avoid giving themOld clothes, antiques, sharp objects, and things with bad meanings. Old clothesOften withFashionableout of place, and may cause displeasure and dislike; Antiques are the inheritance of the family, if they are given to outsiders or borrowed by others, it is a kind of ruined behavior for the development and sense of responsibility of the descendants; Sharp weapons are harmful, and we, as ordinary people, should not give them away easily; Something with a bad meaning may cause misunderstanding and displeasure to others, even rightRelationshipsNegative impact.
Giving gifts is not just a material gift, but also a kind of giftEmotionof expression and maintenance of relationships. We should pay attention to the practicality of the gift and the preferences of the other person, as well as the love and blessing behind the gift. It is only through true understanding and attention that the gifts we give can truly convey our hearts and care, and make the person receiving the gift feel warm and happy. So, remember, "If you don't give away the four things, your children and grandchildren can be rich".